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friends pushing me into a relationship i dont want
im recently single and my friends keep trying to get me with my best friend who already has a girlfriend. me and him are close enough to talk about anything in the world but friends try so hard to the point its not funny any more we used to joke and hed hold me as they freakout. he trusts me that i like him and his gf together, their perfect. i cant convince my friends to stop how do i? their mind is set, but so is mine as im not gonna be with him him and his girl are amazing together. im proud of him
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There is really no way that you can stop your friends from saying stuff like that. I would know I have tried before... You either just have to except what your friends are saying about the two of you and put up with it... or you can tell them that they need to stop they are making it hard for you and your guy friend to be around each other... I imagine that it is pretty awkward for you to be around him when they do this.. So don't be afraid to tell hem how you feel. If they don't stop after that then apparently they aren't really true friends...
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You need to tell your friends how you feel in a serious tone. Tell them that you are honestly happy for him and his gf. And all you want it to be friends with him. They need to understand that it has gone to far. If they are your real friends they will understand how you feel and hopefully stop.
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Bitch them out.
"He has a girlfriend. This isn't funny. It's disrespectful to me, to him and it's getting downright nasty."
More than anything, they are probably doing this for their own entertainment. You might need to let yourself get really angry with them to get the message across. They will probably just whine and say "But, we're just joking!"
To which you can firmly say "The joke has gone too far. I'm not laughing anymore. It's hurtful and insulting now. Stop it."
If they still can't shove it - walk away when they start to make the jokes. Pick up your things and leave them. Friends who would makes jokes that are hurtful and insulting like this are not very good friends. You just might need to rub their noses into that fact for a little while until they get the picture.
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Tell your friends that you don't appreciate the pressure of them trying to hook you up with other people and ask them to respect your wishes of wanting to stay single. Friends don't pressure other friend especially when they just got out of a relationship and if anything instead of acting like jerks they should respect you and be more supportive.
Respecting your friends relationship is a great thing, It shows you have respect for him and his happiness. Also, I would have a talk with your friends. Sometimes certain "jokes" go to far.
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