Hi, my name is Charlotte, and I'm a 25 year old, college graduate. I really enjoy helping people out with anything I can because I know we've all got questions that need answers! I'm available anytime for your questions, and if you need any other kind of help, pick-me-ups or just a little understanding, I have a blog:
http://shrinkingmentals.blogspot.com/
Check it out or direct your questions to me and I'll do my best to help shed a lil light!
-Charlotte
Website: Therapy For Free: Because Shrinks Cost Too Much
E-mail: such.sweet.decorum@gmail.com
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i noticed all mens are the same :'( (link)
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I understand your frustration. But the truth is, not all men are the same. People fall in love and get married every day, and it will happen to you one day. We tend to disbelieve when we cannot see to the future, but as my mother says, life is an adventure, and every experience we have further prepares us for the future. The point is to keep looking forward because life is ever-changing. We all have good days, bad days, good years, bad years...Remember where you were ten years ago and how different you are today. And remember that ten years from now, things will be even more different. Keep looking forward!
-Charlotte
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awww thank you..i just wished it was like that..but is difficult :'( (link)
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I'm sorry. I certainly do hope that things brighten up for you and that you are able to find somewhere in life where you can be truly happy. Just continue to know what people do care for you and where you are going in life. :)
-Charlotte
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thank you.. i think am just going to stay here because am scared i will have to repeat something or take a step i will regret later on...the thing is that is a litle bit hard fr me to concentarte on what is going on in school..and i really want to graduate with my class of 2011'..the subject am having problems is in chemistry and algebra.. i think i need therepay because i cannot concentrate..and i forget things easily :( (link)
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If you happen to have a school counselor, talk to them about what is going on and that you really want to do well in school to finish high school. My theory is everybody needs a little therapy, whether it's to help with chemical imbalances, healing from abuses, or just wanting someone to listen. It is difficult to concentrate when you do not know when you seem unsure about your own environment. Talking to a licensed school counselor would DEFINITELY help. You could always try a pastor as well. They are always ready to help someone if needs be. Just go in and say you need so speak with someone about what is going on. There are plenty of people in the world around us that make it their occupation to help people whenever and wherever in life.
I hope that you are able to do well in school and graduate from high school so you can find a happier life.
All the best,
-Charlotte
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heyy.. you'll probably see this question later on, but i wanted advice sooner.. what should i expect my first time having sex.. as far as the physical feeling, i know everyone is different but i want some kind of knowledge going into it. like things that could possibly go wrong, or things to do to make it better.. thanks in advance. (link)
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Honestly, I am 25 and still a virgin (waiting until marriage), so I'm probably not the first person to ask on this matter. However, I can give you some technical advice, since I've always thought being educated and prepared is important.
First of all, mentality is the most important aspect. Sexual intercourse is the closest physically a human being can be to another being, so there are emotional aspects that you should be ready for. It will affect you. Be prepared.
Secondly,
A lot of women worry if it hurts the first time. It can hurt, but often, not a lot. Some women bleed a little. The bleeding usually occurs because the girl has a hymen which breaks the first time she has sexual intercourse. However, the hymen can be broken through intense sports or stretched (or broken) from tampon use, but its different for every woman, so you'll just have to deal on that issue personally.
For a man, sex the first time shouldn't hurt.
Sex might be great but it's not a guarantee. Some couples say on the first time they both enjoyed it, others say neither of them had an orgasm, or one reported that they did while the partner did not. Again, it takes a while for you to learn about your body and your partner's. Just make sure you're ready and you have a plan. I believe in waiting for marriage to have sex, not only from a Christian standpoint but because if you are married to an individual who also believes in waiting until marriage, you do not have to worry about plan B, STDs, or even contraception, unless you're just putting off having a baby for a while.
Society today does not make it a big deal, but the thing is, it really is. And you should be prepared mentally, emotionally, and physically for it.
Bottom line: As for the physical aspect of it, it varies from woman to woman. If your hymen is in tact, you might feel a little pain or no pain at all. If your hymen is already broken from sports or something else, you won't need to worry about it. And remember, if sex didn't feel so good, nobody would do it and the human race would have died out, lol. Sex is a personal experience and once you know what it initially feels like, you will learn different techniques to make it better for both you and your partner. At least that is how I feel about it.
I hope this helps you out a bit on whatever you were looking for!
