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When I was a kid my parents always wanted me home RIGHT after school, I wasnt allowed to join sports teams because my parents(mom was too over protective. In highschool I went to a school almost an hour away because my sis went there and becasue all the students from my elementary school took over the options I had for schools in my neighborhood and I didnt want to go to school with them because I was a "loser" in elementary school and I wanted to start fresh. highschool was great! I made great friends I experimented I went out...Sometimes....and I found my soul mate! Now i do not go out with my highschool friends becasue they are too far, they were still experimenting when i left school and I was over that, and I was so fresh with my bf I wanted all the time w/him. Now our friendship is holding on by a thread, we havnt had a conversation in almost 3yrs and I don't know if i want to continue to expand a friendship with them. i am scared that they have changed and I have changed, we wont have anything in common, they are still single and enjoying their 20's and I hvan't even begun to enjoy mine. My bf wants me to get out and enjoy but I don't know how. Now i am in schoool and i have made new friends, most of them are underage and we cant go out but they are all in relationships and we have alot in common. they live far from me and its hard to plan to go out. I am afraid that I will be left with no friends EVER because my mom never let me live as a child, the only time I expressed myself was when I was an hour away from home. I blame my mom because I feel I never learned how to keep friends. I am great at making friends, i am outgoing ant caring but i have a real hard time keeping them, going out, planning to go out, HAVING A GOOD TIME! I don't want to loose my 20's and than regret it. PLS I want some HELP! I am debating on dropping out of school because I don't feel happy doing what i do, i enjoy going to class because i am with friends and that is the only place where I know we can meet up and have a good time! I love my bf so much and I don't want to blame him in the future, that is his fear. My fear is that I will be left alone my whole life and blame my mom who is alone, doesnt go out and says its becasue of me, she also tells me that my father never loved or cared about me. I want to enjoy life. i feel like the only reason I am still in school is because of my friends but I want to be able to go to school because of my career. i want to know if i actually enjoy the feild or if the stress from my friendships are impairing my judgement of weather or not I want to do what I am studying...My main goal here is to go out and build LONG & LASTING friendships. With my friends now or my frineds befor. i don't care, I just want to learn how to build that relationship. My friends now I don't knwo much about them, but they don't seem wild. My friends befor go out to clubs, drink (i don't drink too much) and hey already have a set group they have always hung out with since highschool. I don't want to get in the way of that. but I want that too, i want to have a friend or friends that when i am in my thirties and have kids they will be there. My bf has friends from his neighborhood who he can always count on and i envy him for that. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell me what i should do or plan to build on my friendships. PLEASE!!!!! (link)
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I am somewhat confused but will try to give you an answer. You mention the first group of friends being in their 20's and the second group pf friends being younger. Are you in college or high school?
I guess in the long run it really doesn't matter.
First of all you can have casual friendships with the older group without getting into the whole party thing. Unless they party 24/7 there is probably time in there to just have coffee or sit and talk with anyone you feel the need to see.
Second, you are putting way to much stock in school friends. Those real long and lasting friendships you speak of usually come about after you have started working in the real world. Some people may still be seeing school friends once they are out of school. Most will not. People move on. They go to different colleges, get jobs, get boyfriends, get married and have families of their own.
So, make friends where you are. While your in school, hang out with the friends of the moment and stop worrying about how long it will last.
When you're in your 30's you probably won't know where half of them are. You'll have made new ones.
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Well i got myself an a class loser who has wrecked my car stoled money from me lived off my disability check broke my finger threatens to burn my house down shoot me destroy my property hurt my family and what few friends i have left he has been in prison for most of his life and of course he was never guilty ha ha. the police wont help until he hurts me, my house and belongings are up for grabs unless they catch him in the act of destroying them, believe me i have known him for 9 yrs and he just dont give a damn, oh yea im in a wheelchair so running is kinda out of the picture. by the way i have 2 teens at home that adore the hell out of him, they have no clue. so let me hear something good guys please. (link)
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First of all, talk to your kids, family and friends and tell them all about this. For one you need the support, second, they have been threatened too and need to be aware.
I know you think the police won't do much. They probably can't toss him in jail unless he actually does something. HOWEVER, you can call them and arrange for an officer to be around and perhaps escort him from your home. Explain that he has a history of violent behavior, you have children in the home and you want him gone. Tell them you plan to throw him out, that you are in a wheelchair, and you expect trouble. At the very least they may offer some advice on how to go about getting it done. It would really be great if you could have family, friends and maybe a couple of neighbors there too.
