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guys are so confusing..
I have this guy friend, Jim. Jim and I are friends, i mean we don't hang out outside of school or anything, but we talk a lot at school. I've liked him for a long time, and he liked me a few years ago too (but we never went out).
I just started talking to Jim a lot this year, and I really like him, and I thought he liked me too. But then today Jim was hanging out with his friend, and then he saw like some hot girl or something (a girl he KNOWS, and maybe likes??) and was pointing the girl out to his friend. I'm not sure whether he was just showing his friend this hot girl in order to be cool around his friend (cuz you know how guys are) or if he really liked her?? I'm so confused. Another question, how can you tell the difference from when a guy is flirting.. and when he's just being friendly?? How do u know when a guy likes you?? Ugh please help!! Thank u soo much!! sry it was so long
Signed,
Heartbroken(?) and Confused
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Personally, I wouldn't read too much into the situation with the girl. He could have been pointing the girl out because his friend likes the girl and he was just confirming that it was the right girl. He could have pointed out that he knows the girl. You could even be right and he could like the girl he was pointing out. But he could have a thousand different reasons for why he was pointing at her. If you don't know exactly what they were saying, there really isn't a need to dwell on it.
If you like the guy and think he might like you, start hanging out with him outside of school. Start in group activities. Go to movies, grab some dinner, just hang out with friends. Get to know him better. Once you start getting more personal with him and comfortable with him outside of school, try more one-on-one time with him. Ask him to grab some ice cream or a movie with just you.
The difference between friendly and flirting is all in the body language. And really, the only one who could read that would be you. I don't know this boy, Jim, but odds are, if he is interested in you in a romantic way, he will begin singling you out. He won't make fun of you or treat you like "one of the guys". Guys are territorial in a sense, when it comes to interest in a girl. If he is even the slightest bit interested, he will start marking his territory by accompanying you to class, sitting by you in lunch, making a point of talking to you alone in the hallways. When he is sure that the interest is mutual, he will take the initiative.
Bottom line: Be available, make sure that YOU are open and maybe just-a-little-more than friendly towards him. Let him know that you like him, even if you're not comfortable with just telling him outright. Make it obvious, but not TOO obvious that you like him. There is nothing wrong with that. How are people supposed to date and be in relationships if we are all too afraid or embarrassed to show our interest?
If he is not interested in you, you will find out soon enough. The mature thing is to realize it might NOT be mutual romantic feelings, and if that happens to be the case, you simply move on to find someone else to be romantic with. If you handle it in a mature way, you remain friends throughout the situation, no matter the outcome.
I hope this helps and I hope it works out for you!
-Charlotte
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