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Hey guys! I just have a really quick question. I gave my boyfriend handjobs and after he came we both washed our hands with soap and water (sometimes twice.) Afterwards he fingered me + there was no wet sperm on the bed. Even I know theres no way this can happen but what are the chances of getting pregnant like this? (link)
as long as no sperm got on or inside your vagina you should be fine. if you're worried you can always go and get put on the pill, or use condoms.


How Do you put eye liner on your top lid? (link)
maybe check youtube for some videos of this. they have TONS! and they know what they're talking about.

it really depends on the type of the eyeliner (liquid, pencil, etc.)

if you're using a liquid, make sure your hand is stedy. you can rest it on your cheek bone if you want. depending on where you want the liner to start, draw a thin steady line ( thin being the most natural looking) across your eyelid, and get it as close to the base of the lashes as possible.
you can also use a pencil liner to draw an outline first before you do this. for some people it makes it easier.

if you're using a pencil, use the opposite hand that you're applying the liner with to pull LIGHTLY on the outer corner of your eyelid. again, draw a thin line of liner as close to the base of your lashes as possible. the thinner it is, the more natural it looks. :)


hope i helped!


Is there a method of suicide that is least painful? I'm at the point in my life where this question is on my mind a lot, and this isn't some crazy rant. I've felt this way for so long, but I think I may be ready to "move on." I feel calm and at peace about it. I just don't want it to be extremely painful, physically if it can be helped. (And I know someone is going to say that it will be painful for people who love me -- I do understand.).

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in my opinion, if you're to the point where you wanna kill yourself, you need to see a doctor. no way of suicide isnt going to hurt. it's an extremly selfish decision. talk to someone.


me and this guy kinda have a thing and he wants to have sex but i dont know if im ready yet...im sixteen and he is eighteen and he has had sex multiple times and im scared he might have an STD or something. he has asked me if im still a virgin and i said no because i didnt want him to think i wasnt cool or anything. was it a bad thing that i lied to him about that? and should i tell him the truth? im also scared because this will be my first time and i dont know how it feels, i dont wanna bleed because i think that would be embarassing, and i dont wanna scream because if it hurts too much! and some of my friends say save sex till marriage because you can never get your viginity back..what should i do? (link)
if you're not ready, don't have sex.
i'm not going to tell you that you should wait til marriage to have sex, because i didnt. when you find the right person, you know, and its so worth it.
if you think that he might have something, and you decide that you DO wanna sleep with him, GET HIM TESTED. you shouldnt be embarrased about people knowing you're a virgin. it lets people know that you're smart and responsible.
this is a decision you can only make for yourself. on your own. if you're not ready, dont have sex. wait til you find the right person, and you'll know when you're ready.


okay so I'm 17/ female
soo me and my ex have been talking for a long time we broke up last summer but we still talk as if we go out even when he has a girlfriend he still messes around with me.. which i think is wrong he has put me through hell and back in it again but its like i fell in love with him so i cant leave him alone we almost had sex last week but i got really scared i dont know if i should have sex with him because i dont want him to have everything. its really confusing should i just cut him off and not talk to him anymore? it might be kind of akward tho? i dont want any of his girlfriends coming up to me and asking me have i been messing with their man shaking my head what do i do ? (link)
you need to stop messing around with him.
cheating is the worst thing anyone can do. what you should do is have a talk with his girlfriend and tell her what you two have been doing.


I'm 20 and have a killer toothache. How do I find a local dentist and get an appointment? I feel stupid but nobody ever talked to me about how you get doctor's appointments and all of that. What do I do? Is there a list some place of local dentists? (link)
i think yellow pages could help..if it does what i think it does. also ask around, ask your parents and your friends. once you find the dentist you want to go to, call them and ask to schedule an appointment, they'll ask what the appointment will be for, and you can tell them what's wrong with your tooth. :)

http//:www.yellowpages.com

sources: my mom works for a dentist. :)


I've had sex before, With like 3 other people BESiDES THE ONE FROM LAST NiGHT.
So anyways, i never blead after "Losing my virginity" So how is it losing my virginity if i never got my cherry popped?

Well anyways, Last night i had sex with someone else, I didnt get up after we just fell asleep,
But in the morning when i got up to use the bathroom i was bleading A LOT. I know its not my period because I already had my period this month and it really doesnt seem like i'm on it.

