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Long distance heartache
20/f this guy I went to college with my first two years we were friends, by the end of my second year we became very close I told him personal things about me and same with him. he became one of my best friends. we never hung outside of school until I asked him to hang out, he said he couldnt because he had a girlfriend which I didnt know. We still continued to be friends, then he asked me to hang out we had dinner he payed and from then on we had dates, he would pay for me always and text me all the time but he never kissed me because he didnt want to cheat eventually we developed to a physical level while he still had a girlfriend, ( by the way hes from ohio, he went to school in pa where im from his gf was in ohio) he went home during the summer the last day we cried and I met his mom who helped him move he said he would come back and see me that it wasnt goodbye I believed him. ( we were both switching schools he was going to school in ohio me another part of pa) we continued to talk during the summer he said he missed me and wanted to see me ( I never texted him.he always texted me) and I always asked when hes coming to visit and he said he didnt have money (from my house its 8 hours from his house) but he worked all summer I started school and hee told me he had a friend who goes to school 30 away from me ( my school is 3-4 hrs from his house) he told me he was coming on a sat and I waited for him.to say he was here and he never called me I cried I ended up calling him days later ( he never said sorry) he said im sorry my feelings havent changed ( he was at school and this point and broke up with his gf a week before, so all summer he was with her they were.together 5 years ) he said I cant do a long distance thing again my next two yrs of college he still gets butterflies.when he talks to me though he said can we.be friends like we used too I said yeah but truth was I loved him so much and I wanted more he said.we just have to talk like we normally did more frequently. I was so angry with him likeif you really liked me you wouldve came and seen me in the summer you know no matter what with money. Next dat I said I cant talk to you it hurts me he said alright I guess contact me whenever you wanna talk like he didnt even try to say no dont do that or anything you know? Its been a month and I miss talking to him, is that weird I miss him eventhough I havent seen him in 5 months? I love him...like why did he talk to me all summer and say I wish you were here or when he was on vacation say youd love it here like why dis he talk to me all summer? And why did he say its gonna take sometime for us to move past this and talk like we used too why is he still trying to hang on to me? Did I do the right thing to not talk to him anymore eventhough I miss him? Thank you
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It's hard to say because you know what's good for you and what's going to make you happy. I was in a situation like this where I was in a Long Distance Relationhip (LDR) and it was tough not seeing him everyday. We would talk on the phone but for me it wasn't really enough. It became really hard and we parted ways. I would talked to him everyday on the phone after we broke up but it still didn't help. I needed to move on and so I stopped talking to him and cut every contact to him. Of course I miss him but it was what I needed. Point blank if a guy likes you he will find a way to be with you. "Where there's a will there's a way."
You have to do what's best for you. How did you feel talking to him everyday? Did you ever feel lonely? Did you have the achy hollow feeling in your stomach? Think to yourself what do you want and what's going to make you happy. Good luck! :)
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