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Q: 15/f
I have a crush on a classmate.I had my friend tell him I like him today,but he made a remark which meant he didn't believe it and laughed it off.Later today,I approached him and asked him why he laughed,and added that I told her to tell him that.He laughed again but I also noticed that he was blushing.He won't tell me if he likes me or not and now he's aware of my feelings for him.I noticed him looking at me before and stuff,but I can't decipher the hints.Does he like me or not? I'm planning to confront him about it next week...

In a situation like this I would just kind of lay low, or idk how to describe it. Just act like you don't even care anymore cause if he doesn't want to believe you, then he's not even worth it. But if he does like you, then he'll realize you're not going to waster your time and try to get you back. Just act like it's no big deal. Guys like a chase, well most of them. So if you give him the chance, he will chase you, especially if he likes you. Hope this helped:)
-Ray

Q: My boyfriend and i have been going out for over 6 months now. When we first started going out (this was during the school year), we'd hang out like every Friday & he'd text/AIM me pretty much every day. Over the summer we'd hang out like twice a week, and he'd also text me or AIM me all the time.
When school started again, this kind of slowed and stopped. I see him less and less now; we haven't done anything together since Christmas break (and that was only for like four hours), and before that, I don't even remember. And he doesn't talk to me online as often, either; I usually have to start the conversation to talk to him.

Anyway, my question is, what's the deal here? Did I do something wrong or is he just bored now?

Well it may not be that he's bored of you, the spark in ya'lls relationship has died out a little bit. If you want it to last, I suggest getting together with him and spending the whole day with him. Get him to remember how special you are and that he can't afford to lose you. Take him out for a day of fun out on the town, go see a movie, go out to dinner, then do something romantic and creative afterwards. Make him realize that ya'll have lasted 6 months in a strong relationship and it doesn't have to end just because ya'll don't see each other as much. Take the upperhand, be in control. It's okay to be a little assertive. Let him know that you won't wait around for him if he isn't interested. Hope this helped and GOOD LUCK!
-Ray

Q: okay, so i'm pretty good friends with this guy i like.
and sometimes i get the feeling he may like me but othertimes i feel like it's just friends.
last night, he imed me and said i should call him, so i did and we ended up talking for 4 hours, until 2am.
and like we just chatted and discussed things while he played call of duty and stuff.
i don't know if i should just think this is friends, or if there is a chance it's something more?

Honestly, if a guy talks to you on the phone for 4 hours, that shows that he didn't get bored with the conversation and he's interested in you. It's also a good thing ya'll are good friends, I see that relationships sometimes work out better if they people are good friends. Well for me it does. I suggest that you keep talking to him and see where it goes. If he gives you more signs that he likes you, then you have a good chance. If he flirts a lot, then that's good. If he starts asking things like "So who are you liking these days,?" and stuff like that, its a very high chance that he is interested. I would just take it step by step and if you feel like he likes you, then you could tell him how you feel unless he tells you first. THIS is what the guy I like did.. He said hey lets play the truth game where I ask you a question and you have to answer honestly. So we played and he ended up asking me if you had to choose one person in our grade to date who would it be? And I decided to come out and say that I liked him, and he told me he liked me. So do something flirty like that if you're becoming impatient that he's not giving you any hints. But by what you've told me, it seems like he's interested and you probably have a chance with him. GOOD LUCK! I hope this helped(:
-Ray

Q: How do i turn a guy on at school and in class?

Sorry if this is rude, but why would you wanna turn a guy on at school? Ha. Anyway I'll try to help. Just do a lot of flirty and seductive things. Don't go overboard on it though. Guys will think it's stupid if you make it too obvious. Like in class look over at him and make eye contact, wink and give a cutsie little smile and look away. Little subtle things will drive a guy insane. Trust me. Laugh a lot, guys think it's cute, just not like A LOT, and not a stupid little blonde laugh. Push your chest out a little when you're talking to him, but don't make it so obvious, when girls do that they just look like skanks. Remember to be sneaky about it. Throw little flirty conversations in there. When ya'll are talking, look at him and smile, and he'll smile back, bite your lip a little and he will go crazy ha. I hope this helped? I know some things sound cheesy and stupid, but if you play em right, they'll work.

