I am 16/f i have been through a lot with my family and also have had many problems of my own. I love to help people.I have 5 siblings(My oldest sister(25) had a baby at the age of 19(BOY), My brother(23) has mental retardation, my next sister(22) had her first kid(BOY)at the age of 17 and had the next(BOY)at the age of 19, my next sister(20) is a drug addict her bf is recently in jail for violating his probation with drugs, and she has been sent away for suicidal problems, my next sister (17) is 5 months pregnant with a baby boy(she doesnt know who the father is) but it's between 2 guys.) And me(16) last but not least. i havn't had any kids and don't plan on it for quite a while. i do have a bf 18 who has been living with his dad 2 hours away from me :( with his dad, but is visiting soon!!!!! I have been through a lot with my family, recently my 17 yr. old sister got in a fight with my father and is living with a guy(not one of the fathers) and my 22 yr. old sister is going through a divorce. I know this may not all sound true but it is. My dad is also and alcaholic. has been ever since my 20 yr. old sister was born. Its been quite the joy ride. theres never a borring moment in my life. beleive me ive seen it all and i would love to help. no matter what question. boy or gurl. I know how it goes. Thanks so much for taking the time to read this.
~SKITTLES~
Website: Skittles
Gender: Female
Location: Renrag, IA
Occupation: Kitchen Aid
Age: 16
Member Since: March 6, 2006
Answers: 13
Last Update: January 5, 2010
Visitors: 1658
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Okay i weigh aroung 160 and I'm thirteen. now i know what your thinking but just wait. I look like i weigh 120 lbs, the reason i am 160 is that i have very large breast i wear a 38d and my mom makes fun of my weight, she calls me names and it really hurts me. How should i deal with it when it's not me that's causing the weight? (link)
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hey girl. i was on the same track... i weighed a little less but i had very large breasts growing up. to tell you the honest truth...eating a little healthier will help. Breasts are one of the first things that loose fatty cells. i was 13 and weighed 140. i was always embarrassed about my breasts. In fact my nick name was hooters in high school. i started dieting and my breasts went down two cup sizes and i lost a lot of weight. but all my pants fit the same. your mom should never make fun of you..no matter what. you should talk to her and let her know that it hurts your feelings. if your willing to diet..maybe tell her that your going to. maybe she'll be proud of you and she will realize that your serious about it. i hope you can find a way to figure this out...
best of luck!!!
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Well My bestfriend is really pretty at school she gets called beautiful and pretty alot and i get called pretty to but not as much as her she always gets called pretty and at shops guys always check her out and igts lke im invisable shes 13 im 14 and i want to be noticed like i want people to look at me and call me pretty and like i said they do but not as much and sometime si get upset cause when some does call her pretty she acts cute then everyone says your so cute
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You have to beleive in yourself...being called pretty should mean everything to you. i love being called pretty. some ppl dont get called pretty ever. To stick out more. maybe change up your style. get a style you like...change your make-up. wear pretty eyeshadows. and pretty make up. not cute fun colors. uf coarse those are ok too. but honestly...personally ask me questions about hair and maku-up. im not a professional but ive been doing my hair and make-up for 5 or more yrs. and im a perfectionist. witch isnt good. maybe get tips from your friend. dont feel bad for not being noticed. actually you should tell your friend to be careful. i had a friend who was gorgeous. but....she was raped 3 times in 7 months. and it was all by different guys. she has a lot of depression problems now. i would just tell your friend to think about maybe waht she wears. make sure she doenst give her nunber or anything. thats what happened to my friend she wore...not sluty clothes but clothes that showed her stomach and sometimes cleavage...its not good. you can still look hot. and if you think your pretty thats awesome. i think im pretty and i have ugly days everyone does. sometimes i look like total shit. but honestly...jsut send me personal questions directly to me. id love to answer any other questions you have about men.maku-up.clothes. love life...everything ive been through it all. being fat and pretty is a hard thing. well i thought i was fat so i went annorexic and lost 40 punds and got down to 87 now im back up to 120. and i think i look ten times better than when i was annorexic.that has nothing to do with your question but. i like typing and talking about my life im not embarrassed ive been thorough hell and back with feeling pretty or being pretty. i had acne and everythin. just write me with more specific information about waht you want information on. but if you think your pretty thats all that matters honestly. please write back.
Skittles
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I just got put on birth control. I have yet to finish the first cycle I have a week or so left. But I have a few questions.
1.) As soon as I start that first pill of the 2nd package, does that mean im completely protected against pregnancies?
2.) Whats the chance of becoming pregnant when on the pill?
3.) Do you get a more increased hunger.. & then a feeling of bloatedness?
