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boy troubles..
So ive been dating this guy for almost a year, and things are going great! Except for the fact that i sometimes find myself thinking im not over my ex.. my ex and i had dated for almost 2 years, so its sorta obvious that it took a bit to get over him.. but i cant understand the reason ,that almost a year an a half later, i still catch myself falling for him... i sometimes think that i ant to be ith my ex again... i kno its not right to be feeling like this since im in a great relationship, ho can i get over this, or do you think itd be best to go back ith the ex, since i cant seem to get over him? any advice is appriciated, thanks! :)
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This happened to me, and I still have feelings for my ex. I've been talking to him all the time and I really like him. But if you have moments where you think about your ex, then that seems pretty normal. But if you're constantly thinking about him and debating whether or not you should be with him or your current boyfriend, then maybe it's time to make a change. If he feels the same for you, then maybe you should be with him. But if you're happier with your boyfriend, then it might be best to just keep things as they are. I hope this helped?
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Soooo sooo common, for sure. After a lengthy relationship, the feelings you developed during that time do not just go away simply because you had your differences and decided to end the relationship.
Your falling for him from time to time is probably just a relapse of some good times you guys had in your relationship, and the kind moments of affection. But you know, don't overlook the goodness you have now.
I went through this early on in my new relationship. My ex was a total player and a disrespectful buttmunch, but I loved him after the eight years we toughed it out. But it's over for sure and despite those unexpected feelings I had for the ex, I just had to rehash in my mind why we are not together and embrace my new love, who is kind and loving and nurturing and a total gentleman.
We all make choices that make what our future is going to be. We can never think out our mistakes before we make them, but I'm thinking you are way better off really moving on and for sure, never express in words or expressions to your ex that you have these feelings. If you already have, just dont do it anymore ;-).
Good luck to you!
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It is normal for you to have lingering feelings over someone that you were in a long term relationship in. You remember all the good times and how you felt when you were with them.
But you're in a wonderful relationship now and the thing is to remain grounded in that. Remember that you and this other person DID break up and it was for a certain reason, whatever it was. Remember why it was and why it didn't work out.
Just because it feels right doesn't mean it is. Love is an action before it is a feeling. We get feelings for all sorts of different reasons and they are not necessarily reasons to make decisions on. You could have feelings for both men, but in the end, who is better suited for you? Which one was less tumultuous? If you broke up with the former, why was it and is it something to be reconciled?
I personally would try to let those feelings go and concentrate on the great relationship I have now. Your other relationship is over. It is time to move on.
But a word to the wise: If you are seriously thinking about returning to the former boyfriend, you had better be very sure about ending your other relationship. Because if you leave this current man, who you are in a great relationship, for the other and start over, and it DOESN'T work out again for the same reason or something else, you've ended it with two men, and the chances of the second boyfriend wanting you back, after you dumped him for someone else, is very slim.
Bottom line: Make the choice. You can't have both. Either choose to let those feelings go and concentrate on your great relationship, (because those feelings will eventually disappear the more you fall in love with someone else) or do some serious thinking about returning to the first boyfriend, but make sure the feeling is mutual.
I hope this helps you out and I hope it all works out.
-Charlotte
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