Q: Okay so im 14 && most of my family got their periodz late ;; lately ii get discharge && the other night ii saw blood on my underwear ;; i dont know if i started or if its getting there because it wzt a lot ;; please help!! :)

You did start your period. Usually when you first start, there isn't much blood. But you definitely did start. But don't worry, it's nothing scary just be prepared. You might wanna talk to your mom about this, or an older sister.

Q: i really like this boy and i've like him for quite abit now but my bestfriend likes him also. it hurts me too think that i could break her heart by getting with him or even just kissing him :( iv known him alot longer than my friend but if i choose him then im scared i wont have a future with my friend but if i cdo stick by my friend then i wont have a future with the lad :(

HELP ME!! please.....

This seriously just happened to me like two days ago, haha. And I've seen it happen to most of my friends. My advice for you is to first, be completely honest with your friend if she doesn't already know that you like him. Try talking about it with her. And my opinion is that friends are more important, they stay with you longer you know? This guy could date you, and then end up leaving you within the next week. And you probably won't have your friend to talk to. I suggest working it out with her and if she says it's okay that you like him or ya'll date or whatever, then that's your choice whether or not to take that route and date him, cause you could risk losing your frienship with this person, even though they say it's okay, she might be lying to you just so she won't upset you and keep ya'll from dating. To me, friends are more important than boyfriends, they last longer. You need to decide who means more to you, the boy or your friend. It's not easy at all, I've learned that. I spent nights staying up thinking about what I'm supposed to do, but I chose my friend because she means more to me than a boy. I know I talk a lot :/ ha sorry. But when I read your question I just wanted to help you sooo bad because I know exactly how you feel. Please consider my advice and if you need any more help just let me know. Just remember, think about how your friend feels, it's the worst thing to be only thinking of what's best for you. I hope this helped(:
-Ray

Q: Alright so I'm a fourteen year old girl and my boyfriend is sixteen. We've been dating almost three months and my boyfriend has already said he loved me... The first time he said it, I of course, wasn't thinking and I said it back. Unless this has happened to you, you dont understand. When everything goes quiet and he says "I love you" and there is just that looming feeling in the air that its say-it-or-don't its just... hard! Its almost impossible to not say it back. But I'm too young to be in love right? And its too soon? Ive known him for a lot longer than three months but still, its too soon right? I can't actually be in love, and now I'm stuck. Because I can't keep saying it if I don't love him or even if I don't know. And I don't know what to do! How do I bring this up with him? Talk about it? I really need some help on how to handle this...

If you're really not sure if you feel this way about him, then you need to talk to him about it. Tell him, I know I said I love you, but I'm not really sure if I do feel that way. If you have strong feelings for him, then that's great, and let him know that. But make sure he knows that it isn't to that level yet. Don't be afraid to tell him the truth, it's what is best for ya'lls relationship. And to be 14, I don't think is too young to be in love, it happens you know? Just talk to him. He will understand. Communication and honesty are two of the most important things for a strong relationship. I hope this helped(:
-Ray

Q: ok well, me and this kid have been dating for 3 weeks now and we meet about a month and a half ago. since we met hes been fine w/me and always says the nicest things and hes so respectful.. but in the past few days hes been weird and short w/ me and i cant even tell if he stil likes me sometimes. hes hot and cold and during these days he'll be short but then randomly say i miss u or call me babe or something. and he still texts me first thing in the morning all the time. idk what to do, can someone please help me? i dont want to say somethnig and sound hostile w/ him.. help.

You're the same as me. I worry a lot about the texts I get from guys. But sometimes, texting gets boring, that's why he's saying he wants to call you. If he's still texting you first thing in the morning, then I'm sure he still likes you. The conversations won't always be entertaining and fun, cause honestly, after talking for too long, there isn't much to talk about after. Trust me, I know. Just don't worry about it unless he really starts giving you signs that he doesn't like you. But he's saying he misses you, so he's throwing in little flirty things. I'm sure everything is going fine. But I suggest not asking him about it. He might think it's kind of weird that you think something is wrong just cause of some messages you know? Based on what you've told me, it seems that you have nothing to worry about. If you have any other problems, please don't be afraid to ask me about them. I hope this helped(:
-Ray

Q: So two days ago. me and my boyfriend tryed to have sex. but he didnt go all the way in. and he pulled out while he was still hard. but im scared that i might still be able to get pregnant because my previous boyfriend made me bleed by fingering me and i didnt know if he popped my cherry or not. I didnt feel it if he did. but i noticed it after he left and it also hurt when i went to the bathroom. please help me.