Hopefully with an audience he will go without giving you any trouble. If he does, well you have plenty of witnesses including officers.
I don't know if this plan would work, but I'd certainly give it a try. Best of luck to you and your family.
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I know I know..... STUPID ME! I smoked pot ONCE and now it could cost me everything. :( How long does weed stay in your system when you use it for the first time? Or does that matter? Don't worry I will never do it again. Please help? (link)
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From http://www.healthcentral.com/drdean/408/8665.html
In infrequent users, the half-life of marijuana is 1.3 days. That means it takes 1.3 days for the amount of marijuana in the blood or urine to go down 50 percent.
For infrequent users, the time from the last reported drug use until the last positive specimen was five to 12 days. Frequent users took 22 to 27 days to clear their systems.
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for the past 2 weeks my left eye has been weird...
my left eye starts to hurt alot, like there is cold air blowing against it, so i always close my left eye and it stops the pain. I Dont know why, but this happens most of the time when im at school. I can see, but it just hurts. Is there something wrong with me? Am i going blind or something? Please help me! (link)
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Regardless of the cause it isn't exactly normal. It could be an allergy of some kind since it most often happens at school.
I don't think you are going blind, but it would be in your best interest to see an eye doctor about this. Your eyes are very important to you. Take care of them by having this checked.
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So I went in the living room after school and my mom was looking at PORN on her laptop. I totally don't know what to do about this. She is old and I don't understand why she would want to see porn. I just feel really wierd and I can hardly look at her. Can you help me get past this? (link)
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(Oh Gunner...I so enjoy your answers. Keep your head down and a belated happy veterans day to you.)
Does mom know you caught her looking at porn? If she does I'd bet she is feeling a little weird about it too.
As the others have said, your mom is human. Sex doesn't come to an end for a person, male OR female just because they get older. If anything, it improves with age. I know it is uncomfortable for you knowing that mom isn't above looking at porn. Its probably even a little creepy! But, she is human.
Your reaction is perfectly normal though. It will be easier to deal with given a little time.
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19/f Lately I feel like a total and utter loser. I'm nineteen years old, no license, no job, no car, and I'm not in college. I graduated over six months ago, and still have nothing. I feel like no one really cares. My grandparents keep telling me I need to join the military, and my parents keep reassuring me everything will be fine. I'm starting to think they don't know anything about me. All I do is sit around my house, reed books, see my boyfriend, watch movies, and play on the computer. I'm in over my head worried about health insurance, a place to live, etc. I've been trying to get my license but every time I take it I get nervous and I've already taken it 3 time. I know. Pathetic, right? My boyfriend has been driving with me, but my parents haven't been at all. I feel like I'm at his mercy and that I'm using him, and I don't like feeling that way. I always tell him I appreciate everything he does for me. I just wish I could SHOW him how much I appreciate him. But I don't have anything. What do I do? I don't want to live with my parents forever, what do I do? I hope to get my license but I always get so nervous. How can I make that so it's less? Please help! (link)
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You need to go into that drivers test with a positive attitude. I know it can be hard to do but you need to go into it with a more positive attitude. The worst thing that could happen has already happened 3 times. If it happens again, you'll take it again. So what? Its nothing to fear. You know how to do it. You will do fine. When you pass successfully...that's your boyfriends reward for helping you out. Knowing he helped.
You are not a loser. You are 19 with your whole life ahead of you. Step back, take a deep breath, and take it one thing at a time. You will not achieve your goals all at once. It will take time.
First you need that license. Concentrate on that goal first. Forget the rest of them until you pass your test.
Do you want to go to college? If you do there are ways to do that. Research grants. Take just a couple of classes if you want to.
Next on your list....a job.
What do you like to do? Are you a people person?
Do you have a hospital near by? If so it could offer many jobs you may have never thought of. A lot of times hospitals will help pay for schooling for medical related fields if you work for them. If that doesn't interest you, there are clerks in the emergency room & admissions office that check patients into the hospital. There are operators who answer & direct phone calls. Cafeteria workers, laundry workers, transportation people who wheel people to their rooms or from their rooms to testing areas. Thats just a few things.
Most people like to tease about working at fast food restaurants. But it would be a job. If you liked it you could train to be a manager. Managers of fast food places can make a lot of money.
Your goal for a job is to just get one. You can move on later if you don't like it. Don't quit one job though, unless you have another to go to.
You need to get out of the house and into the world. Once you do, you will be surprised at how much better you will feel.
