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Confused, what should i do?
At school, there's this classmate on mine who teases me and bully me a lot. Often, he would throw the basketball at me and act as it were nothing. Sometimes, he would also tease me when i look at him when he said something weird or done something stupid. What's confusing me is that no matter how hard i ignore or tell the teacher about his bullying, he just keep on doing. Occasionally he would spurt out something stupid like '*Joanna wants to be in the dance' or something when i clearly dread those things.And then, what really trouble me is that he seems to know when i glance at him and will took that opportunity to tease me to the rest of the day.
I don't really get it, I'm the type that is fat and ugly and don't pay much attention to guys ( I avoid them ). One of his friend told me that i was fun to teased. My friend told me to ignore him and sooner or later he'll get bored, but its been almost 10 months now and it's not helping. I tried to confront the person several times before, but he just wont listen.
I wonder if should just go and filed it to the teacher as a minor bully case......
Help anyone? I'm totally confuse what i should do.
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Well if you have tried everything you possibly can there's is nothing more to do than to report it to a teacher. And if the teacher doesn't take action than go to the guidance counselor. If that doesn't help go to the principal. And if not that then go to your parents and tell them. SOmeone has to be aware that you're being bullied. You have asked him to stop and he won't now you have to get the authorities of the school involved. Clearly this kid is not happy with himself or something in his life thats why he's picking on you.
And anything don't put yourself down like that. Be more confident with yourself and keep your head up!
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Okay lets put this in its proper prospective. Any bullying between a male and female can be interpreted not only as bullying but as sexual harassment as well. His throwing a basketball at you is assault. His teasing, depending on what exactly he says, could also be interpreted as sexual harassment.
Bullying, sexual harassment and on-line harassment or Internet has taken on National attention in recent months. I very surprised by your statement that; "no matter how hard i ignore or tell the teacher about his bullying, he just keep on doing." Teachers have been told to watch out for bullying and sexual harassment. School systems across the country have adopted zero tolerance policies on this issue.
You have several choices:
1) If the teachers are doing nothing to protect you, you can and should go to your school principal and report this problem.
2) You need to tell you parents what is happening at school and have them talk with the principal and demand that he/she do something to correct the situation.
3) You and your parents should contact your local police or sheriffs department and report the assault and sexual harassment as these are real criminal charges in most states.
Personally I recommend going with choices 2 & 3 as they are the best options. The principal needs to be told what is going on and that his or her teachers are not watching out for student safety from bullying or harassment. The police need to be informed because not all school punishment sends a proper message through the school.
Filing charges with the police does not always mean this boy will go to jail, that is up to a judge. He may be arrested and charges may be filed. The police will investigate and that is the message that will get around th school. That bullying,teasing and assaulting others is a serious crime. To participate in such activities can result in serious legal problems. That is the message I would want sent if you were my daughter.
Jail time is not something you need to worry about. That is for him and his parents to worry about. He is the one who bullied and assaulted you. A judge will decide if he is old enough to know better, if the school system did enough to educate the students that these actions were wrong. Based on how the judge see these things the judge will decide on an appropriate punishment.
My concern here is for you, not him., You have every right to attend your school without fear of being harassed or bullied in anyway. This should be your concern as well.
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Tell him to "F" off and if he wants to fight, jump up and kick him straight in the mouth.
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If the teachers won't listen when you try to talk to them then get your parents involved and have them talk to the teachers even the principal. I know this seems drastic but if it's been going on for 10 months and he's bugging you then i'd be ready to do something I know i'll regret. Don't think you'll be a snitch for telling on him you wanna be able to go to school without being picked on and make fun of. Hoped that I could help and good luck bye!
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Hello I just want to say that I was bullied in school too!!! So you are not the only one. Boys will tease you if they are imature or even if they like you, girls on they other hand they will only tease you about how and what you look like or simply because they are jealous. You are probably very beautiful so don't doubt yourself (I always say that im not beautiful and everytime I say that my friends get mad at me). One day they wil say "well she don't care" and then eventually walk away and tease someone else which isn't nice at all. If I was picked on I always left it alone but when it comes to a certain point you might have to go to you school counclor or even you principal.
Hope I helped and just remember don't doubt yourself.
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If you can help it, Don't look at him. Pay no mind, If it's been 10 months then you may be showing a sign that it bothers you even if you don't realize it. Bullies pick on others because they are insecure about themselves. Trust me, Although it feels never ending it you show it doesn't bother you then somewhere down the line he'll grow up and move on. Honestly? By your written description the dude sounds immature and obnoxious. If it becomes extreme and overwhelming then you should try talking to a school counselor they are there to help with that sort of stuff. If he doesn't want to listen then let him make an ass out of himself nobody wants to hang around someone that rats on someone all the time anyway. I was picked on for years and I always showed some type of reaction and then one day when they decided to pull some sort of dumb prank I just laughed and walked away. (lol) They eventually got the hint.
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