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i get jealous when my boyfriend talks to other girls.
I'm 19/f, my boyfriend of 1 year is 18/m.
My boyfriend likes meeting new people, and I respect that. Just yesterday, he met a girl..(when he went to take placement tests so that he can apply to college next semester.) Apparently, this girl that he met was on campus for placement tests too.
So, when I finally saw him later that night, he told me that he hung out with "his new friend Michaela" for the entire day, and that he picked her up from her friend's house so that they could go to the mall, and he bought her ice cream, and they hung out with another couple, his best friend tyler and tyler's girlfriend.
I asked him a lot of questions about "his new friend" because I'm terrified that something's going on between them, or that something could go on in the near future. I trust that he won't physically cheat on me, but I also don't know why this new attention from other girls is so important to him that he had to spend the entire day with a girl he just met. I'm jealous that he spent so much time with her, because I don't even think he made it very clear that he's got a girlfriend to this new girl. I know that if I was in her shoes, I'd be wondering if this new guy I just met was interested in me or not.
So what should I do about this situation? I don't want to be a cranky girlfriend of his that tries to be annoyingly/unnecessarily possessive and doesn't let him have friends that are girls. But I'm so hurt that he wants to hang out with other girls at the same time.
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You should definately sit down and talk to him about this and tel him how you feel, and the fact that your asking this means you have some kind of doubt in your relationship, let him know how it makes you feel and hopefully he'll take your emotions into consideration. Good Luck!
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Have you seriously sat down and talked to him about this? Have you told him how you felt?
I know you believe that he won't physically cheat on you but there is such thing as emotional cheating. Sometimes when we feel we aren't getting something out of a relationship we tend to try to find it in someone else to have our needs met. I will be the first to admit that I have done this in the past. I would be with a guy who didn't quite meet my needs so I would try to find someone who would be there for me not physically but emotionally.
It sounds to me like you NEED to have a talk about this. It's one thing if they are friends but its another thing if he's spending more time with her than you or even bringing her on what sounds like a "double date".
My boyfriend knows I have guy friends and he's comfortable but if I were to spend all my time with just one guy friend I think he might be a little worried. My boyfriend has a couple of friends who are girls but he hardly hangs out with them. If he was doing what your boyfriend was doing I would talk to him straight away and get to the bottom of it. He can have friends but there are some limits!
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He's cheating on you. Dump him and find a new boyfriend. Stop worrying about it.
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First, be calm about this and simply ask him if he even brought across the fact that he has a girl friend is he says no then ask him why. Ask him to be honest with you because that's what a relationship is about if he doesn't understand that then maybe you guys need to ask for advice from an older, wiser couple. Hoped that I could help thanks bye!
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Communicate, Sit down with him and express your concerns. Whatever you do, Don't come across as you are making assumptions just calmly express that you feel insecure. Maybe you two could come to agreement that you could all hang out together and take it from there.
It blows but we cannot choose our spouses friends, If this girl does happen to make a move then your boyfriend needs to be the man and tell her that he is in a relationship with you and it will not go any further then a friendship. If he doesn't and he slips then he isn't a real man to begin with.
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I would tell him that its bothering you that he is spending time with this new girl and buying her ice cream. It's not bad if he has girls that are friends but when he hangs out with them that much and buys her ice cream, i would definitely put a stop to that. Would he let you do that with another guy? Just tell him exactly how you feel and if he doesn't respect that, then you're to good for him anyways. Hopefully he listens to you and understands where you're coming from though. Goodluck (:
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He isn't suppose to do EVERYTHING with you
If he hangs with another girl it's no big deal
Just ask him that you wanna hang with him and *michelle* if he says no, ask him why not... and if he starts stutterin etc. there might be something going
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