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Hey everyone, my name is Cameron. Though, I've sort of collected too many nicknames to count over the years. So, you can pretty much call me anything you'd like. I'll more than likely answer. I'm an up and budding writer, currently attending highschool, and still sorting out my direction in life. I found this page through a friend, and since my friends have always said I give good advice, I thought it couldn't hurt to give it a shot. Hopefully I'll be of some help to the advicenators community. For those of you out there who don't want to post a question or have a private question, feel free to text or call me. Just say where you got my number and it'll be good. 404-694-4515.

I specialize in all sorts of topics, and am certainly not limited to the categories listed under my favorites. I have personal and secondhand eperience in the LGBTQ community among several other groups. So, don't worry, you're always going to have a first hand answer to your questions.

I would love to help anyone out there, and I hope to serve as some sort of help to you all out there.

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I'm 19 and I'm a bisexual transexual male, i have a girlfriend, but she's homophobic and says gays are nasty. She doesn't know about my transexual lifesyle. Well i think like a woman, feel like one and i told her i want to get a sex change and asked her if she would still care for me...she said no and that she would leave me


So i kinda have been behind her back with this man i really like, and he's gay. He told me that whatever makes me happy and i should go for it and he'll be there for me, boy or girl.

So what should i do, i don't want to live like this all my life

And who should i choose.

First off, I want to say that I've had a bit of experience with the whole trans community. I recently came out to a few select friends as a female to male transboy. So, I can understand the sort of problems you might be going through. With all the stress the transition can cause, you don't want the added stress of this girl and your relationship.
You should be with who makes you happy and who you don't have to hide who you are from. A partner should love you for you. For all of you. Not just the part they can pick and choose.
If this guy says he's there for you, I vote that he's at least worth the shot. If you've been going behind your girlfriend's back though, I think you're only hurting everyone. You can't truly be with this man if you're still dating this girl. And you're hurting this girl by going behind her back. Right now, it's a no-win situation.
I know it sounds corny, but go with your heart.

I wish you the best, and hope this helps somewhat.
--Cameron

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When is it easiest for a girl to get pregnant

Girls run on a 28 day cycle as far as menstration goes. The first day they start bleeding is day 1. The actual period can run anywhere from four to seven days. About day ten is when a girl is ovulating. During ovulation is the best time for a girl to get pregnant. They sell testers in CVS and drugstores to test for the exact ovulation date.
I hope this helped somewhat.
--Cameron

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Ok so I lost my virginity to my boyfriend last week, he knew I was a virgin so we took it slow. I was not drunk but we had both had a couple of drinks, I was not as nervous about having sex then. It did hurt a bit but because it was slow it felt good. Yes he wore a condom and yes I am on birth control. The problem is we tried to have sex again yesterday and he couldn't get it in, I think it's because i'm more nervous??? what do you think and what can I do? do you think it could be because I was not as turned on as the time before? Thanks!

It's definately just nerves. Try to relax.
I'm not saying to drink, but alcohol generaly does cause you to relax, and certain...areas to loosen up. They sell gels and lubricants as well if nothing else works.
Hope this helps!
--Cameron

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17/F

I recently purchased Marc Jacobs perfume, and I was wondering where and how much I should apply?

It comes in a spray bottle. I want the scent to be noticeable enough so that people near me can smell it, but not too overpowering.

Thanks! :)

Generally speaking, one to three sprays should do it. You want to apply it where it won't rub or sweat off too soon.
Applying perfume, I would say one spray overall, like a once over, and then one to your neck.
The fragrance won't wear off like it would if you sprayed your clothing or wrists.
In addition, applying it to your neck will make it sort of unnoticable and unintrusive unless someone steps closer or you pass by them.
But really, you have to find what works best for you. I hope this helps!
--Cameron

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14 female

i want to tell my parents that im bisexual but im scared cuz my entire family is part of the christian faith we go to church evey sunday and pray and all that stuff my family is very important to me and i dont want to lose them because of this but i dont wanna keep it a secret from them im not even sure when or where or how to tell them please help me!!!

Right. So I guess I should start of and say that I've had quite a bit of personal experience with this sort of topic. When I was fourteen, I came out to my family as bisexual, and it was just as hard as everyone said. I'll be frank about it.
Coming out to your family can either be the best or the worst choice you could make, but with the right words and the right plan, I'm sure it'll be a great choice.
Your family is your family. And they'll love you no matter what. Will they like your choice in lifestyle or choose to march with a rainbow flag? Probably not. But they are your family. If they're important to you, you're obviously important to them. They'll be there for you no matter what, and this is just another bump in the road as far as families go.
If you want to tell them, tell them. Just be ready and prepared for the reprocusions that may come along later on down the road.
Make sure they know that this was a hard choice to make, coming out to them, and you respect the family ideals and didn't want to hold the secret back any longer.
They'll respect your honesty, and hopefully will respect your decision.

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ok so im 14 right now and i think i like girls and guys but im more turned on to guys so am i gay or bi? and i am single i really like this one guy but he is 17 what should i do about him? oh and im also looking for a nice 14 year old in western nebraska but a long distance relashionship is fine with me so guys or girls leave me your number tell me your name age and gender and ill text you

Right, so coming from someone rather well versed in the whole gay-bisexual-transgender community, I would say that it's still too early to try and figure things out. Whether you find out you're attracted to purely males, purley females, or both later on, there's no need to rush and try to slap a lable on your sexuality.
As you get older, your sexuality can change and shift. Coming from someone who's labled herself as a lesbian for four years before setteling on bisexual, and later transgender.
Lables change and you should try and just llet your mind to be open to everyone. Who knows, you might just find someone you like who's gender may not be exactly what you'd originally thought you liked.

About the seventeen year old boy. If you like him, the worst thing you can do is not do anything. If you like him, get to know him. There is always the age difference though. If he's already 'out' of the closet, he's got quite a bit of experience on you and may have already figured out who he is in terms of sexuality. Sometimes, that's a problem when you're just starting to figure yourself out on your own.

Like the user before me said, this isn't a dating page. But you know, it can't hurt to try and get to know people on all different mediums. I'd like to point out that facebook isn't originally a dating page either, for the one user who posted that. You never know where you'll meet someone. And there's nothing wrong with looking in unexpected places like advicenators.
My name is Cameron, I just turned sixteen, and I'd love to text sometime. My number is up on my page.

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