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My boyfriend tells me he'll 'kill' himself
Okay I've been having problems with my boyfriend for quite sometime and there are times when we have these arguments and i tell him how i feel and stuff. He would always end up saying; "I have no reason to live anymore if you don't love or care for me." I always tell myself he is full of crap, but it bothers me sometimes. He is eighteen years old and i am seventeen. He was never like this before considering we've known each other almost all our life. Ever since this new friend he's been hanging with he's been acting like that. I've met his friend too. His friend wants to kill himself too. I've been real nice to his friend and everything. Giving him those talks that he shouldn't be thinking like that. Then when i got to know him real better. He's a big jerk. I honestly think he's a bad influence and i don't know what to do. I'm not a bitchy girlfriend. I care about my boyfriend and i think its a bad idea that he hangs out with him.. What should i do?
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First I don't think it is safe for you to continue your relationship with your boyfriend while he continues to hang out with his new friend. You are correct that his new friend is a bad influence on him. Your first concern though needs to be for your own safety and if your BF is out to harm himself he may harm you in the process. You need to put some distance between you and him.
As to what you should do to keep him from harming himself. You say you have known him all your life. I would take this to mean you probably know his parents. I would suggest you try and talk with his mother when his is not around. Tell her of your concerns and your concern of how his new friend is being a bad influence on him.
For know that is all you can do unless you are sure those two have an actual plan to hurt themselves or others. If you know of a plan and that they are or have the capability to carry out that plan; then you notify the police immediately.
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You can't choose who your boyfriend hangs out with. It's his right to hang out with whomever he likes. So you can't really do anything in that aspect. Is your boyfriend popular? Does he have a lot of friends? Is this guy his only friend?
Sometimes when we have few friends we tend to shadow them and become like them to feel accepted and also a part of something. You said your boyfriend never had this attitude before and yet ever since this kid he's been thinking badly.
In a relationship you should be able to tell your boyfriend how you feel no matter what. I've learned the hard way believe me I'm known for holding stuff in but I realize that I need to be honest with my boyfriend or else nothing will get fixed.
For a guy to say "I have no reason to live anymore if you don't love or care for me" is a bit manipulative and selfish if you ask me. Has he given you any clues that he's serious about possibly attempting suicide? Has he done anything hurtful to himself?
I hate to say it but sometimes in our teen year we tend to be overdramatic about the small things. You should not feel 'stuck' with someone because you're scared that they are going to possibly hurt themselves. What you need to do is figure out if you want to be with him and if you are happy in this relationship. You also need to make either his parents or your parents aware of his behavior because this should not be taken lightly if he is serious. Maybe even ask him to talk to you about how he's feeling or maybe even suggest counseling. Good luck! :)
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First of all... it's not save to have that boyfriend, he is suisidal and he might kill you too when he commits suiside
But ok if u wanna keep him then just say i don't want that you hang with him anymore... and he will have some wtf-ish reaction...
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