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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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I have a deep fear of germs and getting sick. Even the thought of catching a regular cold drives me crazy. I was my hands for 10 minutes, and at school, I wear a bandanna that covers my nose and mouth to help keep the germs away. I mean, hey it's not my fault that kids at my school go swimming in 10 degree weather over the weekend, and then catch a cold. Basically Everyone is sick at my school ALL the time.
Some of my teachers get mad at me when I wear my bandanna, but if they make me sit next to, talk to, and help out sick people, why shouldn't I be able to wear it? I'm not going to get sick because of one stupid person. Last week, I skipped alot of my classes just because I sat next to sick people in them and I don't want to get sick. Mainly because I just started working out, and if I'm sick, I won't be able to work out. (yes, working out is REALLY important to me.)
Now my question, I guess my question is, is there anything else I can do from getting sick? Any healthy tips that you can inform me on? (Besides obvious stuff like washing your hands.) Do you think the bandanna is a good idea? I've actually considered wearing a surgical mask but then people would think I'm even weirder.
Also, how possible is it that I'm going to get sick if I sit next to someone sick, for about 45 minutes every day? (Keep in mind that I'm wearing my bandanna over my nose and mouth.) ANY advice you have would be helpful because I'm flipping out right now.
Well, wash your hands haha. Drink lots of water, eat healthy foods and keep a healthy lifestlye with exercise and a good diet.
Eat proteins, vegetables, and fruits everyday and take vitamins...
If you think you're sick (maybe a sore throat or a runny nose) then don't think that it will go away fast. As soon as you see a symptom that signals you might be getting sick, take a medicine appropriate for it. Even the slightest ones. Drink green tea also (organic if you can) haha
haha alright so, i have never had sex. and i was just wondering...
1) does it hurt?
2) do you bleed?
3) are u supposed to shave down there? like everywhere down there, before you have sex?
4) if so..how? what do you use? because waxing must KILL.
5) is the guy supposed to shave down there?
6) how does he know where to put ...*it*?
thats all for now. thanks a lottttttt.
1)Yes the first few times
2)You might..might not. Depends
3)Not required
4)Shave with a razor
5)As I said, it's not required
6)He'll know. It's obvious.
i'm nearly 13 and i'm the only 1 out of my friends that hasn't had a tidy bf or snogged any 1 i get very nervous when people ask me if i have evry kissed a boy so i say yes and i make people up so i dun't get bullied evan more i dun know what to do please help
signed never had a first kiss
Even if you're NEARLY 13, you're still not allowed on this site dear.
Not having had a boyfriend or a kiss is nothing to be ashamed about. So what, you're friends had bf or a kiss...big deal.
Next time you get asked if you kissed someone or got kissed, just nochalantly say "No." and if they say that you said you have in the past, just laugh it off with a "That was a joke...you actually fell for that?" and if they say "Why not" or something, just say that you haven't found someone you actually like.
If people make fun of you because you didn't have a bf or a kiss yet, ask them what's so wrong about it. Tell them to give you official rules that says that you have to have your first kiss and a bf at a certain age because there isn't.
Does sex feel the same for the guy and girl?
or does it have different feelings?
different for everyone
does fingering feel good? also my friend gave this guy a blow job and she said it was awsome. is it really that good?
No one can tell you because every girl has a different sensation then there's the guy that's fingering you so only you can tell yourself once you experience it.
this is weird but i am 14 and the girth of my penis is only 1.5 inches when will it get wider?
chill. u still have time to grown down there haha
i live a generally good, happy life. i have a supportive family, good friends, amazing boyfriend, good grades, etc. but whenever i get upset or mad over stupid little stuff [mostly when i argue with my mom or boyfriend], lately ive been thinking about cutting myself. i am NOT suicidal i never ever have been not EVEN close i can not even begin to imagine cutting to try to kill myself i have my future planned out and want to live a full happy life, so id never cut my wrist or anything. if anything id more than likely cut like the top of my forearm or my thigh, jus so i could feel it but not have any serious risks. i dont what the heck brought this on because its only lately ive been thinking about it. im not one of these who looks happy on the outside but on the inside has problems and is depressed i am honestly a happy person but its just when little things get me down i have that crazy thought. should i be worried? id be scared to death to try to cut my wrists honestly id never ever do it so even if i did start i wouldnt get to that point. but i just dont get why im thinking like this?? please dont say therapy.
I'm not gonna say therapy. I'm gonna say don't do it and I speak from experience don't do it. Just don't. Write it down or listen to music, beat the crap out of a pillow, do whatever but cutting
ihad sex about three weeks ago and he used a condom. But i usualy have my period either the 20th-21st of every month and this month i missed it.
*im pretty sure the condom didnt break but when he pulled out the condom was like half way off.
so my question is should i take a test tomorrow ( which is kinda what i was planning on doing ) or do i just wait?
thanks
take a test.
14/m
Ok so me and my gf were having sex and i thought that i could hold off from cumming but it was so good that we couldnt stop and i gizzed in her, and i wasnt wearing a condom. Could she be pregnant?
