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I'm Max.Want an honest answer to the burning questions that keep you up all night?
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So this guy... (Matt)I like him.
The probelm... I don't know if I stand a chance.
Background: Matt is seventeen, a senior. I'm sixteen, a junior. Freshman year I dated one of his best friends. It ended reeeeally badly on the last day of school. Through out my sophomore year, Matt and my ex drifted, and Matt and I grew closer. But I was kind of in between liking Matt and another guy so it fizzed. But I would go out to lunch with him about once a week, and we'd talk when we saw eachother, always reallly flirty. And he wanted to ask me to prom, but the other guy asked me first... (That's when it fizzed). Over the summer we said we would talk alot but he was out of town (visiting family) for like a month. And the thing is, he hates being on his phone. Like, he doesn't like texting, or even calling. So though we used to hang out one on one, we don't really anymore and we don't have a lot of mutual friends. But recently, it seem's like he's been making an effort to see me more or text me more, but it's reallyyyy not much. I just don't know what to do. I really like him. And I think he likes me, cause he IS really flirty (slaps my butt, telss me to go to all his games) and his friends all think he likes me cause apparently he doesn't "go out of his way this much" for a girl before. But I've never met a guy as confusing as this... So what now??
You definitely stand a chance. This guy likes you--a lot.
Don't wait around for him to try to hang out with you more. He's probably wondering RIGHT NOW the same things you are: does she like me? She's not making a big effort to see me...
It's okay to take the first step and ask him!
Good luck.
So my mom told me to tell her when I think going to have sex so she can get me "the pill" but ifind that wayyyyyyyy too in my personal life for my mother to know. It is way to awkward to tell my mom "hey, so I think ******* and I r goig to have sex soon.. Wanna get me the pill?". No way am I going to tell her. So my cousin said she willget it for me, I feel more comfortable telling her than my momcuz she is like my sister. So should I tell my cousin an not my mom? I think I should.
You're actually pretty lucky to have a mom who would do that sort of thing for you. It sounds like she cares about your health--enough to know you're probably going to have sex eventually and you'll need to be prepared.
If you're that uncomfortable with telling her, you're also lucky to have a cousin willing to get birth control pills for you. However, you should really be seeing a gynecologist. He or she will be able to prescribe you birth control pills that will be safe for you to take. Birth control pills aren't only for preventing unwanted pregnancy. Some actually stabilize your mood and lessen the flow and frequency of your periods.
You can always tell your mom you want the pills to stop menstrual cramps or help premenstrual syndrome and just tell your doctor you're planning on having sex. They have to keep that information confidential anyway, and won't be telling your mom.
And on a side note, if you do get a hold of some pills and you're ready to have sex, you still need to use a condom. Birth control pills don't protect against STDs.
Be safe!
HEy ok so my boyfriend and i broke up like 2 months ago now in school we sit RIGHT next to eachother and like he will always turn and look at me and i will say what and he will smile and look away what is he trying to say?!?! oh and then other times hes all flirty with other girls:( haha ok plzz help!
Sound's like he's a flirt and like you should change your seat and pay attention in class.
Hello to all and thank you for your interest; this question is open to all! :)
I would like to know your brutally honest opinion about girls with dread locks.
Hot? Gross? Don't care? Let me know!
Thanks for your time!
Blessings :)
Hot if she's hot and takes care of herself.
My friend is really out of shape. She's very uncoordinated, so she doesn't play sports. Almost all of her time during the summer was spent sitting in front of the TV. I've tried to get her motivated to do some excersize, but she won't. She gets stressed easily and she gets frustrated easily, so I think thats a part of why she doesn't want to excersize......maybe because she'll get frustrated when she can't do something. Sometimes I get a little worried about her because she is so out of shape....I don't mean to be rude when I say that....but it's true. How can I motivate her to live a healthier lifestyle by excersizing without nagging her and sounding like I'm being bossy?
How are you trying to motivate your friend?
It's likely you're coming across as bossy.
Let her know you care about her health and that you'd be willing to help her get in shape.
Offer to go to the gym with her or jog together.
Sign up for a 5K and train with her.