-Charlotte
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i wished that too.but i think its going to be hard..and thanks for caring . at least i know somebody cares for me :) thank you :)....well am a junior in high school and if i go to the dominicn republic and do my senior year overthere and come back for my freshmna year in college i think i will have to re-do my senior year here in the u.s.a and that is something i dont want to do.
what do you think? is there any website that can explain what i have to do. (link)
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I think if you are unsure about the future, the best course of action would be to map out what you think should happen and what you think needs to be done. For instance, if you want to go to the Dominican Republic for your senior year and then back to the US after you graduate, you need to look at how the credits transfer and if your transcript from your high school would transfer to any university you wanted to attend. That would be the best place to start. You may find that it is in your best interest to finish your senior year in the US and then go to university somewhere else in the US. I would look at where you want to be and how viable it would be for you. The only way for you to be truly happy is to take your future into your hands and look maturely and responsibly into what could happen and what needs to happen.
As for websites, I would look up the information to whatever high school you were planning on attending for your senior year and asking them what their protocol would be for transferring credits. Get something in writing. Also, contact universities personally requesting information packets about what their policies are.
My advice, it would be easier to graduate from a US high school and attend a US college than to attend a high school in a different country and then transfer to a US university. It also depends on your citizenship. If you are not a US citizen, the international laws are much more complicated as to what you can do as a student. If you're American, of course, it's not as complicated.
Bottom line, do the research. You have to know what you're dealing with to make the decision. Don't make it on a whim. You'll be sorry about it later.
All the best of luck!
-Charlotte
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thank you very much!!..that was a good advice :)well is true i do need to move on ..i try to but is something that keeps holding me back,i dont know what it is..i wished i knew so i can take it out but it's like if i was obsessed and i know it was really wrong with what he did to me..the thing is that he was the one that was always there for me no matter what and now i have nobody to talk to :( my mom acts like a bitch and my dad is in the dominican republic..i dont like talking to my mom about my problems because she will start laughing or just she wont care..i dont have friends because everybody around me is fake..specially in the town i live in..you cant trust nobody..i think what am going to do is just leave to the dominican republic and stay with my dad overthere and am going to check if i feel better..because am tired of all this am going thru that you dont even know :'(..sometimes i just wished i died,i dont even think they would care :( (link)
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I truly believe that if you're not happy with your lot in life and you cannot depend on those around you, it is your own responsibility (and right) to find your own happiness. If you feel like you would be better suited with your father, then by all means, go there. If you think you would be better off starting over somewhere new and different, than that is what you should do. Do not think that no one cares. If I didn't care, I would not have replied to you. I hope everything works out for you and you find your happiness.
-Charlotte
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I sent this message to the other girl that answered this question. My name is Lee Ann Leggett and I firmly believe someone hcked into my advice column. I don't know why but I wanted to apologize for the question and the rude answer you recieved. I let dangernerd know about everything and was told to change my password...delete the question etc. I just wanted to let you know that question was not posted by me and I am taking extra precautions from now on. I will change the rating on the question too if i can. thanks (link)
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Thank you for your apology! I'm sorry your advice column was hacked. Good luck to you and all your endeavors!
-Charlotte
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hey..i been struggling for 5 months after my boyfriend broke up with me..i been really sad and dont know what to do :(...
here is my story am sorry if its too long..
ok we we lasted 2 yrs and 2 months going out but then he left to the dominican republic and he cheeted on me overdere with another girl...he posted pictures on myspace and when he came back i confronted him about it..he told me that was his cousin..but i actually got to talk to the girl and she told me that he was her boyfriend.my heart just dropped...i cant believe he actually did this to me because he loved me and he did alot of things for me...now he is here and he tells me to go to his house in the night so his parents wont see me ..but its just to have sex..i dont even want to go because i dont like doing those types of things with him...but its been 5 months since he broke up with me and my heart still hurts..its like its carrying a heavy pain..i cant seem to move on,its just hard for me, i try to let it go and not think about him but its hard, and no i dont go out because i hardly have friends here.am always stuck in my house.but can someone please tell me wat to do or do you guys have a similar story similar to mines..i appreacited .thanks :) (link)
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One of the hardest things about moving on from a relationship that we had a lot invested in is that we like to hold on to those "good" times, however many or few that they might be, and we pass over the really important things, like why we broke up in the first place. You went out with this boy for two years and two months, which is a long time to invest in a relationship. But he was unfaithful, which means that no matter how faithful and true you were to him, he wasn't to you. No matter how much he "said" he loved you, and even if he did love you, he did not care about your feelings or what cheating on you would do to you. He was selfish and was okay with it. When he came back, he only wanted you for sex and he knew you would show up, which further proves his selfish intentions.
