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still waiting...
ugh its been about 4 years now that i've liked a guy. i haven't gotten over him not even once. i've tried but it doesn't work. everyone tells me to get over him, but i just can't i don't wanna get over him. i've never talked to him, and i don't think i will ever have the courage or strength to... he is a huge star player on his football team. and he is well known all over my school. i can't just tell him how i feel, but i want to. he's know for 4 years that i've liked him. oh btw i'm a sophomore in high school and he's a junior. anyways if i talk to him i know he would tell his friends. i put myself down because of him, and tell myself i'm not good enough for him. he's kinda a bad kid, well that's what i've heard. he smokes and all that crap, but he's not obsessed with it. and i'm all innocent, i've never done any of those things. i just wish i could be with someone like him. i've wanted him for so long, and i don't wanna go on for the rest of high school waiting for him to talk to me. cause i know that's never going to happen. he's so much popular than me and he looks at me a lot.. i figured that means something, right? and i am not a stalker, k? a lot of people think i am because i talk about him all the time, but that's not a stalker. i am just head over heels for this kid. so please just give any advice that you can to help me get through this, thanks.
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I did the same thing. Four years is to long. I wasted to much time being a secret admirer. I finally found out the guy found out about my crush and did not have anything positive to say about me. I say let him know you like him find out if he is interested if not move on .
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You sound just like me when I was in high school. And you seem like in a bit of a tug and war with what you really want.
There was this guy I really liked for awhile he was a freshmen in college and I was a junior in high school. I liked him he was a really nice guy, but he hung out with a crowd that was known as the popular crowd. I considered myself to be average and could never imagine being with someone that hung out with people in the "in crowd". My junior prom was coming up and I thought I would go out of my way to try to ask him. I talked to him online and asked him if I could call him and talk. He gave me his number and I was so scared to call but I did and I asked him to prom. He went to prom with me and it made me so happy because I didn't for once feel like that "average girl". About a couple of weeks after prom I told him how I felt and unfortunately he didn't feel the same way. I felt dumb stupid and said I regretted telling him how I felt. The mature guy he was told me I shouldn't feel stupid for saying how I feel or telling someone how I feel. He said "When one door closes another one opens". Back then I didn't believe him but now that saying makes more and more sense to me everyday.
By you ignoring your feelings for this guy is not going to make them go away. Its going to make you always wonder "what if". I'm glad I said what I had to say to that guy I liked because if I hadn't I wouldn't have taken a risk and put myself out there. And so what if you tell him you like him whats the worst he could say? No? That's not the end of the world its just that he wasn't the one for you. That person will come along when you least expect it!
Don't listen to what your friends say or want you to do. Do what makes you feel comfortable! Good luck!
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You are not a stalker, but you are a little obssesed with him. I definitely know how it feels to be obsessed with a guy, but most of time, being obsessed with a guy is bad because it has bad consequences. Just put yourself in his shoes, imagine you were him and he was you. How would you feel if a guy secretly liked you and talks about you and all he thinks about is you an you do not even like him? We can't always have what we want. The crush that I use to have before was an enormous crush that I used to think about and I was his friend too and I thought I could never forget him. Until I realized that all I wanted was for him to be happy. That is the best love that one can give. You should not put yourself down because you are just as capable as being important as him. First, you should never put yourself down or a guy instead have some confidence in yourself because guys really look at that. I mean, not a super cocky high-self esteem, but definitely appreciate yourself. Who cares if he does not like you if he not the only guy in this world? There are probably a few other guys who interested in you that you do not know about. It does not hurt to talk to your crush and maybe be acquaintances because what you feel may be lust or infatuation and maybe you will open your eyes and see that he may or may not be the guy for you. I think you want him to look to at you a lot or he wants to make sure that the feeling that you have for him is true. Again, you have to talk to him because it would take such a long time for him to talk to him and just get to know him to see if your feelings are right. Remember to act normal; be yourself and that he is not the only guy in the world because there are other nice guys who would love you the way you are.
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