Hey my names Chrissabelle and I love giving advice. I always have. Most of my friends call me Chrissie but really like to be called anything. Well... :p I really would like to be a psycologist when I get older. I love listening to other people, I've always been a good listener and I love to help people to the best of my abilities. I love being with family, hanging out with friends, ice skating, and tennis. I also love to laugh and have fun. Who doesn't? Honestly I just am a really happy person although I can come off really serious to people who don't know me which really sucks. I haven't been answering advice for a few weeks because of numerous reasons but now I'm back and so glad to be able to help everyone again. I really hope I can guys =) That's about it so ask me anything, anytime you need advice and I'll try to help you as best I can!
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Okay So i was doing a science project that involves boiling water/ and then adding sugar. Then I spilt a bit on the side of my hand just a little penny size drop maybey, now the skin there is gone it burns and this clear liquid keeps oozing over it (gross i know right) What should i do? proxide it and band aid or what? (link)
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As the person below me said don't worry it's just a blister. Just make sure you clean it, and they also say putting butter on burns really helps. You may want to let it "breathe" and not put a bandade on it right away. It should heal eventually though so as long as you wash it, it should be fine :].
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15/f
i am about 5'5" or 6" and i'm like 120 pounds so i'm pretty average. i really like this dress and would like to get it for homecoming. if i do get it i'm buying it online so i was wondering if you think it would be too short on someone like me? i know dresses from these types of places tend to be really short.
http://www.charlotterusse.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3227306&cp=2843536.2744998&parentPage=family
or if you have any other places online i can get a dress for under 30 dollars that would be great! thanks (link)
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Hey, I don't think it will be too short on you. Generally stores like Charlotte Russe are geared for teens who are around that height and the dress looks fine. Personally I think I would get it :]. Hope I helped!
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ok have any of you ever started talking to someone, and suddenly you feel nervous and you dont know whether to smile at them because for fear of looking creepy or to remain having a "serious face" for fear of looking unfriendly, so instead your lips and face start twitching and then you get so embarrassed you cant think and you feel like looking away or putting your hand over your mouth but you cant bc the person is talking to you?
well, that happened to me all day today and its been happening a lot to me lately, so i was wondering do any of you know if there is some deeper reason for it happening?
ahh this question might sound confusing to some of you i know, i know..but if you have an idea of what im talking about, some advice on this subject will be appreciated. (i dont know what im asking anymore lol)
i guess im asking whether i should smile or just remain stoic. and also why i act this way. and how to stop it. (dont say "just dont focus on it" becase its hard not to focus on it when its what the person youre talking to is looking at) thank you. (link)
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This happens to me quite a lot. I started to think something was wrong with me. Only I usually get in in my eye brow (wierd I know), and it's like a pulling or twitching or whatever. This is normal and usually caused by stress. By worrying so much about how you should be acting, serious, smiling, etc, it's stressing you out causing your mouth to twitch. Just relax and try to act natural and this will stop happening. I know it sounds easier than it will be but you just have to realize that they're a person just like you and there's nothing to worry about when you're talking to them. I hope this helped :].
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at summer camp my friend was the most popular one in our cabin i didnt know how she did it she is ssssssssssssoooooooooooooooooo tom boyish i dont know why she was so popular yes she is one of my best friends i just want to know how she was so popular so i can be like her next year (link)
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Hey! Generally, you can't just make yourself bepopular or well liked by. BUT you (and anyone really) can do some things to improve the way others see you. For example, the first step to being well liked is being nice. Everyone likes people who are nice, and you can never say anything bad about them. I'm sure you already are, but these are just general tips. Secondly, laugh a lot. People love other people who laugh at their jokes, or let them know that you think they're funny. Go along with others and don't be disagreable. People like others who are easy-going. Lastly, I'm sure people have said this one over a thousand times but it's true. Be yourslef. Laugh, and go along, but don't be a follower. Have your own ideas. When the girls.. or guys, are showing other girls attention, go along. It makes you more likeable. If you be yourself you'll be the next one they'll be putting in the spotlight. Next year, if you follow these simple steps you and your friend will both be well liked. Who knows, maybe your friend thought the same about you ;].
I really hope this helped :].