It's like I tell people all the time, love is an action, not a feeling. We have feelings all the time. They flutter, they stutter, and they go away. People confuse love with passion. Passion comes with love and can continue if the love is real and stable, but if the passion goes away and there is nothing left, there wasn't love in the first place.
I read something a while back. A man was observing a couple who were in their eighties. They had been married for sixty years. The wife was in declining health, but her husband was a complete invalid, with full Alzheimer's disease. He did not even recognize the woman that he had been married to for sixty years. She lovingly washed him, fed him, and dressed him. She would show him pictures of them together and talk to him. Their relationship was long past the stages of passion and sexual intimacy. It was love that kept the woman taking care of a man who needed her but couldn't remember her. She did it faithfully even when he didn't know her anymore. That is love.
Now where does that leave you? You're young and when you're young, passion comes in every relationship. But it is love expressed in actions that cements the relationship.
The bottom line: He doesn't love you, he loves what you do for him. And you may have loved him and wanted to give him everything, but it was one-sided and those relationships are not fulfilling. We want to love, but we want to be loved.
You are worth loving and you should wait for that person who will show you that they love you, not only when they are with you, but when they are not. Like I said, love is an action. It is how we treat someone, what we do to strengthen the relationship that makes it fulfilling.
Find something else to take your mind off the toxic relationship you had. The good times you had do not overweigh the facts that you were taken advantage of. Besides, the good times were wrapped in selfish desires.
Moving on is a process and it takes time. We go through the same stages of grief with relationships as we do with death. We are sad, we are angry, we try to find ways to get it back, we accept it, and then we move on. Let it happen the way it happens, but don't dwell on it. You can't go back and change the outcome.
The bottom line: It will happen when it happens. Find ways to express what you're feeling. Listen to songs. Cry. Write about it. Then pick yourself up and move on. The point is to look forward for that person you will meet who will show you that he loves you and doesn't want anything back from you. Someone who loves you won't require you to do anything for them. They will want to do for you. You will find them. But move on from this bad relationship and prepare yourself for that person who will come along. It's worth the wait.
I hope this helps you and I hope it all works out!
-Charlotte
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So ive been dating this guy for almost a year, and things are going great! Except for the fact that i sometimes find myself thinking im not over my ex.. my ex and i had dated for almost 2 years, so its sorta obvious that it took a bit to get over him.. but i cant understand the reason ,that almost a year an a half later, i still catch myself falling for him... i sometimes think that i ant to be ith my ex again... i kno its not right to be feeling like this since im in a great relationship, ho can i get over this, or do you think itd be best to go back ith the ex, since i cant seem to get over him? any advice is appriciated, thanks! :) (link)
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It is normal for you to have lingering feelings over someone that you were in a long term relationship in. You remember all the good times and how you felt when you were with them.
But you're in a wonderful relationship now and the thing is to remain grounded in that. Remember that you and this other person DID break up and it was for a certain reason, whatever it was. Remember why it was and why it didn't work out.
Just because it feels right doesn't mean it is. Love is an action before it is a feeling. We get feelings for all sorts of different reasons and they are not necessarily reasons to make decisions on. You could have feelings for both men, but in the end, who is better suited for you? Which one was less tumultuous? If you broke up with the former, why was it and is it something to be reconciled?
I personally would try to let those feelings go and concentrate on the great relationship I have now. Your other relationship is over. It is time to move on.
But a word to the wise: If you are seriously thinking about returning to the former boyfriend, you had better be very sure about ending your other relationship. Because if you leave this current man, who you are in a great relationship, for the other and start over, and it DOESN'T work out again for the same reason or something else, you've ended it with two men, and the chances of the second boyfriend wanting you back, after you dumped him for someone else, is very slim.
Bottom line: Make the choice. You can't have both. Either choose to let those feelings go and concentrate on your great relationship, (because those feelings will eventually disappear the more you fall in love with someone else) or do some serious thinking about returning to the first boyfriend, but make sure the feeling is mutual.
I hope this helps you out and I hope it all works out.
