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I could never please my mom
I'm pretty sure some of you teens out there have the same "Mom" problem as I do. Here goes. My mom is a really nice person and she cares about me ALOT but i could NEVER please her. It feels like shes ALWAYS YELLING at me. Belive me i TRY to pick up around the house when i have time and after i do shes happy. A little while later when im relaxing shes yelling at me for something thats not in its right place, something on the floor etc. I try to tell my mom that i TRY to help but she thinks i could do me. I mean when i get home from school im TIRED and when she comes home shes yelling at me for some apparent reason like If im watching tv or something. Im a striaght A student and im very athletic and she doesnt act like shes proud of me or anything. I get depressed about it because my mom sacrificed ALOT to raise my sister and I and I know shes very depressed and she always has pains and everything. I dont know what im doing wrong. I think its my mom on one hand because she thoroughly cleans the house like everyday. I dont believe you NEED to thoroughly clean the house everyday. Picking up around yes but not really cleaning. I dont know what im doing wrong and its making me really depressed. I asked my mom what i can do more and she says clean up around. I am VERY tired when i come home and i also have homework plus volleyball games...i have no time to really clean the house. I try to help her as much as i can but there is something lacking that she is not telling me. I could never please her. Please guys, can anyone tell mer from reading this what is my fault in it or my mother's fault?
Thanks alot and dont worry just for reading all of it i rate high.
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Hey. It sounds like your mom is under a lot of stress right now and she knows what a wonderful daughter you are. She is probably relying on you because she knows you're always there for her. Write a letter to her explaining how you feel (a lot of times things are easier in writing) and say how much it's hurting you that she never compliments you but always complains about what you're doing wrong. I think she feels that if she keeps pushing you you'll suceed more than she could ever imagine but she doesn't understand how you feel hurt that she never compliments you. She knows how good you do so she probably feels she doesn't need to say those things out loud but only the things that will make you do better. I would write the letter and she's sure to understand. I really hope this helps and good luck! =)
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just try not to get in her way. im like you and my mom sees the bad not the good. try keeping mom from putting you down by writing her how you feel use i not you statements shell understand.
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You are tired when you come home from school right? Does your mom work? Well if she does she might be tired too and under alot of stress. Yeah we all got that problem with our moms but its life. Someday we might be like that! lol. Probably seeing a clean house makes her feel better. Its neither of your faults. So talk to her and ask her if there is anything wrong that you can talk to her about. You can also find a day when you can just hang out with your mom. It might be boring, embaressing or something but I love my mom even though she yells at me and its not that bad hanging out with her. I hope everything goes well for you!
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Well, base my rating on my answer, please. If you don't like it, say so. :D
You say your mom is depressed. I would bet my hat that is why she yells a lot.
I don't think you are doing anything wrong. She probably doesn't really think you are doing wrong. I also don't know that either of you are at fault.
It may be that she feels by having a clean house she has some sort of control she feels she is lacking in life.
You say you ask what you could do to better help her. Have you asked why she seems so displeased? You say there is something lacking she isn't telling you. Ask her.
Try to sit and have a heart to heart with her. Tell her how you feel, and give her the respect of listening to her feelings. You both may feel a lot better about everything.
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To make this short, I'm suffering from the same problem, if not worse. I'm 14, and I'm in forensics, key, ruriteens, strings, and latin club. I'm in all IB Prep classes and in Latin IV/Algebra II so I'm up all night up to 2AM almost everyday doing just homeowrk. Then there comes the Forensics competition this Saturday, JAva Jive and CRO music, I have 2 violin lessons every week form two different teachers teaching 2 different materials so violin takes up a lot of my time. Then there's my over achieving picture perfect sister who never does a thing wrong. And so I'm compaired to her everyday.
If I have time, I try to help but apparently that's not good enough if I do something wrong. If I wash the dishess for her, she'll complain about me puttting the dishes in the wrong space or because I didn't get the dust in that corner and lbah blah. She thinks that I can help her more because she doesn't get the fact that I, too, have a bunch of hw and violin and club stuff going on right now.
I can't tell you who's right or wrong here though because really, no one is. It's just the personality and misunderstanding. I kind of just gave up trying to talk to her and I just lock myself in my room and just listen to her yell at me and move on...I know not the greatest advice.
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