Now, to get to this job you may have to get a ride until you can afford a car. You will have to save some of your money each pay day until you can afford something. Depending on where you live, you could take a bus to work until then. Remember you will also have to save for car insurance, and tags. Then there is gas, and repairs. Keep saving a little every week to pay for unexpected car maintenance.
After you reach those goals, you save for an apartment & other goals you might have. It will take a while. You have to slow down & realize that. Don't get discouraged. Look at achieving your goals one thing at a time. Looking at them all at once is just to overwhelming.
Life is an adventure. You are young. Get out there and start living your adventure.
Best of luck to you! :)
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Hey, we all know that december 21, 2012....12/21/12 is a very well known date. i dont understand this that well.. i have been researching on it, i talk about my friends with it and i saw the movie 2012 already...whats your viewpoint on this? Do you think the world is actually going to end of is this a myth? (link)
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Myth. All this supposedly because of the end of the Mayan calendar? Best one I've heard is my calendar ends December 31st. Is that the end of the world?
Basically this is putting some magical spin on the Mayans being able to predict the end of the world. Wonder why they didn't predict the end of their own since they are so all knowing?
Makes an awesome movie though. :)
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I am seeing a LOT of questions about weed and I just want to know why so many people seem to be SO into this whole weed / pot thing?
I guess the answer would come from answering what's it feel like to be high on weed?
Anyone able to explain it well? I rate! (link)
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Since it is illegal I am not advocating the use of pot. I don't think it should be illegal because it has many uses medically that would benefit many people. Like any drug, it has the potential of being abused.
Smoked in excess it is similar to being drunk. Benefits...no hang over, no spinning world when
you lay down. Drawbacks...same as with alcohol. It impairs judgment, can make you act stupid. It doesn't necessarily make you you hungry, but it does make whatever you eat taste very good. So I suppose you could gain a lot of weight if not careful.
I can't speak for teens but most of the "older" people I know who use it, use it for overall pain relief.
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I am really confused about something: People always ask me what I am going to major in in college and I thought I understood what that meant until they started talking about "minoring" in something! What?! I am 18 now and not a minor in anything!
Can someone PLEASE explain what is the difference between a major and a minor in college?
Thank you! (link)
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Modelkate did a great job of answering already!
I only want to add that sometimes people will minor in something that has most of the same required classes as their major.
For instance someone taking nursing classes, will find that if they want to be an alcohol & drug counselor, they already have taken most of the required classes. So counseling would make a good minor.
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18/f
Freshman college student.
I hang out with 3 other girls who live down the hall from me. One of the girls has liked a sophomore guy(Drew) since the beginning of school. He helped her move in to her dorm. I always knew who he was but we never talked more than a few words in a group conversation. Well Friday night 2 of the 3 girls and some guys including Drew were hanging out. We started drinking and my friends left because they're uncomfortable with it so I stayed back with the guys. I had never really hung out with any of them much before but I wasn't ready to go to bed. We ended up hanging out until 5 in the morning.
Saturday night. The same thing happens, all the girls and the same guys are hanging out. The guys were drunk, I didn't have any but the girls were uncomfortable again and left around 11. Me and Drew had started up our own conversation, isolating ourselves from the group and didn't even notice the girls leave. At around 1:30am the guys went to bed, leaving me and Drew on the floor of the common room talking. We talked until 6:30am! About everything, relationships, jobs, family, sex, school, our major (everyone I've mentioned are all in the same major). At 6:30 people started waking up and came out and saw us still sitting on the floor so we decided it was best if we went to bed. He asked for my number, walked me to my door and then he left.
Sunday, we were all working late hours on projects in the studio and I was most likely going to pull an all nighter. Drew, who usually would visit my friend at her desk was now visiting me more frequently and my friend definitely noticed. She had stopped talking to me, gave Drew an attitude, and gave us both dirty looks. He didn't want to talk to someone who gave him an attitude for no reason so he just continued to stay at my desk and ignore my friend. I have yet to flirt with him! And he always comes to me but my friend is still mad. She has a very bubbly personality and doesn't know how to flirt, so I'm sure he's clueless that she likes him. I have been myself the whole time and he hasn't stopped talking to me since that night when we stayed up. Well my friend left the studio at 4 in the morning without a goodbye. We were supposed to walk back together so we didn't have to walk in the dark alone but instead she just left without me. So I stayed and finished my project until 6 when Drew and I decided to call it quits. He walked me to my room again and then left to go to his dorm.
Today we were texting and his response to something I said was "You are sooo awesome, how have we never talked before?"