-Charlotte
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im forteen and my parents still wont let me out after dark and its really annoyng becasue all my friends can, how could i convince them to let me out later. they know im not the type to go out and get drunk and stuf like that, but i really wont to be allowed out later but how ? any help please :) (link)
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The way to gaining more independence and more responsibility is to show them that you are responsible and honest. If they see that, they will allow more freedom.
If there happens to be a function or event that will go until after dark, ask your parents to go and tell them that it will go until after dark and that you will be home when it ends. Give them a definite time. Tell them who is going to be there, where you are going exactly, and keep them up to date if something changes. Tell them you will be home exactly when you say you'll be home. Say you'll be home at 10:00 p.m. Be there at 10:00 p.m. Or even 9:50 p.m. Don't be five minutes late or ten minutes late. Be punctual. Everytime.
Try it for one event and then continue coming home before dark. Then try another event. Keep showing them that when they let you out after dark, you come home when you say you're coming home.
If you deviate from the plan, show up when you feel like it, don't tell them when things change, if something happens and you're not where you said you would be, they don't know where you are and what you're doing or if you're hurt. They need to be kept in the loop. You can text them, probably without your friends knowing, to keep them informed. I'm assuming you have a cell phone. Or you could call them. Either way, always tell your parents where you are going. Legally, you cannot run around and do whatever you want without their permission, until you are 18. The authorities do not consider you adult enough and neither will your parents. Some towns even have a curfew for underaged individuals. Be smart.
The bottom line: If you show them on a regular basis that you can be trusted and relied on, they will be more likely to let you stay out later. But don't push your luck and start coming home at midnight or one in the morning. Nothing good ever happens past midnight and your parents do not want you running around as young as you are. Because your parents will not sleep comfortably until you are home.
I hope this helps and I hope it all works out for you!
-Charlotte
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Hi my name is Lee Ann Leggett, I am 23, and have published five books. I was wondering if you guys had any ideas on how I could promote them to increase sales. Sales are pretty good and I am being called "the next Stephanie Meyer" but I want to be able to do more. If you haven't heard of me then you don't read much. If you need to look at my work to think of ideas just type my name in the search engine at amazon.com and it will pull 4 of my 5 books up. The fifth was just released and can be found only at publishamerica.com right now. I already made a myspace and I am in the process of building fans that way of. It doesn't matter if you have experience or not, I take all ideas into consideration. I also have typed up letters to send to the film companies so they can review for film production. (link)
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I agree with the above statement. The vampire trend is hot on the market right now and will be until the completion of Stephenie Meyer's Twilight Saga in theatres. However, you want to continue to sell books after the trend is over and that is what direction you should probably be going in. It WOULD be more beneficial to have a website and put your bio, book list and summaries, and where to purchase there, as well as any snippets about your personal life. People will want to relate to you and get to know you. If they like you, they will want to read your books. I would recommend enterting the market where your demographic is. You've got a Myspace, but you can also get a fan page made on Facebook. Get your friends to add you and take it from there. It will happen when it happens, but remember, the best selling point is your books. If people like your books, they will catch on quickly. Stephenie Meyer is not a particularly deep writer nor is her language very complicated, but she took a common idea, gave it an entirely different spin with a classic twist and it's smooth in writing, which is why it is a best seller.
A word of caution. I don't know if you meant to, but it would not be wise to come across as cocky as you sounded in your question above. "If you haven't heard of me then you don't read much" could be perceived as arrogance and that doesn't set well with people. It's also a very broad and misinformed statement. I read all the time and I hit up Barnes and Noble and Borders every three or four days. I have memberships to both stores and I also frequent Half-Price Books and I've never heard of you, but that doesn't mean I won't come across your sometime soon. And you will want to leave a good impression on people who DO happen to come across your book or they won't give it the time of day. The more humble you are, the more impressed people will be.
Best of luck to you!
-Charlotte
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Does Rosetta Stone really work? (link)
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There are several different versions of thought into whether or not Rosetta Stone works. But here is the breakdown:
If you are interested in quickly and efficiently learning a language conversationally and visually, Rosetta Stone is allegedly very proficient. It is very expensive. For each language, there are about 1 to 5 sets. Buying the entire set is about $400-$500. But, NASA, CIA, FBI, and other governmental agencies swear by it, so it is most likely very effective.
Learning in a classroom teaches you more of the grammar and vocabulary from a sentence structure aspect and instructs on how to not only speak it, but learn to write and read it more correctly. It is substantially more expensive than Rosetta Stone, as college courses in languages are $500 - $1000 a class.