But I'm thinking its just that i finally got my cherry popped, But why Am i still bleading?
I'm not bleading A LOT, just a tiny bit is still like coming out, and my vagina hurts! Haha.
Whats going on? ha. (link)
maybe if the sex was hard or something it could have made that happen. how long ago was your period? sometimes after you stop your period, there can still be some "dried blood" inside you. and your system is just trying to get it out.

i hope i helped!


my bf put his penis in me when we were fooling around. it felt real good and so i wasn't thinking to tell him not to do it. he didn't cum inside me but my period is late. i took a pregnancy test and it says +. i got scared and my friend bought 2 more tests and they both say positive too. do you think they're right? this was only the 2nd time he put it in me (the first time was only the head) and both times he didn't cum in me. how can you get pregnant like that? i havent told him yet because hes gonna freak out. im 13 1/2 and hes just 13 in this passed august. (link)
if ANY sperm got in or on the outside of the vagina you are at risk for becoming pregnant. maybe the test are just wrong, if you're POSITIVE no sperm got in or around your vagina. you should really talk to your parents, or another adult you trust, go to the doctor, and have them check to make sure.


I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.

I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?

Sorry if this is too long! (link)
if he's not going to be honest with you, then you shouldnt be with him. relationships are built on honesty, and trust. he doesnt have the right to post your personal information about your relationship all over facebook. talk to him about it. let him know that if he doesnt delete the group, then you'll leave him, and he'll ruin your relationship, and also your friendship. if he deletes the group, then it's your choice what to do, wether to stay with him or not. if he doesnt, don't waste your time with a guy like him.

i hope i helped. :)


Hey guys.. I need some cute outfits (that aren't expencive.. Or really slutty) for school. Also some really cute, quick hairstyles I can do. Thanks! ASAP school is this week!!!!! :) (link)
you could do something like this to your hair:

http://www.twolia.com/blogs/daily-beauty-break/files/2009/09/half-up-half-down-prom-hairstyles.jpg

it's really easy. maybe takes..2 or 3 minutes? part your hair down the middle, and tie half of it up! :)

for clothes, try to just find discounts in magazines and stuff. i know seventeen gives coupons and stuff like that. try places like tj maxx and khols?



im 16 years old and I just had a 26 year old blond with the most amazing body ive ever seen she's so sexy.. she is driving me crazy i get aroused just thinking about her and just can't stop staring at her pic and she's all I think of at night. When I was in school I would always walk past her room. Do you think this is a problem that i should tell someone about? . I have never had a girlfriend lots of friends but no one that has ever had a special bond, i feel this special bond with my young teacher and I keep fantasizing about her and crave her body, is that weird? every time i think of her i feel retarded like i have marbles in my mouth and it hurts, and i can't speak she s that hot. any help is welcome i think im in love with this girl she haunts my fantasies daily like other girls arent good enough anymore all i want is her (link)
it's normal to have a crush on a teacher. i have before. lots of people do. usually, with me, once i get used to being around them, the crush goes away. tootally normal.


I really need the dress alicia keys wore in 2008 in the keep a child alive black ball.....does anyone know where i can get a lookalike?? PLEASE!!!

http://www.zimbio.com/pictures/81TAoU_1oiw/Alicia+Keys+Keep+Child+Alive+Black+Ball/IkePiT2Qn3n/Alicia+Keys (link)
you can try looking at stores where they sell prom dresses. Maybe some upscale stores.


I need help!! I am in love with my boyfriend and we have all these plans for the future and he is my best friend. Things are perfect, except one thing, I can't stop cheating on him. I have cheated on him twice, and told him the very next day. And I don't know why I cheat, I do think about him while I am doing it. I just don't know how to stop it and say no. I need to be able to hang out with a guy and be trusted by my boyfriend and I need to trust myself. I just don't know how to stop and gain the self control. HELP Me! Please (link)
first.
if you cheat on him, you're not in love with him.
you can ABSOLUTLEY control yourself. if you "can't stop cheating", break up with him. cheating is one of the most horrible things someone can do. you need to end the relationship until you can get your priorities straight.


I'm getting a tatto on my foot on Friday. It wont be my first, and I'm getting a quote with stars around it.

I was this font for my quote, but I have no idea what it's called.
I wot change it, because it's a magical looking font, and the quote I want is kind-of magical.

Does anyone know this font?
http://tinypic.com/r/1zbwgup/4 (link)
i dont know the font, and i dont really know if tattoos have "font names". you should print out the picture and take it to the shop where you're getting it done at. if when they draw it out, and it doesnt look right, just do it again. :)


I saw this video on TV and I forgot the song. It's a country song and in the video there are two people single, a guy and a girl. The video has to do with a guy who leaves for the army and he leaves his wife. When he comes back he finds his wife in bed with another man. He leaves and he ends up being an alcoholic. The man kills himself and then the wife ends up dying. And in the end it shows them in the cemetery and their daughter is there. And they make up.