Thanks for reading. (link)
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I'm on the pill myself... and for
1.)yes you are still protected
2.)the chances are very very low...its about 1-2%
3.)I dont have more increased hunger and i guess i dont have the boating then either...i hope i helped you...ask if you have any other questions about it or different methods.
peace
Skittles
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I'm reading Dreamland by Sarah Dessen right now, and I've become kinda confused. They talk alot about 'lighting the bowl' or 'preparing the bowl' when referring to smoking pot. I'm not a pothead, nor do my friends talk to me about it, so I'm confused as to what you do to smoke pot. If you could please explain the 'bowl method' so I could better understand the book, I would greatly appreciate it. :] (link)
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to light the bowl is reffering to marijuana or "POT" the bowl would be what they use to smoke the pot. It has many different names like pipe, piece. there are many more. its like a small cylinder about 1 inch diameter and it has a small hole in the end. on the other end is the bowl. the bowl is what they put the weed/pot into. that is what it means to load the bowl...and to likgt the bowl would mean to take a lighter to the weed and smoke the weed. the weed light and the smoke travels through the cylinder and realeases out of the hole into the mouth. then they breath it in and hold it as long as possible. thus called smoking pot. hope i helped if you have any more questions just ask.
peace
Skittles
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hi,
well i hadnt got my periods for quiet some time.. and i was then told to take the home pregnancy test.. i did that..and the result was negative.. i actually landed up getting my periods after 15days ...
all i wanted to know is.... should i try the test again after my periods are over...
and what time should i take it..i had taken the first test early morning..coz ive heard the early morning urine is the best... well can i take it any time of the day or so? do lemme know..
thanks (link)
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When my sister was younger and when i ws 15 i had the same problem i didnt get my period and i took a pregnancy test and it was negative but i kept thinking i was pregnant. so i went to planned parenthood and asked them to check. they checked and i told them my story and they said sometimes when girls think there pregnant so much it messes up there hormones so they wont get there period. They said it was all psycological. So after that i new i wasnt pregnant and w/in the next 2 days i got my period. It is true that morning urine is the best. And i beleive you should check again. But go to a doctor! my sisters read negative once but she actually was. it was just very very faint! If i were you id go to a doctor. I hope i helped!
~Skittles~
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Hi, i am 15 nearly 16 and my teenage years which i should be enjoying are being ruined. ever since i was young i have had an obsession with babies and at one point i almost slept with someone i had only just met, to get pregnant. luckily i couldn't go through with it and after a while and a great deal of thinking i managed to bottle these feelings up and get on with my life and hopefully get a degree to become a high school teacher. Since i have entered year 10 i have been taking child development which is 90% about babies, also a girl in the year below me is pregnant and is really excited and I'm just so jealous! everyone i have talked to said "it just my hormones" or "its just a faze" but its not, its more than that. it is making me depressed and my GCSE's are suffering because i cant tell the teachers why i am always so down and moody so they just assume i am being immature, then cocky when i say that I'm not being immature. I'm not a big clubbing fan so if i did get pregnant that wouldn't bother me and my best mate had a child at 16 (she is now 19) and she says its great and she hasn't missed out anything she wouldn't sacrifice anyway. please help me, i just don't no what to do! (link)
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Whoa.Stop and think long and hard. 3 out of 4 of my sisters have had kids from ages 17-19. I helped raise those kids. and of course i loved them to death and sometimes i wished i had a baby cause they were cute and they were someone to love you all of the time and to cuddle with and just to hold and adore. But honestly. my(very smart) oldest sister went through a very hard time. She was 19 1st yr. in college. Right when she had the baby the father ran away. this made it very hard for her. she had only her family to support her. although she never asked for money or anything but we babysat for free A LOT! and i was in 4th grade. She struggled through 3 years of college before the father finally moved back to the state. They are now very happy and live together. My other sister(22) had a kid at the age of 17 right before she went to college her birthday was in may. so she had the baby actually 2 days before her 18th birthday. She now beleives she made a big mistake. She loves her kids to death but she had 2 kids in 2 years. Well after her first kid she married the father that she never even loved. she is now going through a very painful divorce. And its hard on the kids to. My next sister (also 17) is 5 months pregnant. the father shes not sure hes either 38????:( or 17? shes not sure. She tells me all of the time that shes jealous. and she hate the fact that i get to go party and she never got the chance to. She hate the fact that she wont be able to party for the rest of her high school days because she will have to stay home and take care of a baby. Its rally hard on her. She will be a senior next year. But she might not make it. If she doesnt that will be my 2nd sister not to graduate. I know this was long but i just wanted to tell you
(a person with experiance) that you dont want to have a kid at your age. Youll have a kid soon enough. but enjoy your life while you can. Not that you wont after you have a kid. But at least have a teenage life without being a mommy. I really hope you think about this aA LOTTTT!!!! sorry it was so long but i really wanted to get this through to you!!!