I don't know what to do. The only reason I haven't flirted with him is because of my friend's feelings towards him but he doesn't have feelings for her at all and her bitchy behavior lowered the chances of that ever happening. She's turning the group against me for 'stealing her man' even though she never told him she liked him and I never flirted. If he likes me, I'm sorry but thats not my fault so I don't deserve an attitude. I thought college was about growing up and getting away from childish behavior and drama.
What do I do? I see them both everyday. (link)
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One thing I know for certain. Some people no matter how old they get, will always act childish.
It sounds to me as if Drew likes you. I think you like him too. There is nothing wrong with that. He was not dating your friend. They are not married. You have done nothing wrong. Even if you stopped hanging out with him tomorrow, he would probably not be dating your friend. I see no reason for 2 people to be miserable and apart, just because an immature girl wants to cause drama where there is none.
College is about growing up. Sometimes people grow up and find that some friendships weren't meant to be. You may want to tell Drew why the friend is being a bitch. Chances are he already has an idea. Either way, I think he is going to say he likes you better.
Have a talk with your friend with the attitude. Both you and Drew talk to her if you like. If the attitude continues, she isn't much of a friend. If she continues to try and turn others against you for disturbing her fantasy world...shes not much of a friend. Neither are those who go along with her.
Best of luck to you. Sounds like you have a good relationship in the works. :)
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18/m
My girlfriend and I have been together for a year or so. I knew her for a year before things became "official" so to speak. She lives a few states away. We've had great chemistry ever since we met. that first year and up until almost 6 months ago, we hadn't spent much time together in person but last July I went and spent 8 days with her and her family and things became 100x better than they had been. I realized I loved her when I realized that I wanted her to be the best she could be, I wanted her to be safe, I wanted her to be happy no matter what. She has said the same for me and I love her very much. I definitely could see spending the rest of my life with her.
About a month ago I just out of nowhere couldn't feel the excitement I had felt when I thought about her. I felt kind of lonely, but after praying about it and pushing away the feeling away, I felt just in love with her as I had been before. a week later, the same feeling came. I was on the phone with her and I just started crying. I don't know where it came from. I'm not a big crier but I just couldn't stop. I felt so empty, as if I didn't know how to love her anymore. I was frightened that the next time I see her (december 26th) I wont know how to love her or how to be excited.
Its been about a month now of off and on of this feeling. but this weekend has by far been the worst ever. I DONT WANT TO LOOSE THIS GIRL! I love her so much, but lately I just haven't been able to be happy.
Is it just stress? is it just that I miss her? I've never felt so bad in my life. She by far is the most amazing girl I have ever met. but right now I just cant seem to be excited about her. Im so lost. Help me! (link)
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I agree with Witty. Your ten years are all about dating and socializing. Getting to know another person really well requires you do this. Unfortunatley, talking on the internet or by phone just doesn't cut it. Even if we badly want it to.
I would suggest you keep in touch, but date other people as well. If it is true love and meant to be, it will be someday. Just can't be right now.
I know its not what you want to hear. Its not the romantic answer your peers will give you in most cases. But it is the reality.
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Do blood tests usually hurt more than shots? Is there a lot of swelling like when I have had shots in the past? I have to have one done and I am like terrified of it! Help? (link)
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I can only give you my personal opinion. I think blood draws are a lot less painful than a shot.
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I'm 19 and I'm a bisexual transexual male, i have a girlfriend, but she's homophobic and says gays are nasty. She doesn't know about my transexual lifesyle. Well i think like a woman, feel like one and i told her i want to get a sex change and asked her if she would still care for me...she said no and that she would leave me
So i kinda have been behind her back with this man i really like, and he's gay. He told me that whatever makes me happy and i should go for it and he'll be there for me, boy or girl.
So what should i do, i don't want to live like this all my life
And who should i choose. (link)
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Yourself. Thats who you choose. True friends won't care what gender you are.
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My bf fingered me 5 times this month. It was my first experience, I have never been fingered before. My period is due to in 1 day and I have no signs of it (i.e. sore breast).
My question is, can being fingered delay my period or miss it? I'm asking as I have never been fingered. Tell me pls.
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No.
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ok so i had sex like only 5x and how do i keep it tight and can you tell that it is. helppppppppppppppppppppppppppp are there anyways i can make myself tighter or how not to loose the tightness? (link)
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The only way to lose tightness is childbirth. Sex in no way loosens thing up. Kegel exercises help
when that is a problem, or surgery if it is bad.
Currently you would not have a problem. If someone (male)has told you that you do, rest assured the problem is with their equipment, not with yours.