The advantages of Rosetta Stone are that you learn at your own pace, you can review material whenever and wherever you like, and you are not competing for an instructor's time and aren't distracted by other students. The disadvantages are that you do not have the instructor's help right on hand to help you should you need it. I'm sure Rosetta Stone has a service to help you if you get stuck, but the point is to teach yourself.
The advantage to classroom education is the instructor's help availability, and the helping and reviewing with peers. The disadvantages are that you get quizzes and tested for credit and you can fail a course without learning it and you cannot go back and do it again unless you want to shell out more money. You are also on a tighter schedule and you're under pressure to learn it faster otherwise risking getting left behind.
For some people, the strict schedule and classroom environment works better than self-instruction. For others, the visual guides and working at one's own pace works better. You should pick the one right for you and that will be the best way to learn a language.
Hope that helps you out a bit!
-Charlotte
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so, last time i had sex was halloween. two weeks later i got my period right. and then now this month i was late for my period 2 weeks late, but i had it for like half a day now its gone? and i been on bc for 2 months only if that helps? idk man im scared cause i don get why this is happening!?!?!?!? please help (link)
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Well, when you first start birth control, your body will start changing the way it has a period. Sometimes it's really light and doesn't last more than a day. It is in the process of manually (so to speak) regulating your body's already natural cycle. Things will be a little different for the first couple of months. If you're having a period at all, you are not pregnant. Only rare cases of women state that they have periods when pregnant, but it's usually only a slight spotting. But, again, these are rare cases.
It would be safe to have an OBGYN check you out to make sure everything is working properly, just to be on the safe side.
Hope this helps you out,
-Charlotte
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I have known this guy on my work. We became very close friends and we were like always together during our work. Our coworkers are always telling us that we're hiding something from them. They thought that we were lovers but we are not. They always tell me that this guy likes me because he always look at me and that they can see it in his eyes. But I'm not thinking that way because I know that he's just sweet to everyone. Sometimes when he is talking to my friends, he is calling them by my name like "Hey Dahlia, oh sorry I mean Katie".. I want to believe that this guy likes me but I don't want to expect. I can feel it sometimes that I am special to him but I just don't want to misunderstood what he's doing. He was always talking to me, always making me smile when I'm sad and just sweet.
I resigned on my work last week. After that he didn't talk to me again. He said that I'm just too rude. Our workmates told me that he's mad at me. Until now, he doesn't talk to me. I miss him and I just realized by now that I have already fallen for him. I really want to tell him how I feel but I'm afraid he doesn't feel the same. Help me!! Thank you so much in advanced.. (link)
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I don't know what the situation was, of course, but I don't know the nature of why you quit your job. Was it because of this gentleman or was it due to other circumstances? If you quit and did not tell him, he may feel hurt that you did not tell him, since he thought you to be friends.
Your next course of action lies in the answer to questions like these: Do you really want to pursue a romantic relationship with this gentleman, or do you just miss having a friendship with him? If you are really interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with him, then do it, but work on a friendship first. If he has feelings for you or is interested in dating you, then those intentions will develop after the friendship is established. If not, you are still friends and nothing is lost, except for your disappointment, but that is still better than losing a friend, in my opinion.
If you quit your job and did not let him know you were, you could apologize to him for not making him aware and that you want to make it up to him. Tell him you value your friendship and would like to keep it.
I hope this helps you out and I hope everything works out for you!
-Charlotte
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My Boss has always been really rude with me from the beginning, and now I'm on the verge of being fired soon. I just think I should resign from the job because I feel terrible by the end of my workshift (please read my additional notes, so I can explain in detail). (link)
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For whatever reason, your boss has made you the scapegoat and it would probably be best, since you are young and it's your first job (and even your father thinks you should quit) that you put in your two weeks notice. How you handle how you exit a job is imperative to your job history. Be the same way you are now, work hard until the end, put in a little extra effort, and when you are done, you're done. There is no need to stick it out until she fires you, which she probably is waiting to do. You don't have to take it and since it's early and your first job, I'd peace out in as graceful a manner as possible.
Bottom line: Don't stay around and wait for her to fire you so it goes on your job history. Get out while you can.
Hope this helps and hope it all works out for you!