Well if you're really worried about this then you need to first talk to your boyfriend. Talk it out and see your options. Then it may be necessary to see a doctor. If you are pregnant then you need to know if your boyfriend will be there for you. Its all about communication. If he's not there for you, then i'm sure you have family and friends that will be there. This isnt really my best area. But i hoped this helped:)

Q: I'm a 15 year old girl. Sorry if its long . :P
Well, I like this guy for a year now and he's a good friend of mine. We started getting actually closer, friend wise, this year. We joke around a lot and mock each other, though a few times he's said stuff like, "NO ! I LOVE YOU MAN," and other stuff somewhat related to that when I make him feel bad. I have 2 classes with him but only talk to him in one of them since he's with his friend for one of them. He's quite, erm, a perverted guy? He talks to me about boners and stuff like that. Yeah I know it's kind of weird. I do notice that he looks at me at times, but sometimes when he's with his friends, he never looks at me. He has brought up if I liked anyone but I just said maybe, and I asked him the same and he said he doesn't like anyone. My friends all think he likes me but then they don't realize I'm actually pretty tight with him and all. I know I sound ridiculous right now, because I could just tell him. But the thing is, there are some other girls that like him aswell, but their not as tight with him like I am, and some of those girls told him that they like him, and he started to ignore them. He finds them annoying. But you see, their not that good looking. I'm not saying I'm a "hot" person, but I'm decent. When we're sitting beside eachother and when our legs/arms/shoulders sometimes touch, he won't move it away, but sometimes he does. I'm pretty confused right now, and I'm also close with his friend and his friend said that he's pretty shy too and he never said "i love you" to other girls. I don't know how to tell him that I like him, or even what to do. We talk a lot on msn and stuff aswell. Any advice is appreciated. :) Thanks!

If i were you i would just take the chance. From what you have said it seems like he may like you. If your friends are telling you that he likes you then that shows that he's giving off signs that you may not notice but they do. If you've liked him for a while then you need to let it out, otherwise he may move on if you dont say anything soon. But tell him in person, over text is kinda lame, especially if yall are good friends. And second dont do it in front of his friends. Guys dont get embarrasse easily, but with this kind of thing, yes they will. Hope this helped:)

Q: okay sooo this weekend this guy moved back to my town that ive known since 7th grade and ive seen him through some tough times, but anyway he comes back and now likes me..alot, and my friends and i went out with him tonight and they turned it around so it was mine and his "date" ugh it was so awkward and i mean i tried to like him i let him kiss me but hes just not for me, and now hes texting me saying he wants to spend more time and wants my love for him to grow? and asking if its okay to hangout again soon..idk how to let him off easy without making it even more awkward!

This happens to me all the time. But if he means a lot to you as a friend then you'll need to tell him and it may not be easy, but it has to be done if you want to keep him as a friend. I would suggest doing it in person and just being really sweet about it. Say things like "I really wanted things to work out, but I think it's best if we just stay friends." He may not take it easy, but you'll feel much better and he will get over it. I hope this helped and if you need any help with anything else don't be afraid to ask. Good luck!

Q: I like this girl, and we talk alot. We hug, but we're just friends. I want to ask her out, but I'm afraid she'll say no. I don't take rejection well. I mean, she might say no, but she might say yes. We are in middle school. I'm in 8th grade and she's in 7th grade. What should I do?

Honestly, just go for it. If ya'll are talking a lot and hugging, then it seems she may feel the same way. When I was in middle school (and I am a girl btw, ha) I always fell for guys fast and I always wondered if the guy liked me back? But if she does say no, then just know that it may be for the best. It may be better if ya'll are just friends. But you never know until you try.

Q: Help plz

My first kiss, I was scared. But trust me, it will come when the time is right. It's very simple, just lean in and, kiss? It comes natural, don't worry(:

Q: So ive been dating this guy for almost a year, and things are going great! Except for the fact that i sometimes find myself thinking im not over my ex.. my ex and i had dated for almost 2 years, so its sorta obvious that it took a bit to get over him.. but i cant understand the reason ,that almost a year an a half later, i still catch myself falling for him... i sometimes think that i ant to be ith my ex again... i kno its not right to be feeling like this since im in a great relationship, ho can i get over this, or do you think itd be best to go back ith the ex, since i cant seem to get over him? any advice is appriciated, thanks! :)

This happened to me, and I still have feelings for my ex. I've been talking to him all the time and I really like him. But if you have moments where you think about your ex, then that seems pretty normal. But if you're constantly thinking about him and debating whether or not you should be with him or your current boyfriend, then maybe it's time to make a change. If he feels the same for you, then maybe you should be with him. But if you're happier with your boyfriend, then it might be best to just keep things as they are. I hope this helped?