Go grocery shopping and cook a healthy dinner, etc.
You can't just say "Exercise, now!" and expect
her to want to get off the couch and go for a run.
Put yourself in her shoes.
this boy said that i have a perky butt what does that mean and is it a good thing or bad thing?
Good thing.
are vaginas supposed to look wrinkly ?
Yes.
Ok. So I have been getting the hiccups every day! Does anyone have any good strategies to stop the hiccups!? =(
Bite down on a pencil (sideways!) and take sips of water.
Can I loose my baby if I dont get prenatal care until after its formed?
You really need to be getting prenatal vitamins, etc. and proper visits to a doctor.
Your family is going to find out sometime. Is there a reason you don't want them to know for 5 months?
I am getting chalazin removal surgery soon at a local practice; not a hospital. I am only 16 and very nervous and have a huge fright knives and needles. I was told they give me local anesthetic, but upon request do you think they would give me nitrous?
I had the exact same procedure done when I was in the third grade and I don't remember any of it. There was no pain or discomfort. You won't feel anything, I promise.
Try asking them for nitrous and see what happens.
how thin do you have to get beore your periods stop?
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Starving yourself won't make you stop having periods.
My little sister is 15 and she's looking for a job in Texas. Can you be 15 and work at Walmart, h.e.b, Kroger, Brookshire Brothers, or any other grocery store like that? And does she have to have a works permit at 15? Thanks for all your time and help.
I live in Texas, and most places won't hire someone under sixteen. She can always babysit, like my 13-year-old sister does. Just be careful who's hiring her. There's a lot of freaks out there. Good luck
Im a girl but I dont want to be. I dfress like a guy act like a guy. I even play tackle football. I spit burp fart. And the whole bargain I recently got my period and I feelweird. I hatre being a girl. Wjhat do i do?
Talk to a therapist. They'll help you sort out your feelings.
I felt exactly the same as you do now before I started going to therapy. I'm more comfortable with my gender now.
And remember, just because you don't fit society's stereotype of what a "girl" should be doesn't make you any less of a human being.
Just do what makes you comfortable.
There's this couple that i know they were together before but they were always constantly fighting i think he was too strict on her and she was always controlling him and asking him questions and swearing at him and his family and she pretty much treated him like dirt and accused him of cheating and everything and i'm not sure about him but i know his short tempered however,they broke up for about 2 months she dumped him though she would always call him and she'd cry to get back with him though she'd also tell him off and swear at him they got back about 2 weeks ago i'm just wondering do you people think they'll last or what i'm not sure how their relationship is now im just curious thank you.
Why do you care?
Live and let live.
So i want to be a Archaeologist when i start to get abit older. And i was wondering do i have to get good grades in Social Studies to be a Archaeologist?
You need to have good grades in everything to do anything.
No college will take you if you have a 100 in social studies, but a 63 in math, just because you want to be an archaeologist.
Realistically, you want to do your absolute best in all your classes.
ok so ive liked this girl for about a year and a half now and were always together and joking around and having fun. she has a bf that shes been with longer then shes even known me
and i pretty much told her how much i like her and yeah...
she said she liked me but she loved her bf and she tells me were best friends so that i cant like her
idk what to do
and help or advice would be appreciated
You made a mistake by telling her how you feel, and by sticking around for so long as a friend when you wanted more than her friendship.
Those are the two worst things you can do if you want a girl to like you.
Sorry, pal. You've ruined it for yourself.
Next time, don't act like the little brother of the girl you like. And don't tell her how you feel.
Ever.
Even if you've been married for 80+ years.
It makes things boring, and is a huge turn off.
Period.