-Charlotte
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I have this guy friend, Jim. Jim and I are friends, i mean we don't hang out outside of school or anything, but we talk a lot at school. I've liked him for a long time, and he liked me a few years ago too (but we never went out).
I just started talking to Jim a lot this year, and I really like him, and I thought he liked me too. But then today Jim was hanging out with his friend, and then he saw like some hot girl or something (a girl he KNOWS, and maybe likes??) and was pointing the girl out to his friend. I'm not sure whether he was just showing his friend this hot girl in order to be cool around his friend (cuz you know how guys are) or if he really liked her?? I'm so confused. Another question, how can you tell the difference from when a guy is flirting.. and when he's just being friendly?? How do u know when a guy likes you?? Ugh please help!! Thank u soo much!! sry it was so long
Signed,
Heartbroken(?) and Confused (link)
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Personally, I wouldn't read too much into the situation with the girl. He could have been pointing the girl out because his friend likes the girl and he was just confirming that it was the right girl. He could have pointed out that he knows the girl. You could even be right and he could like the girl he was pointing out. But he could have a thousand different reasons for why he was pointing at her. If you don't know exactly what they were saying, there really isn't a need to dwell on it.
If you like the guy and think he might like you, start hanging out with him outside of school. Start in group activities. Go to movies, grab some dinner, just hang out with friends. Get to know him better. Once you start getting more personal with him and comfortable with him outside of school, try more one-on-one time with him. Ask him to grab some ice cream or a movie with just you.
The difference between friendly and flirting is all in the body language. And really, the only one who could read that would be you. I don't know this boy, Jim, but odds are, if he is interested in you in a romantic way, he will begin singling you out. He won't make fun of you or treat you like "one of the guys". Guys are territorial in a sense, when it comes to interest in a girl. If he is even the slightest bit interested, he will start marking his territory by accompanying you to class, sitting by you in lunch, making a point of talking to you alone in the hallways. When he is sure that the interest is mutual, he will take the initiative.
Bottom line: Be available, make sure that YOU are open and maybe just-a-little-more than friendly towards him. Let him know that you like him, even if you're not comfortable with just telling him outright. Make it obvious, but not TOO obvious that you like him. There is nothing wrong with that. How are people supposed to date and be in relationships if we are all too afraid or embarrassed to show our interest?
If he is not interested in you, you will find out soon enough. The mature thing is to realize it might NOT be mutual romantic feelings, and if that happens to be the case, you simply move on to find someone else to be romantic with. If you handle it in a mature way, you remain friends throughout the situation, no matter the outcome.
I hope this helps and I hope it works out for you!
-Charlotte
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hey! what does partially taken means? (link)
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If someone tells you that they are partially taken, it usually means they are waiting out for someone who is showing interest in pursuing a relationship with them but neither parties have committed yet. Or perhaps they are about to exit a relationship and have not quite cut the cord yet.
Bottom line: It means that they are not 100% available. In my personal opinion, it is a situation you don't want to get into. The person who tells you that they are partially taken should decide what relationship to be in or not be in. It's kind of misleading and selfish because it usually is that they are holding out for someone they want more or they can't make up their mind, and who wants to date THAT person? Or, in a crazy-case scenario, they might have an open relationship where they can date all sorts of different people at the same time.... Again, who wants to date that person? I'd want to be the one and only for someone and have them the same for me, but that's my thing.
Hope that helps you out a bit!
-Charlotte
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i get theses really annoying pop ups that randomly come up on my laptop all the time and its driving me mad how do i stop them ? (link)
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If you are going to certain webpages, they sometimes have popups and enabling your popup blocker usually takes care of these. However, if you are not on the internet and it pops up on its own, then you may have malware or spyware on your hard drive and may need to get rid of it. Don't do this by downloading spyware removal. This will only put more on. There aren't any reliable free downloads to remove spyware without putting more on. It should be done by a professional who can go in and take out the programs that are causing these popups to happen. Or perhaps you can find a friend who knows computers really well and can clean your hard drive for you.
Or you could get a Mac. ^_^
Hope this helps,
-Charlotte
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okay (this is a little long, just a warning. sorry.) so like I'm a freshman in high school, (I'm also a girl in case you were wondering LOL) so I know I shouldn't be taking relationships too seriously yet, but this is my first boyfriend so I really don't know what's going on.
