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Religion with boyfriend
17/f
Ok so I'm a Christian and my boyfriend isn't. I'm fine with it and stuff but I'm afraid that somehow we'll argue about it and it'll get to me.
I'm not like gonna try and change him or anything, I just want advice from people who is with someone that isn't of the same religion and how you get through it and how you deal with it.
Thanks!
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You're thinking about the "what ifs" worry about them when it happens. Th relationship is not about religion its about how you feel about one another. Your beliefs are yours and I'm sure he has some of his own. Accept each other for what you believe and there will be no problem. Don't worry about the problems until they come. Just enjoy each other's company for now and have fun!
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Find a different boyfriend. Religion is a major part of a relationship including the extended relationship with both families. Why start something that's strained by design from the beginning?
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When we met, my husband was baptist. I've always been an atheist.
The key is communication. If either of you feels that the other is being disrespectful of your beliefs, you need to speak up and it has to end immediately, with an apology.
For example... back in the first year we were dating, he experienced a good deal of stress and anxiety because he was worried about me going to hell and us being separated in the afterlife, so he kept trying to convert me. I had to tell him that it was offensive to me for him to lump me in with murderers and the like just because I don't believe the same things he does. Or, to flip the coin, I would poke fun at religion and he would have to stop me because it made him feel stupid.
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My wife and I are of two different religions and have been married going on 41 years. Enough said, Hope this answers your question.
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My boyfriend is Christian and I am not really religious at all, it works out fine because we very rarely talk about religion for that reason, he goes to church and knows I won't go so doesn't invite me, simple as that lol.
As long as you both understand each other, I mean, we play with each other, I give him scientific reasons for his religious babble and what not but I appreciate his beliefs and would never truly mock him, a relationship is based on understanding so as long as you don't constantly go on about your religion and he doesn't always insult it or mock you then you should be fine :)
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This is exactly why my last relationship didn't work out.
My ex was Jewish, I am not. If you are religious and attend church unless your boyfriend respects and supports you in your faith I can almost promise you it won't work out. You are young, but for me it was a matter of marriage and raising children. You would likely want to be married in a church, attend church and raise your children to grow up to be good Christians am I wrong? Now the question is would you want someone who were on the same page? Religion is like a support system you want support in your faith, If your boyfriend isn't respectful and criticizes what you do then you really shouldn't be with him. Fighting over it is stressful and over time drains a relationship.
Let me explain something, It may be a little different because I am years older than you.
My ex and I dated for 5 years, It was all good until we started talking about marriage, In order to marry I was told I would need to study Judaism and convert as many Jewish communities do not marry if the couple aren't both Jewish. I studied but I couldn't find myself into it at all and over time I just felt pressured and the relationship was simply not worth the hassle. If it becomes a drag for you too get your boyfriend to respect you, Then dump him now before you prolong the pain. It is fine as long as he respects you and isn't rude about it. However, I think the question really depends on what you want for yourself and your future.
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