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im forteen and my parents still wont let me out after dark and its really annoyng becasue all my friends can, how could i convince them to let me out later. they know im not the type to go out and get drunk and stuf like that, but i really wont to be allowed out later but how ? any help please :)
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The way to gaining more independence and more responsibility is to show them that you are responsible and honest. If they see that, they will allow more freedom.
If there happens to be a function or event that will go until after dark, ask your parents to go and tell them that it will go until after dark and that you will be home when it ends. Give them a definite time. Tell them who is going to be there, where you are going exactly, and keep them up to date if something changes. Tell them you will be home exactly when you say you'll be home. Say you'll be home at 10:00 p.m. Be there at 10:00 p.m. Or even 9:50 p.m. Don't be five minutes late or ten minutes late. Be punctual. Everytime.
Try it for one event and then continue coming home before dark. Then try another event. Keep showing them that when they let you out after dark, you come home when you say you're coming home.
If you deviate from the plan, show up when you feel like it, don't tell them when things change, if something happens and you're not where you said you would be, they don't know where you are and what you're doing or if you're hurt. They need to be kept in the loop. You can text them, probably without your friends knowing, to keep them informed. I'm assuming you have a cell phone. Or you could call them. Either way, always tell your parents where you are going. Legally, you cannot run around and do whatever you want without their permission, until you are 18. The authorities do not consider you adult enough and neither will your parents. Some towns even have a curfew for underaged individuals. Be smart.
The bottom line: If you show them on a regular basis that you can be trusted and relied on, they will be more likely to let you stay out later. But don't push your luck and start coming home at midnight or one in the morning. Nothing good ever happens past midnight and your parents do not want you running around as young as you are. Because your parents will not sleep comfortably until you are home.
I hope this helps and I hope it all works out for you!
-Charlotte
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Well you should definately say something to them. If you really think you are indeed capable of being out later then stand up for what you beleive in! GOOD LUCK!!!
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