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Hello im 18/f and im a freshmen in college. I am going to school to become an lpn nurse. I was super excited when this winter semester and i told myself how i was going to study and get excellent grades. Now almost half way thru the semester im slacking big time. Failing all of my tests not caring anymore. Like i have a test on monday and i told myself im going to study but i know im not going to. I just dont care to i guess you could say. I've always been an average student getting like Bs and Cs. I have no ambition to do anything with my life anymore really. To me its like well if i fail these classes i failed sucks for me. Just dont really care and i want to get that care back. Is there anyway i can do this? Any tips on how to become a better student. I really do want to become a nurse i just dont want to do any work to become one. I know that you cant do that! Anything would be helpful!
-Thanks I rate! (link)
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That's how it is but you just need to be patient. Just keep in mind that you will have to go through obstacles to reach your goals. To become a better student, you need the patience and you need to focus on your goals. My sister was going through the same thing and now she's doing better. Just focus on what your doing and you should do better in the long run.
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Hi, I', 15/f (16 in april)
I've been friends with this guy since we started high school 3 years ago. We went out for about 2 months in 2007-2008 but i hardly ever saw him during that time, i tried to see him but he never showed up. So i dumped him after a while and our relationship stopped. Then last year we were put in the same classes and our realtionship started up again and we became best friends. Now i've started having feelings for him again but i don't know how he feels or if i want to act on these feelings because i don't want to jeopardize our realtionship again, and i think it might be really awkward like last time.
I'm just really confused.
What should i do? (link)
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Why don't you two just talk. It's the past and it's long over. As long as you guys have communication, things shouldn't feel so awkward. If you two are too quiet towards eachother, it's going to be to obvious. Just have a friendly conversation. Greet him!!!!
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what should i do.. there is this girl that i became a friend and then we fell for each other.. we open up our feelings and we have the same, she said that she loves me and i love her too but all of a sudden she has change and said that she is not yet ready for a relationship.. (link)
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I don't think she lost interest in you. She still loves you but she is still not ready to go to the next level yet. Just give her some time. That's how it is. She said she "still not ready yet" so you still have a chance!!! Don't lose hope!!!
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I've been depressed as long as I can remember. Sure, there are some times when I'm not as horribly upset with life as others, infact sometimes I'm happy. But I always fall back into my slump. I've struggled with cutting, and yes I do feel that cutting has made me even more depressed in the long run. I'm working on that, and I haven't cut since I think September.
Part of my depression comes from the fact that I cannot be social unless I'm under the influence of something, anything. Alcohol, Marijuana, and one time Oxycotton have allowed me to be more social in environments where I don't feel comfortable. When I go places I don't know a lot of people, I drink ONLY because it's social.. I don't really do it cause I enjoy being drunk. I smoke because I like to, I drink because I can loosen up. Both however allow me to be a less awkward person. I do not blame my depression for my drug use, although maybe it is the reason? I just wanted to know how I can allow myself to ease off of drinking, smoking or taking pills to get more out there.
My mom knows I smoke. My mom knows I drink. My mom knows I'm depressed. My mom knows I'm bipolar. I've gone to counseling, I've been on medicine. Nothing works. Is my drug use linked to my depression? Probably, I'm not proud looking back on the fact I do drugs. I'm not proud of the fact that I lie to get money, or that I am literally playing with life until it breaks.
I need help out of my depression, anything goes. Don't feel the need to censor what you're saying, I really want to know what you think. (link)
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Doing drugs will not do any good to your health, even to deal with your depression. If you want to cure your depression, you should go see a therapist. Maybe you're just holding back your problems. It's time you express it to a professional. Just let it all out. It really makes a difference.
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Okay so I just got back together with my ex-boyfriend yesterday. Yesterday for some reason I didn't feel right and I cut myself. I haven't cut myself for about a year and for some reason yesterday I did. I tried to tell him on the phone but I couldn't. I don't know what to say or do...anyone have advice on how to tell him? (link)
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The only way to solve your problem is to tell him. Keeping secrets from him can put your relationship with him in jeopardy. You should also consider seeing a therapist for your problem because cutting yourself is a fatal way of dealing with your problems.
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I am a sophomore in high school. How can i make friend in my classes where i have junior and senior classmates? (link)
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Just be yourself. Be noticeable. As long as your comfortable with yourself, everything should go well. Show personality!!
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hey so i'm going for my first photoshoot in a week and i was wondering if anyone had any tips for me? not to brag or anything but i have a really pretty smile but i don't really know how to make any other face without looking bad..lol so any advice? and any advice in general? (link)
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My advice for you is to just be natural. Natural beauty is the main focus for photographers. Your facial expressions should come from within other than just smiling. Just be natural.
