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Addressing my elders
My parents are strict and I have always been required to answer them with yes sir, no sir, yes ma'am, and no ma'am. I am required to answer all adults this way and some of my friends think it is weird and they have been teasing me about it. I have talked to my dad and he will not let me off the hook when it comes to respect and manners. He will not let me just say yes or no I have to keep using sir and ma'am even though my friends never have to with their parents. Any ideas on what I should do?
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You're well mannered and there's nothing wrong with that. You're a lot more polite than a kid who says 'Yeah dude'. Don't let it bother you and don't let your friends say its weird. Manners are good...there needs to be a lot more people in this world with good manners if you ask me!
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There is nothing wrong with having good manners. Having good manners never fails to place you above the rest of the crowd and can always be the deciding factor in many situations.
I remember the principle in my sons middle school telling me one thing he admired about my son was his manners. No matter how out of control he may have been at any time he was never disrespectful. If it came down to him having to chose who to believe in any given situation my son always got the benefit of the doubt. His reason was that anyone who could be that out of control, as my son could be, and still be respectful could not lie at the same time.
So good manners are always a plus. So let your friends laugh if they want. In the end you will be the one laughing with the better jobs and better life prospects.
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You will thank your parents for this the rest of your life.
While your friends are making fun of you for having manners, you will be the one getting the jobs they wish they had. There is NO downside to having manners that make you stand out from the crowd... in a positive way.
Ignore your "friends" now, and spend the rest of your life being REALLY glad that you listened to your parents.
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Shrug off your friends comments.
It is weird to them, it's not what they are used too. If you let it bug you, they'll keep teasing you.
If you acknowledge it as a part of who you are, part of who your family is, then you'll be being polite to your elders (more polite then most will expect) and you're confidence will stand out in the best ways, rather than the differentness of it.
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Listen to your parents!
Todays generation is so disrespectful. Your friends may think it weird, so be it. Your real friends wouldn't mock you for who you are. Their parents may not enforce such values upon their children but it's their children that are openly mocking you for respecting your elders. What does that say to you?
Your parents have brought you up with strong values. There is nothing wrong with that - if anything, it's something severely lacking in society. You should appreciate what your parents are trying to teach you.
Have some pride in how your parents raised you. When you're older you'll be so proud. It seems as though they're doing a great job with you.
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