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How to dump him?!
I have been dating this really sweet guy and he is my first boyfriend. I have realized i really dont have those feelings for him even though i thought i did. Either i have to end it. He has told my friends he really really likes me and i dont know how to break it off with him. I feel so bad. How can i let him down gently
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I think it's stupid to break up with him for what sounds like no reason. He's your first boyfriend. And unless you have a better reason than this then the fault is on your side.
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Breaking up with someone is always hard to do, I've honestly never been the one to do the breaking up. The closest I ever came to being in that situation was asking one of my ex boyfriends if he wanted to break up. I don't exactly know how to tell you to do this in a way that's not going to hurt him.
But I would definitely break up with him face to face, I had a boyfriend who dumped me out of the blue in a instant message. What he did was cowardly and it really, really hurt.
And the best thing to do is to give him the truth, that way he's not wondering why. Tell him that you thought that you really liked him and now that you're getting to know him and your relationship is progressing, you think that he's a really nice guy, but you just don't see it going anywhere because you don't have the same feelings for him that you once thought you did.
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There's no easy way to do it. The best way to breakup with someone is face to face. It's more respectful that way. You have to be honest with him and if you still want to be friends mention that. Of course he'll be upset but just give him sometime and he'll be fine. Be honest!
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Hey,
I know it's always hard to let go of your first boyfriend, expecially if he's sweet.. so if you don't tell him directly (to his face), it will seem cowardly of you and he will be even more upset than if you just told him straight up. Say you like him, but you aren't ready for this relationship yet OR that you only like him as a friend, so you don't think you could work out dating-wise. Both are legit reasons and he should understand without feeling gut-crenchingly sad... If he does, that just proves it wasn't true love to begin with. Don't feel too bad, there's always another guy for you and girl for him. Plus, if it wasn't meant to be, it just wasn't <3
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Send him a very nice SMS or e-mail
Or just say it in his face that you like someone else more
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