There's always a chance of getting pregnant if she's not on the pills and you're not wearing a condom!
There's a really good chance that she would be pregnant but only tests or going to a clinic can tell dear.
Alright so i have been going out with this guy for about 3 months, we dated 2 other times. We've known each other for a while && all that. He's sort of the clingy type and lowself esteem. I have a feeling that if him & i did have sex, he would get wayy too attached and clingy. He is attached already, but not that bad. Hes really amazing, but its like he thinks me and him have to hang out everyday.
Any ideas?
Thanks
I had a friend like that...I know--not the same as a boyfriend.
But there's no one forcing you two to have sex and so if you decide to, do it at your own will.
You need to tell him straight out right now that if he wants the relationship to work, there's still going to have to be some private space. And jokingly add that time apart makes romance stronger.
what is the normal weight for 5 ft 5? thats how tall i am,(girl) and i weigh 126, which i think is to much. i went from 115 to 126 in like 3 months and i have been trying to lose some of it, but before i get to serious with it i want to know if i should bother. thanks!
5' 5" should be around 125lb so you're at an avg weight. Don't go to the extreme to lose weight becasue you really don't need to lose any.
I'm pretty sure some of you teens out there have the same "Mom" problem as I do. Here goes. My mom is a really nice person and she cares about me ALOT but i could NEVER please her. It feels like shes ALWAYS YELLING at me. Belive me i TRY to pick up around the house when i have time and after i do shes happy. A little while later when im relaxing shes yelling at me for something thats not in its right place, something on the floor etc. I try to tell my mom that i TRY to help but she thinks i could do me. I mean when i get home from school im TIRED and when she comes home shes yelling at me for some apparent reason like If im watching tv or something. Im a striaght A student and im very athletic and she doesnt act like shes proud of me or anything. I get depressed about it because my mom sacrificed ALOT to raise my sister and I and I know shes very depressed and she always has pains and everything. I dont know what im doing wrong. I think its my mom on one hand because she thoroughly cleans the house like everyday. I dont believe you NEED to thoroughly clean the house everyday. Picking up around yes but not really cleaning. I dont know what im doing wrong and its making me really depressed. I asked my mom what i can do more and she says clean up around. I am VERY tired when i come home and i also have homework plus volleyball games...i have no time to really clean the house. I try to help her as much as i can but there is something lacking that she is not telling me. I could never please her. Please guys, can anyone tell mer from reading this what is my fault in it or my mother's fault?
Thanks alot and dont worry just for reading all of it i rate high.
To make this short, I'm suffering from the same problem, if not worse. I'm 14, and I'm in forensics, key, ruriteens, strings, and latin club. I'm in all IB Prep classes and in Latin IV/Algebra II so I'm up all night up to 2AM almost everyday doing just homeowrk. Then there comes the Forensics competition this Saturday, JAva Jive and CRO music, I have 2 violin lessons every week form two different teachers teaching 2 different materials so violin takes up a lot of my time. Then there's my over achieving picture perfect sister who never does a thing wrong. And so I'm compaired to her everyday.
If I have time, I try to help but apparently that's not good enough if I do something wrong. If I wash the dishess for her, she'll complain about me puttting the dishes in the wrong space or because I didn't get the dust in that corner and lbah blah. She thinks that I can help her more because she doesn't get the fact that I, too, have a bunch of hw and violin and club stuff going on right now.
I can't tell you who's right or wrong here though because really, no one is. It's just the personality and misunderstanding. I kind of just gave up trying to talk to her and I just lock myself in my room and just listen to her yell at me and move on...I know not the greatest advice.
i'm going to be doing a lot of running soon to get in shape for soccer. If anyone can tell me some breathing exercises to help me while i'm running thats great, and if someone can also tell me how to avoid getting a cramp in my side that would be great as well. Thanks so much.
Okay, first stretch and warm up. MAke sure you didn't consume too much water and fodd (duh) haha.
STart off with a slow jog and increase speed. Make sure you do the talk test. Make sure you can talk for a while without running out of breath while you're running. If you can't and run out of breath and start to get cramps, you're going too fast.
Don't push it because that's how you get cramps (along with insufficient amount of stretching and warming up and starting too fast)
And breath in twice with your nose and breathe out twice through your mouth and make it in rhythm with with your steps.
My dad is an alcoholic and hits my mom all the time. Can I do anything about it even though he doesnt hit me? He calls me bad names a lot though. Oh and Im 16.
Well, although he may not be physically abusing you, he's still mentally abusing you and yes, that is still a form of abuse and that is a offense.
Just as JesusFreak said, if you try to tell your dad yourself, you're going to get yourself hurt too.
If your mom has physical evidence of the abuse, take pictures of it and save it. If you have a tape recorder or something like that, when he starts to mentally abuse you with harmful words, record it. Let the police take care of it.
But if you want more professional help, go to www.safeyouth.org and there is a button on the top of the page where it allows you talk to a person working on that site live (through IM and it's annonymous)
I was to easy
and i gave a guy what he wanted.