Any ideas? (link)
it's called Whisky Lullaby.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KaqJB4Wm_dk

:)


My orthodontist gave me clear retainers. For my top & bottom teeth after I got my braces off.
I don't mind the bottom one cause I don't want the permanent ones.
But I asked her if I could have a metal top one, because I hate replacing the plastic one, because my dog keeps thinking it a chew toy, & because I think the plastic ones look gross.
Also, she's way over priced. All my friends retainers are $150 each. & mine are $300 each. So that's alot of money out of my pocket.
She told me she doesn't "believe" in metal retainers. I told her I DO & I want one. But she won't give me one.

My question:
Is there ANY way I could get a metal retainer? Like from another ortho or something? (link)
I didn't think that you would have to wear the clear ones all the time. My mom used to work for an orthodontist, and I got braces from him. He used the clear retainers for me at night time when I'm sleeping. But he also used these things called bonded retainers. They go on the back of yor teeth, and their permanent. Sooo. I really so think it depends on the orthodontist. I think the only way you'd be able to get another retainer, is to switch orthodontist. You'd have to ask though. Go to another office, talk about their prices, and see what you can get. If you can, I'd try to find one that offered bonded retainers. They go on the back of your top and bottom teeth, but only the front ones. The reason for that, is that if your teeth shift, the front ones will first. Then, I'd you have the bonded retainers, you can wear the clear ones at night when you sleep. Plus, you won't have anything on your teeth, like plastic or a wire. But just go with the retainer that you like. Call other ortodontic offices. And see what you can get. :)


What's the average cost of a CHI flat iron from a salon? (link)
I think it depends on where you get it from. In salons, I think it's going to be anywhere from 100-150 dollars. But online, I've seen them sometimes for about 90 dollars or so. Do you know anybody that works at a salon? Ask if you can get a discount. I had a chi, and honestly, I didn't like it. It stopped working after a few months. I have a Paul Mitchell right now, and I love it!! It's worked great ever since I got it about 2 or 3 years ago. I guess it depends on your taste though. The Paul Mitchell cost me about 120 dollars or so. Maybe less. But I had a stylist that I knew get I for me. So it may be a little more. Just do your research. Hope I helped. :)


I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost three years now. He's never been romantic or thoughtful, and it's really starting to make me upset. In the past I've had to ask repeatedly to go on dates (which is pretty much just going out for dinner). And I really just want him to take me out on a date without me telling him to. I've told him this in the past, but it's been a few months since we've gone anywhere, so I don't know what to do. I know that I shouldn't expect him to take me out all the time, but is dinner once a month really too much to ask for? (link)
of course not. dates are actually good for relationships. it can make things more passionate. maybe tell him that you think you need more dates. dinner at a nice/casual restaurant and a movie maybe. just something to get your mind off work or school. i'm sure if you talk to him about it, he'd understand. ;)


Always been wondering this...I'm 17 an my boyfriend an I have been playing ^^'...he's never put himself inside of me only touched the top area of my private once but told him to stop after that...X-x (not uset to talking about this stuff) so sorry if I'm being a lil blunt with information...O_o... just was wondering if only letting him rub it lightly gets you pregnant =O (link)
you can get pregnant only if seman gets on, or inside your vagina. for example, if he ejaculates ON your vagina, the sperm has a chance of getting inside you, getting you pregnant. if he ejaculates, and then rubs around your vagina, there's a chance you could get pregnant, and of course, you can get pregnant by him ejaculating inside you. the only 100% way to NOT get pregnant is to NOT have sex. just to be safe, incase something happens, i'd tell your boyfriend to buy some condoms, incase you guys decide to have sex one night. if you two DO have sex, and continue to have sex, talk to your parents/guardians about getting some type of birth control,( if you don't want kids right now). if you live alone, go to your doctor yourself, and talk about some sort of birth control.
i hope i helped. :)


http://store.kodak.com/store/ekconsus/en_US/list/Digital_Cameras/categoryID.28887600/?sortBy=low

this is the link im looking at ^. okay so basically which ones are the best for your money? i am not a major photographer or something. just a teenager who needs a camera with a timed capture or something like you put on a timer and it takes the picture 5 or 10 or 2 sec. after you pressed the button. i need it to be less than 150$ and it has to have a Kodak Easyshare button on it. haha. but what is a camera you reccomend for a 14 yearold who has easy downloading to facebook or the computer and has good quality and what not. it doesnt matter if it's particularly from this sight just nees to be a Kodak or have an easyshare button on it.

*If you have a camera that isn't Kodak or Easyshare and would like to reccomend it please do so. i just need a camera that works great and isnt hard to take GOOD QUALITY pictures!!! :) thank you soooosooooosooooo much!!!! i really need advice quickly!!!!! thanks!! :) (link)
i don't have a kodak camera, but if you go into a store, such as best buy, the employees will help you pick out the right camera for your needs. :)




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