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My weight is bothering my mom to the point where she is making fun of me.
Okay i weigh aroung 160 and I'm thirteen. now i know what your thinking but just wait. I look like i weigh 120 lbs, the reason i am 160 is that i have very large breast i wear a 38d and my mom makes fun of my weight, she calls me names and it really hurts me. How should i deal with it when it's not me that's causing the weight?
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hey girl. i was on the same track... i weighed a little less but i had very large breasts growing up. to tell you the honest truth...eating a little healthier will help. Breasts are one of the first things that loose fatty cells. i was 13 and weighed 140. i was always embarrassed about my breasts. In fact my nick name was hooters in high school. i started dieting and my breasts went down two cup sizes and i lost a lot of weight. but all my pants fit the same. your mom should never make fun of you..no matter what. you should talk to her and let her know that it hurts your feelings. if your willing to diet..maybe tell her that your going to. maybe she'll be proud of you and she will realize that your serious about it. i hope you can find a way to figure this out...
best of luck!!!
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Your mother may be making fun of you because you are overweight and its her way of subtly hinting that you need to lose some weight because there is no way that breasts even at a size of 38 D can possibly weigh 30 lbs. You should sit down with her and talk to her about your weight and your feelings, ignore her comments, or lose weight.
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First of all you need to talk to your mom. She is not suppose to be making fun of you she is suppose to support you in everything. I think you should talk to your mom and tell her how you feel when she makes fun of you and that you don't see it as a joke or funny. Love yourself for who you are and don't let anyone bring you down :) not even your mom. Hope my advice helps.
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You need to sit your mother down and let her know that while you understand her concern about your weight, it's not your fault that you weigh that much, and that it really hurts your feelings. Let her know that everyone has flaws, and it's not okay to point them out. Ridicule can cause lots of damage to someone's mentality (trust me, been there, done that) that other people may not realize.
Tell your mother that no one is perfect and she shouldn't expect you to be either. The only way you could possibly reduce your breast size naturally is to try and lose weight. I'm not saying 160 is bad, because it honestly isn't, but if losing weight helps your breast size go down & if it gets your mother to stop the teasing, maybe it's not a bad idea.
I hope you get through to your mother. Being teased hurts, especially when it comes from a parent or a family member. Those are the people who should be loving you most. There's no excuse for ridicule within a family.
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Try talking to your mom about how this is affecting you. I am very sorry that you are being treated this way. And you really do have no control over this. Tlking may not do anything, but is important for you to share with your mom that this hurts. Even if you weighed 200 pounds with An a cup size, As a mother, your mom should not make fun of you. It's not right. You shoulzd express how you feel, but at the same time understand that your moThers opinion does not matter. Have confidence and grow from this experience. It's going to be hard to ignore the comments your mother makes, but in order to grow from this and become happy it's the only way. We all feel for you and are sorry for your situation. I hope you either confront your mother and ignore her comments.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
You are 13 years old with 38D breasts and your mom is making fun of your weight. As a parent myself you have my sincere apologies, your mother should not be ridiculing you for something you have no control over. As both a women and a mother she should understand this.
How do you deal with this: If you have tried talking with her and told her how this makes you feel and she continues to ridicule you then I would suggest you ask another adult if they will intercede for you. That person could be your dad, Grandparent, Aunt or Uncle. You could even ask a teacher or school guidance counselor.
As for the size of your breast; at your young age no reputable Plastic Surgeon will do anything as far as Breast Reduction until you are at least 17 or 18 years old and have completed your growth cycle. The only exception to this is if the weight of your breast is doing injury to your skeletal frame. This is something your doctor should be checking during your annual physical. If you are not getting annual physicals you should start too. Curvature of the spine is very hard and can be painful to correct if correctable at all. Excessive beast weight can lead to curvature of the spine. This is one very good reason for you to see your doctor annually. Your doctor can also assure your mother that you are not overweight and hopefully stop her ridiculing of you.
By having your doctor monitor your skeletal frame the doctor can also counsel you on the advisability of elective reduction surgery or if surgery will be necessary to prevent injury or other problems excessive breast weight can cause.
I do not say this to upset you. I say this so that as you grow older you can make an informed decision based on long standing knowledge. Remember it’s your body; when you are 18 you get to make all the decisions. The more knowledge you gain now the better able you will be to make an informed decision later.
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Ok you gotta love you, people who spend a lot of energy making fun of people because of their weight, have issues thems selves with their image. My aunt did it and it turns out she has serious image issues, she is never good enough to herself, my friends family, they are the same way...they have issues with how they look. It's gonna sound cliche but you are gonna have to learn to ignore her. I know she is your mom and you love her and therefore the things she says to you can effect your balance. You have to not let that happen. If you look in the mirror and you love the way you look, and you go to the doctor and they say you are healthy, then that is that. You don't need your mom's aproval, and as long as she sees it bothers you she is going to do it. It's like a child, that is the child in her that wants to make you feel bad cause she feels bad and she is trying to make herself feel better by making you look bad, she sees you are happy with who you are and she is not, so she is trying to bring you down. Now this doesn't make her a bad mom or something, don't get me wrong, this is just a result of her upbringing and her inner issues. If you keep letting it bother you, you are going to have weight issues and self love issues and self beauty issues and you will look to men to make you feel good...or something along those lines, So stop it NOW. Say, if she was not my mom, if she was just some stranger on the street, would I still be all bent out of shape over it? Probably not, so when she gets going, just straight up ignore her and if you want, smile and say, I love you mom. That's it. Plain and simple. Accept that she has an issue that she can't get over, and just love her, send her peace. Feel me? It'll work.
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I'm answering this from the mom's side, because I too am a mom of a beautiful 18 yr old daughter with huge breast for her petite little body.
She started to let herself go a little so she's got some chunk to her belly and hips. I had always asked her to wear less revealing tops; merely because I know guys are always checking her out, but she just would not because she did not want to look fat.
I started to riducule her at times when she starting picking up weight, but realized she was dealing with alot. Being in that situation, you can't control your body structure.
You should really voice your feelings to your mother just like my daughter did. We tend to be a bit sarcastic towards each other and end up making comments about her looks (breasts and weight), but we are just kidding. I would never hurt her feelings intentionally, so I make sure she knows i'm only joking. She's not really the sensitive type when it comes to her body, because she can't do a whole lot about it, and she just accepts it.
If your mom's comments are really hurting you, then you will have to plead with your mom to stop calling you names and let her know you already deal with enough. She should be more supportive. I've taken the time to go with my daughter to buy bra's the help with her back support and we work out together.
I hope you can get your mom to see your feelings and fix these issues.
Good luck!!!
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