Yeah, he pretty much used me and screwed me over.
He said he hated me for a good amount of time because everyone found out about what we did.
After a good 5 monthes, he told me he didnt hate me anymore and he was being nice to me again.
I like him alot, and i always have no matter how mean he was to me.
And I know he doesnt like me like that, but i'm pretty sure he would want to do that stuff again and the thing is, i dont want him to use me and screw me over but i really want to do that stuff again too.
We havent really talked in about a week, but im just so confused
help? please
I'm sorry but this is going to be a harsh advice.
I usually believe in giving people second chances but in this case, you shouldn't. He used you and you were just a sex toy to him. Now that he got rid of you and don't have you to screw, he wants you back.
This is going to happen again and he's just going to use you like a sex toy and when he gets what he wants, he's going to ditch you again.
He has no right to treat you like that and then take you back and manipulate your feeligns just like that. So sure, be friends. But nothing more.
please do answer me and i have no money to pay please
This is a free site and you do not have to pay anyone. It does, however, take some time for moderator (level II) to go through the questions submitted and approve them so it may take a while before your question actually appears
when i got married , my wife had periods and i did first intercourse with her inspite of that the periods r coming. i felt that my wife had no any pain & also not seen blood. is my wife was virgin??
If she says she's a virgin, believe that she is a virgin.
Hymens can break from sports like swimming soccer horseback riding, etc. It could have jsut not developed at all. She could've broken it form falling or just masturbating previous to this.
Watch your grammar and sentence formations for future reference please.
I dont know what to do. Music has taken over my life. Its basically taken over any kind of life I have. I really dont want to see my boyfriend or friends anymore because I want to play my guitar. And another thing, everyone makes fun of the music I listen to because its mostly old stuff. I cant help it! Thats just what I like. What do I do?
Music is my life and I don't regret it. . .
Haha anywhos, although you may want to attach yourself to the guitar, disconnecting yourself from your peers is erm..a little iffy.
Have your bf and friends join you with your music. Exchange music, listen to each others music, and blah blah. Learn to play a song on the guitar that they like and have them sing a long ..yeah cheesy advice.
And other people making fun of your music gives you great reason to make fun of the music they listen to. Although I don't encourage it. Just let them make fun of it because they'll get tired of it. Ask them what makes the music they listen to so superior and just leave it at that. There is no guide line where it says you have to listen to this and that so as long as you enjoy it, ignore the other people
I've been friends with this girl[emma] ever since we were 5. We have always been super close & we told eachother everything. She has been ignoring me lately & shes been rude. Like for example: Her 13th birthday was the 21st of Jan. and she didn't invite me. We had even talked about what she was doing for her birthday. So when her mom called earlier to talk to my mom she said that she didn't invite me because i would've felt left out with emma's school friends. Her school friends are really good friends with me though.
Ugh it makes me mad & even sad. I cried about it once or twice & i cant get over it. How can she just turn on me like that?
Wow, that's a long time to be friends with. Good friends that are royal and true to each other is hard to find...rahter yet having at least one is uber fantabulous.
The old saying: people change. Girls, esp teenagers with hormones...we're changing constantly and getting influenced by others who are not as important as the factor they're influencing.
She may be developing new interests that might bore you or not relate to you at all. Maybe she wants to hang out with those girls because they seem cool to her in one way or another. Or like the person below me said, one of the girls or the whole group of girls might be influencing her choices towards you.
Just talk to your friend and tell her how much you're hurting her and you want to know if it's something you did, if she's just losing interest in the friendship, or if it's becasue of one of the girls. Tell her that you won't be mad as long as she tells the truth (no matter how brutal it may be)
good luck =]
My best guy friend usually helps me through everything, he seems to understand and listen. But recently he hasn't seemed to care about me as much. He used to call a few times a week and ask how I was doing, and if I had a problem we'd talk it through.
It's been 11 days and he hasn't called once. I feel like he really doesn't care about me anymore. Today he helped me with a problem but only because I told him I had one, and I felt like he felt he HAD to help me. I only see him on the bus to school, and I never ask about it. I don't know, I've tried talking to him about the not caring thing and he says, "How am I supposed to know you have a problem if you don't tell me?" I mean yes, that is understandable, but he used to check in with me at least.
I don't know what to do. It's honestly really hurting me, I cry everynight, and have NO ONE to talk to. I feel like I'm losing my best friend, PLEASE help me. Anything is good!
He's 16/m, and I'm 16/f.
Hmmm, I have one. Had one at least. But I lost him as he went off to college, got a job, and a gf, and blah blah.
Your guy friend is probably stressed out about something, maybe there are a lot of things (good and bad) going all around him. Or he may just be growing apart. Just make sure you don't act like YOU're the only one who needs to be asked "Anything wrong" Ask your guy friend if anythings wrong or if anythings going on. Tell him if you have a problem because if you don't and you complain about it (no matter how many times he checked on you in the pst), he's bound to get a little pissy. Shift the focus on him for a while, okay? And don't let him go.