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ugh its been about 4 years now that i've liked a guy. i haven't gotten over him not even once. i've tried but it doesn't work. everyone tells me to get over him, but i just can't i don't wanna get over him. i've never talked to him, and i don't think i will ever have the courage or strength to... he is a huge star player on his football team. and he is well known all over my school. i can't just tell him how i feel, but i want to. he's know for 4 years that i've liked him. oh btw i'm a sophomore in high school and he's a junior. anyways if i talk to him i know he would tell his friends. i put myself down because of him, and tell myself i'm not good enough for him. he's kinda a bad kid, well that's what i've heard. he smokes and all that crap, but he's not obsessed with it. and i'm all innocent, i've never done any of those things. i just wish i could be with someone like him. i've wanted him for so long, and i don't wanna go on for the rest of high school waiting for him to talk to me. cause i know that's never going to happen. he's so much popular than me and he looks at me a lot.. i figured that means something, right? and i am not a stalker, k? a lot of people think i am because i talk about him all the time, but that's not a stalker. i am just head over heels for this kid. so please just give any advice that you can to help me get through this, thanks. (link)
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I did the same thing. Four years is to long. I wasted to much time being a secret admirer. I finally found out the guy found out about my crush and did not have anything positive to say about me. I say let him know you like him find out if he is interested if not move on .
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I have been out of work almost 6 months, I am 20/F and only ever worked in retail. I left my job without notice because I was being harrassed and bullied at work by a manager and I am not the sort to seek action about it. What was done was done and I just want a new job, that is full time on a till and dealing with the public.
I am on Job seekers and applied for 24 jobs so far, which is basically the whole town where I live and I am running out of options. I am stuck at my nan's and can't do half the things I would like to.
The only other talent I have is writing and occasionally answering posts on here if I think I can help. However I have problems finishing stories.
What can I do now? (link)
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Some magazines will pay you for short stories. What i have learned in life that they are many answers to one problem. Think outside the box. Some times you just have to be strong and find a way. Also sometimes applications at stores are cold. Call and talk to the manager directly or go in and tell him you need a cahier job. The human aspect goes along way.
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Alright, I am female and 17 and he is 18 male. We are going on 10 years of friendship. Through those years, we've developed and became so much more closer. We feel so comfortable around each other. I love the whole aspect of him always being there for me, promising he will never leave me especially when I need him, listening to my problems no matter what time of the night or morning, he's just an all around amazing guy. I never saw us as anything more than friends, for ten years he has always just been my best friend but EVERYONE thinks we like each other. Everyone says he's just so different around me but I am different around him as well, I look at it as us being comfortable around each other to be our true selves, not different because we like each other. Of course, we argue and we bash heads a lot but we never go more than three days being angry at each other. We've hung out together outside of school watching movies or getting ice cream together, everyone thinks that's a sign because when he hangs out with "just his friends" they just go to his house and play games, with me, we go out and spend money and have a good time. We had this big project we had to do for school, I was nervous and he could tell so he told me to calm down, he knows that I will blow them away. He also asks me to remind him of things because he forgets everything if he doesn't write it down or put it in his phone, so he always asks me for help with things. All of the people that are on our case call this one 'the big kahoona' it's the biggest sign to them that he likes me, he plays his guitar for me and sings to me, I look at it as a friend thing because I've never heard him play before and for the longest time, he has avoided playing for me and he finally gave in and played for me. We also took a picture together, he never lets people take his picture but he took his picture with me and I set it as my phone background and everyone sees it and squeals with happiness because they think of that as a sign that we are finally together, which it isn't. I also tend to stress over a bunch of small things that pile up and when we'd text, apparently I wouldn't be acting myself and he would completely stop our conversation to tell me I am not being myself and if there is something wrong, he would love it if I would talk to him about it. I remember one time, I was going through something and it was about 2.30 in the morning and I texted him to remind him something, he knew I wasn't okay so he asked me what was wrong and I told him it wasn't a big deal to keep him awake longer and he said "no, tell me if you want to, I promise I will listen" he's just always there for me and I love that about him.
I know it's a lot to process and read and it's kind of all over the place which I apologize for, I just typed my thoughts as they came to me. Do you think he likes me or are we just best friends? If we did like each other, I can guarantee nothing would be done about it because we value our friendship so much but I am curious as to what an outsider that doesn't know the two of us thinks. Thank you for bearing with me! (link)
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I think you once you cross the bridge its hard to go back. I had a very good guy friend and kept him that way. I then met someone who it was very right to date. What you have with this guy is true friendship. True friends are hard to find
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I constantly strugle with lifes demands .I work two jobs and I find myself always on everybodys time but my own .I have to work two jobs just to make it .and the economy sucks right now iv been looking for a better job but I'm always over qualifide .and I'm too tired physicaly and emotionaly drained .I took a week off from one job on vacation .and I couldn't even get out of bed to do anything .sometimes I feel like just giving up .but I still keep shuveling the shit that I'm delt every day .its to the point where I hate coustomers because they won't leave me alone .I know that sounds pathetic but its the truth .I finde myself hateing myself .and just don't want to deal with it anymore but I have too .I have to force myself out of bed just to go to work .so what's the matter with me ?? Is it just me or a reason I fell this way .too tired too even finish this . (link)
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I suffer the same way. Even though I don't work it seems in my forties mid life crisis has set in. What helps me is antidepreesant,exercise,and church. Sometimes talking to someone like a license therapist works.
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A 20+ year friend (Jane) and I have been at odds for about a year now because I helped her daughter (Melissa) with a large sum of money, and the daughter has not paid me back as promised and agreed. Melissa also took advantage of her own mother, amoungst other people, and she obviously has mental problems. Recently I lost my job and am in serious finaincal need. It'd be great if she would pay me back, but Jane or Melissa will not communicate with me.
Jane continues to enable her daughter. I would like to repair the friendship with Jane as I miss her, but I don't think I can NOT bring the hardship up that Melissa has created, and she simply doesn't want to hear any bad things, or even attempt to speak to her daughter about the money.
I started to write to Jane, but then quit. Maybe I shouldn't make any attempts to contact her and make ammends? I don't think I could tolerate it if she continues to stand up for Melissa who is in the wrong. Although at the same time, I really miss my friend Jane. Do I try or forget it? (link)
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Melissa is very enabled by her mother. You will never change Jane feelings toward her daughter. I think eventually God will give you back your money because someone wronged you. I would call Jane and I would bring it up just by saying that her reasons are her own for how she feels about her daughter and the its behind you now. I had a situation with a friend of 24 years I was very sad without her. We put it behind us and rebuit are friendship. All frienships have there ups and douwn. hope this helps
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