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Alright so I'm a fourteen year old girl and my boyfriend is sixteen. We've been dating almost three months and my boyfriend has already said he loved me... The first time he said it, I of course, wasn't thinking and I said it back. Unless this has happened to you, you dont understand. When everything goes quiet and he says "I love you" and there is just that looming feeling in the air that its say-it-or-don't its just... hard! Its almost impossible to not say it back. But I'm too young to be in love right? And its too soon? Ive known him for a lot longer than three months but still, its too soon right? I can't actually be in love, and now I'm stuck. Because I can't keep saying it if I don't love him or even if I don't know. And I don't know what to do! How do I bring this up with him? Talk about it? I really need some help on how to handle this...
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when you're in love.. you know. its just like, when you say it.. it feels right, you believe it, and you dont regret saying it and you dont want to take it back. you want to keep saying it over and over because its amazing. being in love is amazing :]
but youre 14 .. and age is just a number, but i believe that you arent in love, and i dont think you love him. you care about him alot, but its not love .. yet.
and you're right.. you shouldnt keep saying it if you dont mean it, i mean, if you dont feel it.. its like lying to yourself and to him. and maybe he said it and is now feeling the way you are. so talk to him.
you can bring it up by saying something like, "you know when you said that you love me? well, how do you know you do? because i care about you alot, but i dont think im in love yet." or something along those lines. just be hnest and say what you feel. he wont get mad, he'll understand, i promise. just go from there. it will work out. and you're handling it fine :] you just have to talk to him about it. you were under pressure, and its ok. youre only 14.. you still have your entire life ahead of you.. dont worry about this, it will be solved in a matter of minutes after talking it out with him.
stay calm, take a deep breath and let it out :] you're good to go. if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! good luck :] xxo.
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If you're really not sure if you feel this way about him, then you need to talk to him about it. Tell him, I know I said I love you, but I'm not really sure if I do feel that way. If you have strong feelings for him, then that's great, and let him know that. But make sure he knows that it isn't to that level yet. Don't be afraid to tell him the truth, it's what is best for ya'lls relationship. And to be 14, I don't think is too young to be in love, it happens you know? Just talk to him. He will understand. Communication and honesty are two of the most important things for a strong relationship. I hope this helped(:
-Ray
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