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I Can't Stop Cheating On Him!
I need help!! I am in love with my boyfriend and we have all these plans for the future and he is my best friend. Things are perfect, except one thing, I can't stop cheating on him. I have cheated on him twice, and told him the very next day. And I don't know why I cheat, I do think about him while I am doing it. I just don't know how to stop it and say no. I need to be able to hang out with a guy and be trusted by my boyfriend and I need to trust myself. I just don't know how to stop and gain the self control. HELP Me! Please
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If you seriously feel unable to control your cheating, then consider the fact that you may have a sex addiction:
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If that doesn't sound like you, then I'm afraid I have to agree with shelbylynnwalker. If you were really in love with your boyfriend, you wouldn't cheat. If you are psychologically well then you are perfectly capable of controlling your behaviour.
Stop putting yourself in situations where you have an opportunity to cheat. Don't go out drinking or clubbing or whatever when you know there are going to be guys around.
If you can't stop, then break up with your poor boyfriend. He doesn't deserve to be with someone who puts so little value on the relationship.
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first.
if you cheat on him, you're not in love with him.
you can ABSOLUTLEY control yourself. if you "can't stop cheating", break up with him. cheating is one of the most horrible things someone can do. you need to end the relationship until you can get your priorities straight.
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First off, stop saying you can't stop and you can't control yourself.
You CAN control yourself.
Tell yourself that.
Right now.
I CAN control myself.
Once you believe it, it will become true for you.
Stop responding to other guys' advances. Just stop it. Your boyfriend obviously loves you a lot to forgive you TWICE for something so hurtful.
Are you drunk or under the influence of drugs or medication when you cheat? Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and you can't think as clearly as you can when you're sober. It's understandable to do something you later regret when you're drunk.
If that's the case, I would advise you to stop drinking/doing any drugs before you go out with men that aren't your boyfriend.
See a therapist to find out exactly WHY you have this urge to cheat on the boyfriend you say you're in love with. You might just be making excuses for yourself.
Bottom line: cheating is wrong.
You CAN control yourself.
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