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Sex STILL hurts
I had sex for the first time 3 years ago, and have had sex pretty regularly since. I have always heard that it hurts the first couple of times, but it ALWAYS hurts me. And getting aroused is not the problem. I know people say it's because "you need to relax" or "try foreplay" but that isn't the issue. This may be too much information, but I can get reeeally wet, and I'm completely comfortable with who I have sex with, so not being able to relax is not the issue either. I can have a clitoral orgasm, so I prefer oral sex. But it just does not feel good vaginally. Could it be because I'm a very small person? I'm 5'3" and only weigh about 95 lbs. I feel like my vagina stays as tight as it was 3 years ago.
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its normal. some women have pain some dont it depends on your position and the guys thing... size wise.
try to sit on him.
sometimes having a tilted uterus makes it pain full. but it could also just be the guy. and most women only have clitorial orgasms.you need a position that stimulates your clitorial while he is in you
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yep your just small and the person(s) you are with is to big for you sorry... it will go away after a few more years though
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Well maybe you should try asking your gynecologist. I have had problems with my uterus and I went to mine and he told me exactly what was wrong. It might be your best bet. And the safest.
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i think it might always hurt for girls. it was SOOO PAINTFUL the first time for me. and it sometimes still does hurt. you should just relax, because i'm sure relaxing would help.
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You body structure doesn't really have to do with how large your vagina is. Honestly.
You could be a 6'0" 300lb widely-built woman and have a really small vagina.
I know because I'm a fairly large woman and am unable to use certain menstrual products because of my small vagina. Childbirth might be ridiculously painful for me, who knows.
It can be a lot of things, really. It can actually be all in your head too. It can be an infection that has gone left untreated and caused irritation that you don't even realize exists. It can be an overly sensitive vagina (a doctor may be able to prescribe creams to help). It can be from using tampons. It could be the actual position you're having sex in. If could be that you have sex infrequently (like once every month) and you body really hasn't expanded enough in that time to accommodate the average sized penis. It can be an untreated STD. It can be from squeezing you kegel muscles throughout the day TOO much.
The point is, there are SO many possibilities we're not going to be able to pinpoint it. If you've tried to add artificial lubrication (I recommend "Carrageenan" brand) without added scents, flavors, colors and you still have the issue then it probably isn't moisture. If you've tried having sex with men with smaller penises then it might not even be penis size. If you've been extremely aroused (and loosened up with a few fingers during said foreplay) then it isn't foreplay.
See a doctor if you can't resolve this. It really could be something as simple as an untreated infection that has no other signs or symptoms. Sometimes it's better to explain the problems to a professional and have them check it out.
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