A Bully As A Boss

Question Posted Sunday December 20 2009, 12:38 am

My Boss has always been really rude with me from the beginning, and now I'm on the verge of being fired soon. I just think I should resign from the job because I feel terrible by the end of my workshift (please read my additional notes, so I can explain in detail).

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Additional info, added Sunday December 20 2009, 1:08 am:
I'm 16 years old, and this is my first ever job. I got it in early September 2009. However, I've noticed my boss is unusually really rude with me -- beginning with my first ever day at work (and even my first day of training).

Some instances are: Since I work as a cashier, I have to check the codes for produce before getting my till. Me and a girl both started at the same shift and we went around. She just scanned through and went to the front to get her till. I walked around and checked the codes, writing them down. I only walked by one section where the grapes were because there was nothing new there. When I came to the front to pick up my till. My boss seemed really sweet asking (with a smile). "Hello. How are you doing?" Before I could even reply. She started yelling at me to go back and check my codes because I didn't do it properly, even though I have a sheet of paper I was holding with NEWLY written codes down. When I tried to explain to her, she interrupting me yelling: "I don't care. Go back, and check the codes properly." She never bothered saying anything to the other girl.

Even with my shoes. When I started the job. I was only told at the orientation to wear black shoes. No one said anything specific to what kind, and a couple of the cashiers (I'm a cashier) don't even wear black shoes, they end up wearing their regular running shoes. Anywho, I was wearing my flats, and she yelled at me again to wear different shoes. I didn't have any other pair of black shoes other than my flats (besides my rain boots). So, the next time, I wore my rain boots but they left red gashes on my legs since they were hard(it was really painful). So the next time, I wore my flats again. When I went upstairs to cash out, she started yelling at me saying: "I told you I didn't want to see you wearing those shoes." I told her I wore my boots, and that they hurt my leg. She started yelling over when I was speaking saying: "No, not boots! You need to wear rubber shoes! Don't let me see you wearing them again. Goodbye!" Honestly, I felt terrible. I ended up crying when I got home as I usually do after going home from work.

Anyways, my boss is yelling at me over everything. After a costumer pays, we have to put on stickers on items that aren't bagged. I did put the stickers on the item but the customers ended up putting them the items on the side where the sticker was hidden (I had no way of knowing because I have to be ringing in other groceries as well, and I can't always watch to see how they're putting in their groceries in the cart). Anywho, she would run up to me screaming asking if I ran in the items. And I would get startled like any other person would. I told her I rang in the items, and the costumer payed for them. And she kept asking if I ringed in the items. Then she said she was going to check in the video cameras to see if I really did or not. Anyways, she went upstairs and checked the cameras. I'm guessing by the glare she gave me after she came down meant I did nothing wrong because she didn't say anything.

Anyways, continually. She kept criticizing me and threatening that she'd have to "let me go". If I didn't do a better job. No one else had said anything about my working other than her. And when I did make mistakes it was only when she was there (she brought my mood down terribly, and it's hard to concentrate when she's always standing and watching me and what I do).

So, today. After my shift. I was told that I was 15 dollars short, and my shift before this shift I was 10.06 dollars short. I'm pretty sure I made a mistake last shift, but I'm really suspicious for being 15 dollars short today. Because, when I had pickup on the cash, I was a bit busy and only gave in my 50's and 100's with the coupons. I still had a large amount of 20's and 5's. Anyways, the girl who did my pickup called me and told me I still had 1800 dollars in my till, and told me to tell my boss to show me how to do a pickup. When I told my boss, she was deep in thought and told me she would do my pickup and I should continue with my costumer. So, I she took the money out. She never said anything. I asked her before she left how much money I'm supposed to keep int he till. She said only a hundred dollars. 1) She never told me how much money she took out of my till for pickups. So, I feel slightly paranoid that she might've taken the money out. Because, earlier that day she said she wanted to talk me about how she I called in sick on my last shift. She would've yelled at me for that, but she never said anything (which is odd, considering she usually does over any tiny mistake). The company has a policy that for having 3 shortages over 5 dollars within 3 consecutive, the employee must be dismissed. So, when I went upstairs to cash out my till. She came in the room, and avoided my eyesight (which I made nothing of at the moment.) When I was told I was short on my till 15 dollars. She yelled out to me that I had only 1 more chance, and she'd let me go. When I went down to give my till to customer service, she told me that again: "One more strike, and I'm letting you go."

