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im recently single and my friends keep trying to get me with my best friend who already has a girlfriend. me and him are close enough to talk about anything in the world but friends try so hard to the point its not funny any more we used to joke and hed hold me as they freakout. he trusts me that i like him and his gf together, their perfect. i cant convince my friends to stop how do i? their mind is set, but so is mine as im not gonna be with him him and his girl are amazing together. im proud of him

There is really no way that you can stop your friends from saying stuff like that. I would know I have tried before... You either just have to except what your friends are saying about the two of you and put up with it... or you can tell them that they need to stop they are making it hard for you and your guy friend to be around each other... I imagine that it is pretty awkward for you to be around him when they do this.. So don't be afraid to tell hem how you feel. If they don't stop after that then apparently they aren't really true friends...

How this helps a little bit...
Let me know how everything works out for you...

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i'm 18/f

i had sex for the first time recently so my knowledge of everything isnt quite clear yet. my question is, even if i'm not on birth control, if the condom was used correctly (which i'm pretty confident it was) does that mean i'm safe from being pregnant?

Anytime you use one it does help prevent you from getting pregnant or from getting an STD but to answer your question... No it does not mean that you are safe from getting prgnant. You have probbly heard this a million and one times butthe only form of birth control that is 100% effective is abstinance...(not having sex)... I hoped this helped hun...
Let me know how everything works out for you...

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im not a lesbian AT ALL.
i like men and im straightttt...
im 18 years years old and i have a best friend whose a girl who im ALWAYS WITH. i have never been attracted to her or never ever made a move on her and she never made a move on me but we got really drunk together and we made out!!!! we were naked a we made out and ending up going really far...
she went down on me and i went down on her and we fingered each other.
it was so weird....

were laughing it off now but idk i feel so weird about it and cant stop thinking about it.
im not gay but ew i feel so weird.
what do i do?
why dud this happen?
how do i fix this?

welll...when people get drunk they do some pretty messed up things but if it is rall bothering you this much maybe you should talk to your friend about it.

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hey so im 15 f

~well me and this guy in my classs during school would always flirt and like touch and constantly just flirt.... well...recently we started texting ALOT like all day! and he has recently started to talk sexually.... like he wants us to do stuff.... so now he wants us to hang out and you know ... do stuff.... well i have never done anything before.... like not even kissed.... welll not like actuallly..... so like i reallly wanna have fun with him ! but like i wouldnt go past oral .... well maybey not even that I DONT KNOW YET! like idk what to do ..... do it ... or not do it... so like basically what i am asking is..... what are the positives and negatives to taking him up on his offer? and please dont give negatives i want positives to! :) THANKS :)

Seriously hun... you should definately wait. You're 15. The first time I had sex I was pressured into it by the guy. And I really regret it now. My opinion is that you should wait until you are really ready... Don't let anyone pressure you into something that you don't want to do...Let me know how everything goes.

Oh and if he really likes you... he will respect whatever decission you make.

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I had sex for the first time 3 years ago, and have had sex pretty regularly since. I have always heard that it hurts the first couple of times, but it ALWAYS hurts me. And getting aroused is not the problem. I know people say it's because "you need to relax" or "try foreplay" but that isn't the issue. This may be too much information, but I can get reeeally wet, and I'm completely comfortable with who I have sex with, so not being able to relax is not the issue either. I can have a clitoral orgasm, so I prefer oral sex. But it just does not feel good vaginally. Could it be because I'm a very small person? I'm 5'3" and only weigh about 95 lbs. I feel like my vagina stays as tight as it was 3 years ago.

Well maybe you should try asking your gynecologist. I have had problems with my uterus and I went to mine and he told me exactly what was wrong. It might be your best bet. And the safest.

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I'm a 20 year old female. I hate my life, I got Herpse from somewhere unknown I have alway been honest with my boyfriend. I also have erythema muliforme, which is an overreaction to the Herpse, every 3 weeks i break out i have black spots, painfull boils, itchy painfull blisters, and cold sores all over my body and face that dont go away, I used to be pretty now i cant even look at myself without crying.... I have thought to just end this pain and this hummilation. I'am a coward and i don't want to live as a monster... I thought about cutting my wrist,I think that would be a easy way, however i heard that advil od was also painless.

Trust me hun. You don't want to kill yourself. As you said, you have a boyfriend. I am sure you have a family. Think about what would happen to them if you did that. Think about how much they would miss you.. You might think that you look like a monster and I am sure that it is painful. But one thing you can do to help you through it is think about your family and how much you mean to them. Even if you don't think you look beautiful doesn't mean they don't... Let me know how everything goes... and really think about what I said.

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Well im 13 years old and im pretty overweight. Im starting 8th grade the end of august and i wanna show everyone that i can lose weight. How can i lose weight before school starts? Thanks (:

Honestly.... you shouldn't worry about what other people think about you... I am 18 and ever since I was about 12 I have been gaining weight. It is a hard thing to deal with but if you just show people that you are happy with how you look and you don't care what they think. But if you do want to lose weight. Don't do it because of other people do it for YOURSELF. I hope my advice helps a little bit... let me know how everything goes.

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