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My Boss has always been really rude with me from the beginning, and now I'm on the verge of being fired soon. I just think I should resign from the job because I feel terrible by the end of my workshift (please read my additional notes, so I can explain in detail). (link)
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Don't quit your job because of your boss. "If you let people bring you down, you will not go farther on in life". I always keep that in mind when things get rough with me and someone. It may be hard to deal with but giving up will not get you anywhere. I've given up so much time and it got me nowhere to where I want. In order to succeed, you need the patience. Just take you boss's rage and turn it into an advantage for yourself. If you withstand her, you will become stronger and nothing will matter. Just focus on yourself and everything will be fine for you. Hope that helps!!!
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I am studying abroad in China for college... I need any tips or suggestions for going to China.
Can I use my phone?
An adaptor/converter for electronics?
Certain colors to wear or not wear?
Is there a variety of american food to eat there?
Friendly?
Clean?
Those are just some ideas, any tips are welcome (link)
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My tip for you is to make sure that you are ready to study at a foreign country. Study their culture and learn their national language. That's the most important advice if you are planning on taking your life to a new environment. Just research so that you will be ready!!! : )
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i want to loose weight (ahah typical)
i started a routine will this work to getting the slim figure i want?
-healthy cereal for breakfast
-small meal for lunch(ham sandwich)
-a fruit (apple)
-20-30 mins of excercising
-and a small dinner
not eating any junk food or chocolate or anything like that and only drinkin water? (link)
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That's a good plan for losing weight. Just watch the calories. There are also other beverages you can drink other than water. Natural juices can help like vegetable juice. Just eat right and exercise. You got it!!!
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does anyone know some really sad songs,
like ones that you listen to by yourself when your sad and sometimes even make yu cry?
just for a friend who likes sad songs
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Because of you by Kelly Clarkson, Hymn to the sea by James Horner, I'll be there by The escape club, Heaven by DJ Sammy, the one with the little girl talking in the background reminiscing after the loss of her father on September 11.
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i am a 16 year old female and I'm gay. It's a girl I like that i knew for a few years now. She's not gay though but she said she'll think about it for me. It's been a few weeks and I want to see where we stand now. i want to know if she wants to continue being friends or if she wants more from our relationship. How do i ask her this without me sounding so desperate and without making her feel forced into the situation? (link)
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Just give her some time to think about it. She'll speak up when she's ready.
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for the past week i hardley ate- just coffee and celery and a little chicken then today i went crazy and had A LOT of cereal, brownies, apple crunch thing and chicken.
will i gain weight?
will this make a difference?
how do i loose it?
if i go back to starvation will this go away? (link)
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It's not healthy to starve yourself to lose weight. Eating right will make a difference and also exercising. That is the most healthiest way of staying fit and right. If you starve yourself, your just going to make more damage to your body.
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17/f
I've always had very strange dreams, but lately it's getting to be too much. I have nightmares quite often and I wake up in the middle of the night feeling terrified. I'm a really happy person so I don't see why I'm having these nightmares. I do watch TV before I go to bed but I turn it off while I'm sleeping.
How can I not have nightmares?
Thanks! :) (link)
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The best solution is to relax yourself before going to bed. Maybe you're just thinking too much so you should clear your mine. Do slight mental workouts like meditation to ease the pressure. You should also look for more solutions on google and search "how to avoid nightmares?". In general, mental workouts usually helps. Hope that helps you out!!!
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I have been very confused lately.. Very stressed, actually always stressed and angry but what's really getting to me, is that I hallucinate, and I am not sure how to face it or ask for help or I don't know what the hell is wrong with me, like is this real hallucination or just my brain playing tricks on me.
You know when you watch a scary movie at night and you imagine someone passed by you.
It happens to me a lot you know, it's normal but it's been a month I don't just see shadows in the dark no I see it in the morning, I hear voices from cracks to laugh to squeals but that isn't all sometimes i am just hanging out on the couch and I feel it vibrate which is crazy because it lasts so long that I can believe there is an earth quake but its only the couch, and sometimes my bed.
You can call me insane/crazy because I think I am crazy
And if it helps I had drug abuse past, like LSD, purple hazel, speed. Stuff like that. Should I see a doctor or is this perfectly normal and my brain is just playing tricks on me. (link)
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In your case, you should go see a doctor so you can learn more about your symptom. It's a pretty intense case. Just go see a doctor.