~Skittles~
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okay - so i have a gyncologist appt. in a month, and i am sooooo nervous. i don't know what to expect! i'm going to the same one as my mom, so i'm guessing he's a pretty normal guy. my mom asked me if i wanted a girl instead, but i really didn't think it would matter (and it doesn't, it's still as nervewrecking to me). what should i do? like .. before i go? do i need to like .. shave? lol i don't know what to expect either - like my mom told me he does a breast exam and that i have to lay down and he has to stick a q-tip like thing in to check for cancers and stuff. but what does it feel like .. or like .. what else should i expect?!
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Thsi is something we all have to do...its not necessary to shave. I shave mine but i'm comfortable with that. If you feel uncomfortable with your vaginal hair...you dont have to shave it...you can also trim it so its not as "out of control"...There are so many people out there with different sizes shapes and amount of hair. Everyone is born with it, if it was such a big deal and causes cancer? the doctors would tell you to shave it off...no offense who answered you last but...honeslty...its not as big as a deal as she made it sound...ive had plenty of gyno. appts and the first one was very nurve racking...but they tell you if you feel uncomfortable to say somthing dont feel frightened or embarrassed if you feel awkward and want him to stop it is perfectly normal...especially when no one else has ever touched you there before...I hope i helped you in some way...Well GOOD LUCK next month and i hope all goes well....The best of luck to you!!!
~Skittles~
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i cant stand my mom no more she has to no everything. she is ruining my life.i hate her so much. it has got so bad to were i live wit my gram. so how do i get her out of my life? (link)
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GETTING YOUR MOM OUT OF UR LIFE IS NOT GOING TO RESOLVE N E THING!!! do not do that....your mom only wants to know everything because she cares about you and your life style she wants you to be healthy and happy...she is probably hurt and sad that you dont want to live with her...ive learned from experiance...my sister a couple of yrs ago had a lot of mental isues....she was sent to a mental institute seven times and to a youth shelter twice...eventually she got taken away from my family by the state and was gone for a year...this was all because she hated my mom for alwayz getting in her business she now realized that my mom loves her to death...she went through all of that sorrow and pain just to find out that my mom loved her and hated the fact that she couldnt keep her daughter safe...my sister got sent away so many times because she hated her life and alwayz tried to commit suicide im not saying your suicidal at all...im just saying that i know you dont realize it now but your mom is a big part of your life and im sure shes just watching out for you...maybe she messed up in her childhood and doesnt want you to do the same...really and if you dont think thats it...tell her how you feel...tell her that you dont like to tell her every little thing...you need space...all teen agers do...but im telling you its not the right way to go running away from your problems...maybe talk to a counselor and possibly set up appts. for your mom and you to go in together or possibly seperate...i hope ive helped you in some way...sorry it was so long but ive lived a very stressful and bumpy life and ive been down that path...its not fun...but youll get through it the one thing that you cant do is run away from it or hate her...she brought you into this world and shes got to love you to death....honestly talk to her about it...and good luck in the future!!!!
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Well i am a f/13 and i like this boy and i think he likes me too. We nonstop flirt and we always talk. Even one time we both left the classroom just so we can talk. Well i think that it is the cutest thing every time we talk and there are people around us he always wispers in my ear and tells me. He gets so close that my chest and his chest touch and he doesnt move he just stays there with our chests touching. I think it is so cute how he wants to get so close and wispers in my ear. So just to flirt with him and make him enjoy being around me I wisper back into his ear and push my chest up against his and get as close as i can and we just stare into each others eyes. it is so romantic. Doesnt that sound sweet? Then i dont understand why he wont ask my to be his girlfriend? Please dont tell me to ask him out because i never will? Please go it to details, thanks in advance. remeber i rate 5s for good advice,
j. (link)
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aww....that is sweet! one thing DO NOT LET A FRIEND ASK HIM OUT FOR YOU! that a big NO! ok what you should do is get a really good trusting friend and tell her to ask him and talk to him about you...and simply ask him if he likes you...and if he says yes...have your friend tell him "i think she likes you to!" and have her try to persuide him in asking you out or if hes not ready for a gf...jsut watch a movie or jsut hang out like all 13 yr old kids do...Don't even worry about going any further...if your hesitating to do something with him dont do it...im telling you this from experiance...i was very young when i started "seeing" boys and i am now 16 and have a very loving bf and we want to spend the rest of our lives together..but the one problem is that he doesnt like my past...but he alwayz wants to hear about it then i tell him and he alwayz seems sad...so im not kidding when i say dont do somthing with him if you dont think your ready....but honestly he sounds like a sweet heart...GO FOR HIM!!!....GOOD LUCK!!!!