Here is a link to info on the exercise if you want it. Trust me though, it isn't necessary for you. :)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise
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I got this phone around August, maybe July. This phone is absolute crap! IT SUCKS. If any of you have this phone too and the same problem let me know and let me know if verizon has fixed it or has sent a replacement.
My phone randomly shuts off. Sometimes when im recieving a call! it's redicilous. I'm getting sick of it... this happens maybe 2 times a day. Sometimes more, sometimes less. And sometimes when it shuts off and i turn it back on, MY WHOLE ENTIRE PHONE IS RESET. All my settings are put back to default! IM GETTING SICK OF CHANGING EVERYTHING BACK. It's so annoying! I saw that people had the same problems on phone review sites but they just returned it withen the 14 day period, im way over it. Any suggestions? (link)
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My husband & I use Motorola phones with Verizon. His phone would do something similar to what you are describing. He took the battery out and put it back in, which seemed to cure the problem. You might try that if you haven't yet.
If that doesn't work, take it back to the Verizon store & explain what its doing. Mine didn't seem to be holding a charge and after a few adjustments, I was told if that didn't help, bring it back & they would ship me a new phone. Mine phone is over 14 days old. I DID however, spend the extra 5 bucks for insurance. Don't know if that is why they were so quick to offer a new one or not. I know they are always very helpful.
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What does it mean if you have white peices in your poo and it floats? Dr. Oz listed it as something you should get checked out but I don't want to over react. Than again I don't want to be too late. I heard it was the fat that makes your poo white but the gas that makes it float. So why does it matter? And what should I do? If i go to the doctor what do i say??? "Hey doc my poop floats what does it mean???" My doctor is ALWAYS VERY busy and I end up going to an intern at her clinic, so I do not know the doctor very well and he does not know me... WHat should I DO! (link)
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There are actually quite a few reasons for floating feces. Dr Oz is one smart guy. If he says see your doctor then you really should.
Seeing an intern is not a big deal. He/she will have your medical information in your chart. There is nothing wrong with telling him/her just as you did here!
For more info, check this site.
http://www.healthline.com/adamcontent/stools-floating
For LOTS more info, check out this search.
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I'm a 22 year old female, my boyfriend is 24. We've been dating for about 10 months now. We are exclusive. I recently moved back home with my mother in Los Angeles. I was in San Francisco. My boyfriends still in San Francisco, but his family lives in Irvine. I'm not really sure if he thinks we're going to be together for long. He told me his mom said I can't go to Utah with his family for Thanksgiving. That really hurt me a lot. He also isn't coming down for my birthday because he says he has to study for school. The thing is my birthday is on a Saturday and he has the Friday and Monday off. He didn't come to my graduation and my mother's birthday. He didn't invite me to his White Coat ceremony. The day after, I went with him and his family wine tasting. His cousin asked me why I didn't go to the White Coat ceremony and he answered that I was working. I was working, but only because he didn't invite me to the White Coat ceremony. Valentines day was terrible because he said he was going to do something special, but we ended up spending it sitting around and going to sizzler with his roommates. I doubt I will be invited to his parents home for Christmas. There was always an excuse of his mother said he can't go or he has to study. He says he loves me and cares about me, but I'm starting to see that he doesn't include me in his life. Am I overreacting? Is this normally how people treat their girlfriends? I was in a serious relationship in the past and it was different. (link)
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You're not overreacting at all. If this is how you are treated after 10 months, I'd say its pretty much over between the two of you. I'm sorry. I mean he is not even asking you to events, he just says your working. He is making no attempts to see you.
I'm willing to bet that if you suggested breaking up, he wouldn't even argue with you. The man is 24 years old and his mother is running his life telling him when he can go somewhere and when he can't? If true, that's just creepy.
I know its not what you want to hear, but I have to advise that you find someone who gives you the attention you deserve. This guy is not him. :)
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How long do hickeys last? I mean like on average? Have you had a hickey? How long did it take before it was safe to show your neck around your mom and dad? LOL! (link)
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Thats hard to say. It depends on your body. Hickeys are bruises. It takes them awhile to heal. They slowly fade as all bruises do.
So, if you have had a bruise before...and who hasn't? However long it took it to heal will give you a good idea about how long you will have your hickey.
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Can someone tell me why i am so gassy? I don't get it! i didn't change anything that i eat i am just gassier than I have ever been in my entire life. Could this be something serious? (link)
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Its probably nothing to be concerned about. If it continues and becomes really irritating though, consult your doctor.
Keep in mind that gas is not only caused by what you are eating. It can also be caused by HOW you are eating. Have you been eat quickly and on the go lately? It could be you are inhaling more air while eating these days. :)
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