I met him in october, and we were good friend, online at least. we talked on AIM whenever we had the chance. then near the end of october he asked me out. we got along well, but the problem was we never really talked a lot in school. we usually said hi to each other or ask how we did on tests, and I sat with him at lunch once, but that was before we were dating. he said he felt bad that he couldn't take me out becaue he didn't have enough money, and I offered him that I could pay but he said that's not right.
so anyway its been almost a month that we haven't spoken and my friends are bothering me about it. I don't wanna end it with him because I think we have something, but maybe it was just too rushed since we've only known each other for like 3 and a half months. and also, he's never on AIM anymore, and he's barely on facebook, so I can't even talk to him like that. and I have 3 classes with him at school, and sometimes we just give each other these blank glances, but not in a bad way. and sometimes when we say something funny we turn and laugh at each other. otherwise, we don't say anything, so I have no idea what's going on between us. just say what you think, as long as it doesn't pretain to punching him in the face and dumping him like a total ass. :P
so yea, thanks if you answer. :) (link)
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In my opinion, if you want to salvage this relationship, you have to talk to him. Find him at lunch and say you would like to talk to him. Don't use sentence structure like "you said" or "you did" or "you never". He might consider it an attack. Ask him if everything is going on well in his life. Try saying that you miss him and wish that you both would spend more time together or hang out more. If he wants to keep your relationship, he will speak up. If he doesn't say much and is closed off, you might just want to consider ending it with him. If you do not communicate, you do not have a relationship. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be happy, and how much fun will you have in a relationship if you don't even see or talk to him?
Bottom line: Try talking to him or consider breaking up with him and finding another guy who wants to be with your awesome self!
Hope this helps and hope it all works out!
-Charlotte
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Well, I'm thirteen and my friend has a boyfriend, and I liked this guy and then I found out that my friend liked him too. So this guy asked me out and then the day he asked me out he was telling me that he loved me. I was shocked and didn't reply back to him. Then, two days later my friend and I called him and he was being very shy and quiet. So, then we both were not speaking because he wasn't and he said "God, ya'll are so quiet do you even have personalities?" We started laughing so hard. Then he hung up and she told me that she really didn't like him anymore, and I asked her if I should break up with him. She said that I should. So I only did because I didn't want to loose our friendship over a boy she doesn't like. So, I broke up with him, and then the next day, he liked my bestfriend and was telling her he loved her, but she has a boyfriend and I told her boyfriend that she was cheating because she said that she loved him too. He dumped her and then she was all sad and the next day she said "I don't like Jake anymore" Then, her ex boyfriend asked her out again and she said yes. So they are going out for about two hours right, then she is back with my ex boyfriend. I get so mad at her and we get in huge fights about how I shouldn't have broken up with him and how she was jealous that I was dating him, and now we hate eachother. I really need help with this situation. I want my bestfriend back, but then we apologized and she made a deal that neither of us date him, but the thing is, I really like him, but I want to stay friends with her. What should I do? Please I really need help.(Sorry that this is so long.) (link)
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Let me make sure I have this right:
You and your best friend both liked the same boy. This boy asked you out and said he loved you. You had a phone conversation with him together, after which your friend stated that she didn't like him anymore. You asked if you should break up with him and she said yes. The next day he tells your best friend that he likes her, even while she already has a boyfriend. You tell her boyfriend and he breaks up with her. Then she says she doesn't like the boy, who told her he loved her, anymore. Her ex wants her back and after they get back together, she breaks up with him and gets back with the boy who said he loved her. You get angry and now you are both fighting.
Although you may not want to hear it, when you broke up with him, he was no longer your concern. You did not have to break up with him, but you did. Your friend may have been pulling your chain about not liking him because she knew he liked you, but in the end, when you broke up with him, she had a fair shot.
The bottom line: You are very young and relationships seldom last at this age. They are never very serious and never last for very long, while friendships can last a much longer time. The question to ask yourself is, which is more important to you, your friendship or some foolish boy who has pledged his love for two people in the span of a few days. Would you date a guy so fickle? What is to stop him from doing it again to you?
My advice is to save your friendship because in the end, it is longer lasting at this age. You could choose the boy and sacrifice your friendship, but when you and the boy go your separate ways, you are not only alone again, but you don't have a friend anymore. If you step back and let things take their course, apologizing for any wrong doings, you can save your friendship. You will find someone new but you will have your best friend still, and this is most important at this time.
I hope this helps and I hope it works out for you.
-Charlotte
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