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gender confusion
I'm 19 and I'm a bisexual transexual male, i have a girlfriend, but she's homophobic and says gays are nasty. She doesn't know about my transexual lifesyle. Well i think like a woman, feel like one and i told her i want to get a sex change and asked her if she would still care for me...she said no and that she would leave me
So i kinda have been behind her back with this man i really like, and he's gay. He told me that whatever makes me happy and i should go for it and he'll be there for me, boy or girl.
So what should i do, i don't want to live like this all my life
And who should i choose.
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First off, I want to say that I've had a bit of experience with the whole trans community. I recently came out to a few select friends as a female to male transboy. So, I can understand the sort of problems you might be going through. With all the stress the transition can cause, you don't want the added stress of this girl and your relationship.
You should be with who makes you happy and who you don't have to hide who you are from. A partner should love you for you. For all of you. Not just the part they can pick and choose.
If this guy says he's there for you, I vote that he's at least worth the shot. If you've been going behind your girlfriend's back though, I think you're only hurting everyone. You can't truly be with this man if you're still dating this girl. And you're hurting this girl by going behind her back. Right now, it's a no-win situation.
I know it sounds corny, but go with your heart.
I wish you the best, and hope this helps somewhat.
--Cameron
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The guy is right, it's your life and your happiness, if you don't want to be who you are just because you know the chick will be disgusted that's wrong. The girl is very stupid, if the guy will love you no matter what, go for it, if you feel comfortable with it. Some people go throughout there whole life not finding love.
Good luck^^
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..............I say CHOOSE YOU...............
Dude, gender confusion is one thing, but sex change is SERIOUS.
But first things first, the girl is clearly not for you. She is homophobic and you are clearly behaving like a gay guy by sleeping with a gay guy so you should drop her. Just like that. After all, HOMOPHOBES are NASTY, right.
Now if being with a guy makes you happy, then try that for a while before you do the CHOP CHOP STUFF STUFF. That can't be reversed.
Besides do you have any idea the money and time and psychiatrists and surgeons it takes to turn a healthy boy into a psuedo non orgasmic female.
Just be yourself. Keep your body the way it is. You're beautiful the way you are man...that's my advice...
You could also watch "Priscilla Queen of the Desert" and "Torch Song Trilogy" with Harvey Fierstein. "Cat on a Hot Tin Roof" with Elizabeth Taylor might even do you some good.
Drink some cocoa and lay in bed with your man while you watch them.
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It takes a lot of courage to "come out of the closet" to your girlfriend. I give you props!!! When it comes to these decisions, it's up to you. Like what your crush said, "Whatever makes you happy, go for it". I would say the same thing also. Only you have the right to control your life. If you keep that in mind, nothing else matters.
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You deserve someone better then her whose going
to support you and your decisions i'd dump the girl seeing as she isn't being supportive seems like she's being judgemental and judging you just
allow her to leave you then date the boy do what makes you happy it's your life you can do whatever
you please and make whatever decisions you choose you should go for it it's worth a shot there's no harm in trying it's better then not doing anything at all and regretting it later :)
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Yourself. Thats who you choose. True friends won't care what gender you are.
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Go for the person who will stand by your decisions and let you be who you are.
If this girl is bringing you down like this, she can't really love you and care about you, and you shouldn't have to hide parts of your life from her. Eventually this is going to get you down, you don't want to live a lie.
The man you're with sounds like a great guy, one who will support you always.
Whatever you choose, and whatever your sex, don't be afraid to be yourself. If you think and feel like a woman, embrace it. To hell with people who don't like it.
Hope this helps -
Love,
Pollux
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do whatever will make you happy(: if i were you i would forget about that chick, get your sex change, and maybe start seeing that guy. he suports your decisions and she dosn't.
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