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hi! ive seen that people said washing your hair everyday is soo bad for it?! but i have to lol otherwise the next day its really greasy and icky because my hair is really thin. i want it to be healthy tho..i bought head and shoulders shampoo..i dont know if its working yet? or helping it but i also use a straightener..yeah i know very very bad for my hair but i have to straigthen it everday because it doesnt curl/scrunch! and yeah im trying to grow it out long im just dying to have LONG hair..i have a lot of layers and i hate it..i really want all my hair one length..my longest length is about to the middle of my back..but the shorter layers makes my hair look shorter i hate it!! i get my haircut often to try and make it healthier but i just dont know what to do! my hair doesnt grow..and i have to wash/straighten it everyday
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what do you think i should do?? i dont really want to go buy anything new ..my mom wont let me! such as an expensive straightner, shampoo, etc.
i'll give 5 to anyone who answers!
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Hey...I know they say washing your hair every day is bad...i have had plenty people that have cut my hair say that its healthy...i know this is weird but i wash my hair usually twice a day sometimes 3 if its a p.e. day....i dont wash it because its oily...i just like showers...i love feeling clean and fresh...i'd say the only thing you can do is keep doin what your doin...i usually only get my hair actually cut once a yr. otherwise i only get it trimmed...my hair is perfectly fine ive never had lice...my hairs never really been greasy...i take a shower when i get up in the morning and when i go to bed...i've never had a problem with lice...if you still have problems i would say nexxxt time you go to get your hair cut ask the person cutting your hair or ask them if they know of n e thing you can do....GOOD LUCK!!!
~Skittles~
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for ladies-- no men allowed!
today i bought a box of slender regular tampons. usually i use pads but its a hassel wearing them to school because after a few hours they get sticky and very uncomfortable. also, i can never find the time in between classes to change them so i desperately need to learn how to use tampons.
ok first of all, i am aware of the dangers (like if you leave one in too long and etc.) so all i need to know is where to put it. i looked on a doctor website and found a diagram but its so much different on myself. there's like, too much skin. i hate talking to my mom about it because its awkward and if i asked her where then that would get EXTREMELY awkward.
help? (please this is like life depending... ill rate big time!) (link)
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I learned to prop one leg up (on the toilet seat or a stool) place a mirrior on the floor if you need to use your hands you can always wash them this is totally normal....it should be the only whole you see...and gently glide the tampon in and hold the applicaror and push the bottom of the applicator up and the tampon should easily slide in if you have a sharp pain pull on the string a little bit sometimes when you first start using them they are a little uncomfortable after you use them a couple of times it will be very easy...to do between classes...now that i use tampons i can hardly use a pad...pads are so very uncomfortable....good luck!
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okay. i fell in love with this guy. i fell hard. i thought about him so much for months and he was a senior and i am a freshman but i couldnt stop thinking about him. he liked me also. he wanted to go out with me but i backed off. i didnt want to become to attached to someone and then them leave. but i fell in love with him. he dropped out of highschool a couple of months ago and i cant stand it anymore. i mean i cry everyday and my heart literally hurts. i hate myself for not getting with him. i will never see him again and i have to face that fact. how do i move on..? because so far i just cant. it has been months and he is still all i think of. i cant stand it much longer. i loved him more then anything in the world. everyday i just wish that i could go back to the moment that i first saw him so i could start over. i need to get passed this. how do you get over someone that you were and still are madly in love with...? (link)
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Wow...that would be hard...i know it's not easy, but you have to move on...i had a bf for 2 1/2 yrs. n we broke up...we were madly in love...it was hard for a long time but...i got over him...i still love him very much and i always will because he was my first love...but i think it helped that now i have a bf of about 4 months...i already love him n he loves me...its helped a lot, because he doesnt like when i talk about him..and not talking about him helps me to not think about him...you have to move on...and start over...look for younger guys your age also..then if they leave it will be a while...really all it is, is you HAVE to move on...i know its hard...honestly i feel your pain!!!
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The guy I like can't make up his mind. One minute he likes me next he doesn't then after that he only does a little. It's heartbreaking. I don't know if he's only doing this because he knows I like him or what. Like, at the last dance we danced but he's acting weird. What should I do? By the way he tells my friends about his constantly changing his mind, not me. (link)
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If he can't make up his mind...i'd say stay away from him...if he likes you he'll come looking for you...don't worry...you'll find another guy...there are so many men who know what they want...he seems a lil' immature to be dating some one if he acts weird while just dancing...what will he do if you kissed??? I say leave him alone let him chase you!!!!
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