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Why do I seek help from others, but in reality, reject their offers to help
I don't know why I keep doing this! I have major procrastination issues (I'm not even exaggerating. Its taken over my life and I'm a high school junior failing 6 out of 8 of my classes :( ) but whenever teachers or my parents ask for help I reject them! But I want them to help me and notice that I'm having problems.. so why can't I admit to them I need help? And then I get mad when they don't notice and think everything with me is fine. Ughhghgg
how do I beat procrastination, too? it seems the more work i have the harder it is for me to do it.. cause i cant keep my procrastination habits and get straight A's anymore. i want to quit it but its just hard to decide to do work when it feels so good to procrastinate instead (internet & tv). and then the more i procrastinate, the more stressed out i get cause nothing gets done and i now am doing poor in school, which leads to MORE procrastination!!
why am i physically rejecting offers for help then? what is psychologically wrong with me? or is this just a classic case of laziness? how do i snap out of this? im so sick of it. i made such dumb decisions but i'm a smart person so this shouldn't be happening. i cant go back in time but i know i am mentally capable of straight As if i can be totally focused, cause i have before but this year idk what happened. the only thing i feel depressed about is my faltering grades which affects my self confidence and makes me become more of a loner cause its hard to feel good about myself with horrible grades to be all bubbly like i normally am. like i dont have any friend i talk to outside of school..
im just stuck in this stupid cycle.. buried in a deep hole i desperately want to get out of for the sake of my future. but i just have so much make up work to do it is very overwhelming. right now i am procrastinating.. i made lists but theres just so much to do. i hate coming to school with no work done. before i even enter school i cannot WAIT to get back home. and then times like now i start to feel guilt for procrastinating. every day this happens. and when i try to do work i feel discouraged and its hard to bring myself to finish through. to be honest, there are some classes i havent even handed in any work for yet and its almost the midpoint of the 2nd marking period. please dont say im a fool and everything.. that will only feel worse and i know it was stupid to get in this situation. i just want to learn how to get out.. if its even possible. ive never done this bad in school ever, i used to be a great student but now i just feel very hypocritical when i still act that way but my grades are failures.. cause i care about school mentally but my actions show the opposite and idk why theres this stupid disconnect!!!!
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Sounds like you want attention, and reassurance.
Rejecting others makes you feel like you're in control.
That's why you do it.
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Well it sounds to me you have adhd.I was just like you once,I hated actually sitting down and trying to focus because it was hard for me to do it.But I hated not getting the grades I knew I was smart enough to make.Truth is I never took care of my problem,my dr put me on adderall,and it helped but then it started wearing off erilyer in the day and I went back to normal.The drs have to up the script for its affects to be the same cuz you get ammune to it.So here is my advice to you go see a dr the only reason it didnt help me is because I stoped taking it.Also you could try sitting in your kitchen to do you work some where there isnt a tv or computer.Music always helped me get more focused and I love rockin out and doin home work.Dont feel stupid because your not concentrating it happens to the best of us just try to make your self more interested in the work.Get some friends together and have a study group,for that to work its best not to have a guy you like there lol.No female can concentrate when there nervous.
My best wishes
The one who cares
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