Q: I've been dating my girlfriend for almost a year and I couldn't wish fore a more perfect girl. But recently she has admitted to staring at other guys, even while she was with me. This thought drives me insane I don't know what to think. Please any advice would be helpful

Okay, if she's checking out other guys, that means she's starting to lose interest. You need to hang on to what you have. Surprise her with a fancy date, take her out to dinner, buy her cute little gifts, remind her that you love her constantly. Let her know that HELLO? you're still there and you're the best guy out there for her. Also, don't be afraid to talk about it with her if the things I told you don't work. Communication is very important in a relationship. If she gives you any more signs such as using excuses to not hang out, constantly talking about 1 guy, and not wanting to show PDA, then she might be cheating on you, or getting ready to. Take a stand if it's really bothering you, let her know what's on your mind. Hope this helped(:

Q: I'm 14/f and have liked this boy for a while now. About a month ago, we both admited we liked eachother, but that was it. And he never brought it up again, he told one of our mutual friends he wanted to get to know me more first, and i accepted that. But then he also told our fiend that he wasnt sure if he still liked me. So i just decided to leave it, but i still like him and talk to him. Lately, he's been getting jealous of this boy who is flirting with me and he's started questioning me loads about it etc, what does that mean? He also told me that i never make any effort to talk to him, but he doesnt with me either!? I want to talk to him about, well, all of it, but i just dont know what to say or how to bring it up, any ideas?

I would just be up front about it. If you still really like him and he's just kind of hanging around, I would say "Hey, I don't know about you, but I still like you. If you don't feel the same just tell me, cause I don't wanna just be waiting around for you to give me an answer." Or something like that. If he's becoming jealous of another guy that's flirting with you, then he's probably still interested. And when you're talking to him, just be chill about everything and make it a normal conversation. But if you want things to move forward, you might have to make the first step. Most times guys are stupid and don't know what to do. You be in control. Hope this helped(:

Q: Alrighty, so I'm 17. And there's a girl I like. She just got out of a relationship, so I'm keeping my distance, as I don't want to rush her into things, and I'm not 100% sure she likes me. Anywho, we haven't been able to see eachother since it's winter break and she's been sick. We text everyday. So I was wondering, what are some flirty, but subtle things I can send to her? Maybe something like a nickname or something. I don't know, something. Anything would be helpful, seeing as how I'm pretty bad with women, ha. Thanks in advance.

Well I am a girl, so I might be able to help. And when guys give me nicknames, I absolutely love it. So that may be a good idea. If you're not sure if she likes you, then bring up her ex and talk about well have you moved on, is there anyone else you're interested in? Do you think ya'll will date again? Things like that. Make sure to have a strong friendly relationship before you try to make any moves. I always feel awkward when I don't have a good friend relationship with a guy and he tries to take it farther. Just get to know her a lot more, girls like it whenever you become more interested in what they like, and their lives and stuff. Hope this helped?

Q: I need some help here. I met a boy. I liked him and it was obvious he liked me. We slowdanced twice, I got his number, and he hugged me good-bye! We texted a little after we met even. The next time I saw him he was with more than 1 different girls. We barely talked. I've been wanting to call him for a while now, but I never get a good chance. I for sure am not desperate. Don't get that impression. I just need some help.

Well it seems to me like this guy is a ladies man, so its easy for him to get girls attention. Did ya'll have a friend relationship before ya'll started liking each other? Do you still talk to him? I need some more information to know what's really going on. But it seems to me that he's kind of moved on if ya'll aren't really talking anymore. If you want his attention back, I suggest texting him. Get him talking to you again. I hope this helped? If you have any more questions just visit my advice column!

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Hey guys, it's Rachel. I just wanted to say that I love giving advice and my friends tell me I'm really good at it. If you have any questions at all don't be afraid to ask, I enjoy helping people. Peace outtt(: