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Why do I feel this way?
18/m
My girlfriend and I have been together for a year or so. I knew her for a year before things became "official" so to speak. She lives a few states away. We've had great chemistry ever since we met. that first year and up until almost 6 months ago, we hadn't spent much time together in person but last July I went and spent 8 days with her and her family and things became 100x better than they had been. I realized I loved her when I realized that I wanted her to be the best she could be, I wanted her to be safe, I wanted her to be happy no matter what. She has said the same for me and I love her very much. I definitely could see spending the rest of my life with her.
About a month ago I just out of nowhere couldn't feel the excitement I had felt when I thought about her. I felt kind of lonely, but after praying about it and pushing away the feeling away, I felt just in love with her as I had been before. a week later, the same feeling came. I was on the phone with her and I just started crying. I don't know where it came from. I'm not a big crier but I just couldn't stop. I felt so empty, as if I didn't know how to love her anymore. I was frightened that the next time I see her (december 26th) I wont know how to love her or how to be excited.
Its been about a month now of off and on of this feeling. but this weekend has by far been the worst ever. I DONT WANT TO LOOSE THIS GIRL! I love her so much, but lately I just haven't been able to be happy.
Is it just stress? is it just that I miss her? I've never felt so bad in my life. She by far is the most amazing girl I have ever met. but right now I just cant seem to be excited about her. Im so lost. Help me!
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I agree with Witty. Your ten years are all about dating and socializing. Getting to know another person really well requires you do this. Unfortunatley, talking on the internet or by phone just doesn't cut it. Even if we badly want it to.
I would suggest you keep in touch, but date other people as well. If it is true love and meant to be, it will be someday. Just can't be right now.
I know its not what you want to hear. Its not the romantic answer your peers will give you in most cases. But it is the reality.
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your in love(: it's okay it's normal to feel like that.
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It's probably just love stress. It's a natural occurrence when you are in a relationship. You're very paranoid because you are committing yourself to the opposite sex. When you are single, you have more freedom. you see the difference???
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Hey,
I totally agree with the person below me. But I wanna add a little it. We can all relate to this. I used to feel the same way. A lot of times it comes from the fact that you barely see her and aren't able to touch her whenever you want too. But don't worry. Just by what you wrote we can all tell that you are truely in love with this girl just don't over stress it. You might also be stressed. Just don't think about it. When you get that feeling push yourself to call her and just hear her voice and say I love you over and over. It will go away, it should go away, if ur truely in love. Just remember don't over stress it. Don't worry, you're not alone. XX-anny F. 18.
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Hey don't worry. You're not alone. A lot of times this feeling comes from stress and presure being put on in your life. Is there a lot of that? You should probably just give yourself some space. DOn't talk on the phone for a littl ebit and see how you feel. See if you miss her and if you want to hear her voice again. Don't beat yourself up about it just give it time. That's all you need :)
Fortunately it will all pull back together.
if you have anymore problems don't hesitate to ask :)
good luckk
love,
rachel
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You cannot stay connected to someone you cannot see. Sorry, but thats fact and its unchangeable. You feel nothing because you've begun detaching from her in order to not feel the fact that she isn't there as badly.
Its a natural human method for dealing with stress and loneliness. The good times fade unless you've got something to refresh them, and phone/email/aim doesn't substitute for seeing someone, looking in their eyes, being able to touch them, etc. People just can't stay connected that way.
You'll see her, and most likely everything will snap back for a few months, and then it will get harder and harder, and you'll end up where you are. This is why distance rarely works, its very difficult to have a strong relationship with someone you don't see that often unless the relationship was already there in the first place.
You want to stay with her? You have to be able to see her more often. You probably live at home with parents, so you can't control that. This means you can't really make this work for yourself.
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