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So I have this guy best friend...
Alright, I am female and 17 and he is 18 male. We are going on 10 years of friendship. Through those years, we've developed and became so much more closer. We feel so comfortable around each other. I love the whole aspect of him always being there for me, promising he will never leave me especially when I need him, listening to my problems no matter what time of the night or morning, he's just an all around amazing guy. I never saw us as anything more than friends, for ten years he has always just been my best friend but EVERYONE thinks we like each other. Everyone says he's just so different around me but I am different around him as well, I look at it as us being comfortable around each other to be our true selves, not different because we like each other. Of course, we argue and we bash heads a lot but we never go more than three days being angry at each other. We've hung out together outside of school watching movies or getting ice cream together, everyone thinks that's a sign because when he hangs out with "just his friends" they just go to his house and play games, with me, we go out and spend money and have a good time. We had this big project we had to do for school, I was nervous and he could tell so he told me to calm down, he knows that I will blow them away. He also asks me to remind him of things because he forgets everything if he doesn't write it down or put it in his phone, so he always asks me for help with things. All of the people that are on our case call this one 'the big kahoona' it's the biggest sign to them that he likes me, he plays his guitar for me and sings to me, I look at it as a friend thing because I've never heard him play before and for the longest time, he has avoided playing for me and he finally gave in and played for me. We also took a picture together, he never lets people take his picture but he took his picture with me and I set it as my phone background and everyone sees it and squeals with happiness because they think of that as a sign that we are finally together, which it isn't. I also tend to stress over a bunch of small things that pile up and when we'd text, apparently I wouldn't be acting myself and he would completely stop our conversation to tell me I am not being myself and if there is something wrong, he would love it if I would talk to him about it. I remember one time, I was going through something and it was about 2.30 in the morning and I texted him to remind him something, he knew I wasn't okay so he asked me what was wrong and I told him it wasn't a big deal to keep him awake longer and he said "no, tell me if you want to, I promise I will listen" he's just always there for me and I love that about him.
I know it's a lot to process and read and it's kind of all over the place which I apologize for, I just typed my thoughts as they came to me. Do you think he likes me or are we just best friends? If we did like each other, I can guarantee nothing would be done about it because we value our friendship so much but I am curious as to what an outsider that doesn't know the two of us thinks. Thank you for bearing with me!
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I think you once you cross the bridge its hard to go back. I had a very good guy friend and kept him that way. I then met someone who it was very right to date. What you have with this guy is true friendship. True friends are hard to find
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No one can tell you if he likes you or not because he would be the only one to tell you. I must warn you when feelings come to play in friendships it gets a bit complicated. Now the real question how much do you value the friendship? Is it more important than having more than a friend?
I had a friend who told me he liked me and I didn't feel the same way. It made things a little tense. I love my friend but I think of him as a brother and that's it. I've also been on the rejection side where I have told another guy friend of mine that I liked him and he didn't feel the same way.
I also ended up dating one of my best friends and it didn't end up working out and sadly we no longer speak. I know this is just my experience it would be different for you or anyone else. Please think about it and if you feel comfrtable with him talk about. You two are friends you guys should be able to talk to each about anything.
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Sounds like a good candidate for the open position of "husband".
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My advice is not to try and take this relationship beyond where it is at or you stand to loose a great friend.
While it is possible you could have a successful love relationship the fact that sexual knowledge of one another; that is generally part of that type of relationship, means you can never go back to just being friends. Even if you moved this relationship into just being friends with special privileges puts your friendship into a different dynamic.
You have the type of relationship with this friend that everyone should have with someone but most do not. This is a valuable relationship that you should think very carefully about before doing anything to ruining it.
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