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15/f
(Sorry, it's long. The last paragraph has the actual question--the first paragraph is just the backround story)
Okay, I know I'm kind of young to be saying this but about two years ago I fell in love. Not teenage girl crush type of love, the real love. I fell in love with my best friend. We were friends since I was nine and he was ten. When I turned 13 we started growing feelings towards each other. Last year, on my 14th birthday, he asked me to be his g/f and, of course, I was ecstatic and said yes. We fell in love. I couldn't go one day (literally) without hearing his voice. He was my whole life. He was everything too me. I knew he was the one, there was (is) no life or happiness without him. Last year on the first day of summer, he gave me a promise ring and told me that no matter what I would be his love. I was so happy with him. I felt like my life was complete before it even started. I turned 15 and things were going great until he told me he was moving to new york. I couldn't stop crying. Every second I could spend with him was precious. Finally, he moved and I felt like my life was temporarily over (I knew he would come back for me someday). On september 22 I got a really sweet email. I had to leave so I didn't have time to reply. The next night, I went back to my emailing list to reply when I saw an email from his brother. I opened it first.
He died, Sep. 23 at approximatly 9:23 PM. It felt like my heart stopped beating. I thought Every one told me things would get better, time heals everything. Things have gotten better, externally. But internally, it finds worse every second without him. Like I'm falling and every one that's around me is just watching. I don't know what to do. I've been on a few dates but there is no guy that I am attracted to. It's not that they aren't attractive, but they aren't him. What do I do? I don't want to tell anyone because I don't want to stop hurting emotionally--the pain is the only thing I have left--but I want to be able to like a guy or even just form some kind of relationship with a guy. Can anyone please help me? (link)
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Oh my gosh I'm so sorry about your loss :( !!! I understand how you feel and it's really hard to let go of the one you really love. Since it's so sudden, just give yourself sometime off from dating until your ready again. Your bf wouldn't want you to live a very miserable life. He would want you to move on and find your happiness because that is all that matters now for you and him. He still proud of you because you were a really great person to him in life. Maybe you're just not ready yet because that news is too sudden. Just give yourself time to enjoy your surroundings and bring yourself back up because your boyfriend would be very proud of you. Again, I am really sorry for your loss!!!
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please dont judge me but im 17 and living in new jersey... is there any way i can get an abortion without telling my parents? and how expensive are then? They'd kill me if they found out... (link)
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To be honest girl, abortion is considered murder. If you abort your baby, you will have bigger regrets than what you have right now and you won't be able to change what you have done. It will haunt you for the rest of your life. Just letting you know.
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There's this one girl thats at this after school tutoring thing at my high school. I find her really attractive and I like to keep imagining she's my girlfriend and and I like going to the tutoring thing even when I don't need help just to see her. Do I have a crush on this girl? I've never had a crush before so I don't know. (link)
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A crush is usually a short lived infatuation with a person and love is more deep. In your case, It's probably just a crush. If you love someone, you will give them the world but if you have a crush, you're just attracted to them in many ways.
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I am a naturally extremely passive person. I let people walk all over me and rarely stick up for myself. Having to say excuse me to someone even makes me nervous. I have no problem asserting myself to my friends. How can I be assertive? I don't really want to be aggressive either, which I can be towards my parents and a particular teacher. Furthermore, the thought of even asserting myself makes tears well up in my eyes a bit, so any advice on not bursting into tears when defending myself would be useful too! (link)
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In order to be assertive, expose yourself or in other words, be yourself. That is the number 1 approach to everyday life. There is no other way to gain assertiveness than just being who you are.....
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there's so many things in my head right now. my grades are slipping. i'm constantly pressured by my parents to work harder and harder...and well harder. don't tell me to speak with my parents because i did, [countless times] and they just say that i'm not trying hard enough and i'm worthless. yes worthless. i am a worthless and lazy s.o.b to their eyes.
i'm constantly feeling tired. i can hardly keep my eyes awake in school.
i feel sad all the time. all the activities i used to do is nothing to me now.
everything is like a blur.
my health problem is currently worsening and i'm sick and tired of being sick all the time.
i just dont want to talk anymore.
i just want to be left alone.
sometimes i just want to get everything over with.
i've contemplated of being depressed but if my parents found out i'm seeking help...they'll kill me.
i do not know what to do.
friends are deserting me cause i just don't want to talk anymore. i dont want to hang out. i dont want to do anything ...but sit there. (link)
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When I have those problems, my solution is to workout. The more you workout, the more active your brain becomes and it also refreshes your mind. Yoga reduces stress so why don't you give it a try.
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