I don't know why I keep doing this! I have major procrastination issues (I'm not even exaggerating. Its taken over my life and I'm a high school junior failing 6 out of 8 of my classes :( ) but whenever teachers or my parents ask for help I reject them! But I want them to help me and notice that I'm having problems.. so why can't I admit to them I need help? And then I get mad when they don't notice and think everything with me is fine. Ughhghgg
how do I beat procrastination, too? it seems the more work i have the harder it is for me to do it.. cause i cant keep my procrastination habits and get straight A's anymore. i want to quit it but its just hard to decide to do work when it feels so good to procrastinate instead (internet & tv). and then the more i procrastinate, the more stressed out i get cause nothing gets done and i now am doing poor in school, which leads to MORE procrastination!!
why am i physically rejecting offers for help then? what is psychologically wrong with me? or is this just a classic case of laziness? how do i snap out of this? im so sick of it. i made such dumb decisions but i'm a smart person so this shouldn't be happening. i cant go back in time but i know i am mentally capable of straight As if i can be totally focused, cause i have before but this year idk what happened. the only thing i feel depressed about is my faltering grades which affects my self confidence and makes me become more of a loner cause its hard to feel good about myself with horrible grades to be all bubbly like i normally am. like i dont have any friend i talk to outside of school..
im just stuck in this stupid cycle.. buried in a deep hole i desperately want to get out of for the sake of my future. but i just have so much make up work to do it is very overwhelming. right now i am procrastinating.. i made lists but theres just so much to do. i hate coming to school with no work done. before i even enter school i cannot WAIT to get back home. and then times like now i start to feel guilt for procrastinating. every day this happens. and when i try to do work i feel discouraged and its hard to bring myself to finish through. to be honest, there are some classes i havent even handed in any work for yet and its almost the midpoint of the 2nd marking period. please dont say im a fool and everything.. that will only feel worse and i know it was stupid to get in this situation. i just want to learn how to get out.. if its even possible. ive never done this bad in school ever, i used to be a great student but now i just feel very hypocritical when i still act that way but my grades are failures.. cause i care about school mentally but my actions show the opposite and idk why theres this stupid disconnect!!!!
Sounds like you want attention, and reassurance.
Rejecting others makes you feel like you're in control.
That's why you do it.
im somewhat thin, im 5'4 and 120 lbs, but i feel as if i could lose a few. if i go to the gym every day for the whole week do i have a chance of losing a pound or two? what about two weeks?
If you work the same muscle groups day after day, you could wind up hurting yourself.
More is not always better.
When you're exercising, you don't grow as much muscle tissue as when you're resting. Your body needs time to heal itself before you work out again.
And 120 sounds like a pretty good weight for 5'4".
Don't focus so much on your weight as a number.
Use a measuring tape instead to check your progress.
I'm sure you've heard before that muscle weighs more than fat. This is why you use a measuring tape, and not a scale.
And don't skip any meals to try and lose weight.
In the end, drastic measures like not eating will make you gain weight.
Eat more fruits, vegetables and grains. Avoid saturated fats. Monounsaturated fats should be fine, though. Your body needs some healthy fat to keep you mentally alert and in a good mood.
If you have any more questions, you can ask me.
Okay so I kind of got myself in a bad situation with 2 guys that really like me. I guess I've been leading them on but I don't like either of them. I just got a boyfriend that they don't know about yet and I really don't know how to tell them without them getting mad and not wanting to be friends. I'm the kind of person that can not hurt peoples feelings and I can't tell them straight up. When I tried talking to one guy he said he'd drive himself in the ground if he saw me with another guy. Help me please I really like my boyfriend and I don't want to him to get mad if I can't get rid of these other guys but I'm just too nice:( oh and I'm a 16 year old girl. Haah
Don't beat around the bush.
Tell this guy you only want to be friends with him, plain and simple.
Too-nice guys like that tend to misread situations where girls are nice to them. You need to be firm.
Otherwise, you're lying to them.
That's worse than hurting their feelings by being honest.
This is for guys, but if a women has asked their boyfriend or husband the same thing and can answer this, feel free to answer too. Why do men watch porn if they are in a relationship?
Men are more visual than women.
We tend to get aroused at the mere SIGHT of an attractive woman, whereas women tend to be attracted to personality traits.
This is why men watch porn. Afterward, there's no cuddling necessary. This isn't fantastic for relationships, but if it's only happening occasionally and isn't interfering with your relationship, don't worry about it.
Don't assume that because someone you love watches porn that you aren't satisfying them. This isn't necessarily true.
If this is bothering you, just talk about it with him. Don't get mad or accusatory, though. And don't bring up his porn watching during an argument.