Using this as a time to vent. I'm upset that she was angry that I called in sick. I called her a day before, and told her that I wasn't feeling well and I didn't think I could it make it to work the next day (I have never called in sick before). She started questioning me on how I knew I would be sick tomorrow (honestly?. Since I felt terrible, and I didn't want to bother explaining to her that my ovbious coughing, sneezing and throat pains were signs of me being sick I just told her that I would call her tomorrow, and let her know if I would come to work or not. I told her a day earlier only because I didn't want it to be a problem for her to find someone to replace my shift. Anywho, I called in sick the next day. (That's what she was angry about on my shift today [for God's sake, honestly. I don't want to be at work because of tears of dry coughs, and blowing my nose, and coughing up on the customers groceries and what not especially if I have to deal with cash, and credit and what not].

Honestly, I talked to my Dad about it and he said it's better for me to quit. I actually like where I work. The workers, and customers are nice and I'm only having problems with my boss. I've become like paranoid that she's out to get me now.
Anywho, I'd like to have some advice and opinion..
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suchsweetdecorum answered Monday December 21 2009, 12:31 pm:
For whatever reason, your boss has made you the scapegoat and it would probably be best, since you are young and it's your first job (and even your father thinks you should quit) that you put in your two weeks notice. How you handle how you exit a job is imperative to your job history. Be the same way you are now, work hard until the end, put in a little extra effort, and when you are done, you're done. There is no need to stick it out until she fires you, which she probably is waiting to do. You don't have to take it and since it's early and your first job, I'd peace out in as graceful a manner as possible.

Bottom line: Don't stay around and wait for her to fire you so it goes on your job history. Get out while you can.

Hope this helps and hope it all works out for you!

-Charlotte

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MissComunication answered Monday December 21 2009, 11:43 am:
well if this is your first ever job then i suggest you handel it very professionaly and calmly if you are angery and rude back you whont get anywhere i think you should either report it to the manager or just quit and find a job you enjoy maybe not set your standers to high but you know what i mean. just find a job you are compfertable with.
lots of luck on getting a new job.

love Miss Comunication. x

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xObEaChbAbEoX answered Monday December 21 2009, 4:41 am:
If I were you I would quit your job for a number of reasons.
1. It's too much stress on you for whatever you are doing that isn't satisfying what she wants. (I'm not saying you are doing anything wrong, but boy is your boss a bitch)
2. After having my first job, I was in your same position with one of my assistant managers. He would scream at my coworkers and make them cry during their shift. They didn't do anything wrong! It would be little things such as a wrong drink came out of the bar and it wouldn't even be there fault (it was the bartender's fault) eventually this particular assistant manager got fired because my coworkers called the corporation of my business to complain.
3. You are going to need recommendations when you are older! Based on your story, your boss is not going to give you one.
4. It sounds like she will fire you soon, making it even harder for you to find a better job.

However, if you really really want to keep your job (which I suggest you don't, you may want to do a couple of things)
1. Call your job's corporation and complain to them about your boss. (Trust me it makes a huge difference)
2. Go in to your work (when your not on the clock and you call before hand to see if you can talk to your boss/manager.) Explain to them that you are trying your best, and what you can do in order for her to be satisfied with what your doing (something to that effect).

Good Luck!

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azndude09 answered Monday December 21 2009, 1:59 am:
Don't quit your job because of your boss. "If you let people bring you down, you will not go farther on in life". I always keep that in mind when things get rough with me and someone. It may be hard to deal with but giving up will not get you anywhere. I've given up so much time and it got me nowhere to where I want. In order to succeed, you need the patience. Just take you boss's rage and turn it into an advantage for yourself. If you withstand her, you will become stronger and nothing will matter. Just focus on yourself and everything will be fine for you. Hope that helps!!!

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sweeethoney answered Sunday December 20 2009, 9:45 pm:
i know jobs are pretty hard to find lately with the economy and all, but your boss is being unreasonably rude and short-tempered with you. there is no reason for her to be this way from what youve typed here. she probably has stress and just uses you as a scapegoat. i think that you should quit before you are fired just to prove a point. even if i only had $5 to my name i would never ever put up with someone like that.

i say just call in one day that you arent workin and ask if you can meet with her. then tell her that you are quittin because you feel that you are treated unfairly. be as professional and cordial as possible so that can 'kill her with kindness' and show her that she hasnt gotten to you.

im sorry about your situation ! good luck
x sweeethoney

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