Chrissabelle
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ughh okay i absolutly hate my friend
okay so me and her have been friends for about 3 years..and not only friends BEST FRIENDS...we tell each other everything...we can be on the phone do absolutly nothing and stil have fun...but lately she's been acting very gay/stupid/retarded..like i'll tell her something and she'll just nod her head...it's soooo annoying...UGHHHH so annoying i can't stand it!!
like and i've tried talking to her but that's all she'll do
and so i stoped talking to her b/c i got tired of it
and then one day she texted me and was like are you mad at me?..wat did i do??
but i did'nt text back..and it's not like i can avoid her b/c i have 3 periods with her...and i used to walk with her between them
it's been about 1 month that we have'nt been talking
and it's really awkward b/c we have the same friends
and i have 3 periods with her
and she's my only friend in that class
i don't know wat to do
b/c i'm sick and tired of dealing with her crap!!
and if you can give me any other advice besides making up with her that would help
b/c i doubt i will ever make up with her (link)
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Hey! I've seen this happen so many times and have been through it myself. First of all, it sounds like you guys used to be really close. I'm pretty sure that you guys got too close which happens in so many friendships. You can love someone to death but if you get too close you start to find annoying little flaws about this person and they start to get on your nerves more and more. Eventually every little annoying thing they do builds up. Also, it seems that what annoys you most about your friend is the fact that she acts like she doesn't care when you tell her something that you find interesting or important, which is annoying since she's supposed to be your best friend. This can get really annoying. She probably doesn't even realize that she's annoying you by not listening and doesn't even understand why you've been so distant lately. What I would do is take a break from this friend. You don't have to stop being her friend completely but just take a break for however long you feel you need it. Whether it be a month, or a couple months. You may not think so now but after a while you'll start to look back at all the good times you had together and will begin to forget her annoying flaws. Maybe before you take that break you should text her (so it will be less awkward) and explain to her the reasons you feel she hasn't been acting like a friend. After a while of seperation she may start to miss your friendship too and will be more considerate. Since you've already not been talking for a month, this may be what you need to do so she at least knows why your not speaking to her. She may still seem really annoying to you now, but I think that after a while, even if not best friends, you can be friends again. I know you said you don't want to be friends with her again but please try this first. If after a really really long time you still feel this way, just send the text anyway but stay distanced and eventually you'll just have to start hanging out with your friends seperately.
Hope this helped :].
Chrissabelle
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i was talking to one of my guy friends and he said that a girl wearing her hair up is like a mohawk. that its weird and ugly in his opinion and that all girls should wear it down. is this just some guy's opinion or do a lot of guys think this way?? thanks!! (link)
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That is deffinitely just one guys opinion. I know a lot of guys that love when a girls hair is up. That's an interesting opinion of his too because I personally like hair up lol although I'm a girl. I really hope this cleared things up! =)
Chrissabelle
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there relationship was online only they never hung out or talked on the phone and they never hookedup it was all online. well tonight i actually confronted him and told him that it was so stupid that this was still going on and the reason i dont trust him is because ... (you know) and that he had to change or i was breaking up with him .. he then told me that he was so insecure that he didnt know how to talk to girls .. the only way he knew how was by getting them to like him to boost his self esteem which i immediatly told him could NEVER happen again because that is cheating whether or not its physical or there is even talk about hooking up it is still going behind my back and not being faithful .. but i still dont know whats going to happen because if we cant work this out then its over .. - helen (link)
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Hi Helen. I'm really glad I helped with that other advice and I'll try to help again =). First of all, good for you to confront him like that because it sounds as if you really made him think about some things. What your boyfriend told you tonight is a really bad thing that he's doing. If he's not secure enough to talk to girls without them liking him then this really isn't a good boyfriend. I'm not trying to hurt you because I think you really love him but it's true. If he is that insecure there is deffinitely a problem and by acting this way towards other girls it's hurting you. He's doing this with other girls yet he restricts you from even talking to other guys? I have a feeling that him not allowing you to talk to other guys is another way about making himself feel good about himself so he knows that at least he has one permanent girlfiend who likes him. That is just a theory from what you told me tonight. Even if he's just talking to them like that, you're right, it is still being unfaithful and I hate to say it but if he's still doing it now then I'm afraid he may never change. I also know that it seems as if you really want to keep things going and it may be because you're already so used to him, you've had a lot of good times also, and you do have some feelings for him. You may also still want to stick with him because there is a comfort zone between you guys but for him to admit to his own girlfriend that talking to other girls as if they're girlfriends highers his self esteem, that is really wrong of him as I'm sure you know. If his self esteem is that low he is going to continue doing this and treating you as his "permanent girlfriend". You may want to break things off with him so he stops hurting you and find a really nice guy who is right for you and doesn't talk to other girls like he has feelings for them. Maybe if you both take a break he will realize how much he needs you and learn his lesson OR you can end it totally. I'm only suggesting you end it for now so that you don't get hurt. Especially, how would you feel if you married him and found out he was acting this way with other girls. It would be a bad situation. I really hope this helped and if you need more advice or have more questions please feel free to ask me! =) It will all work out fine =).
Chrissabelle
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this is probably under the wrong category, but i couldn't think of a better one.
i haven't had my period in like three months, and it's never been regular but i'm really paranoid, and i'm also wicked modest or whatever so i'm afraid to go to the doctor. i'm a virging but i'm scared that sperm like, seeped into me. i know it's ridiculous but i can't get it out of my head. sooo, i'm wondering what the problem could be? like, my sleeping pattern has been SO SO SO messed up lately. from like 4am - 5:30 pm, so could that be the cause? ): help please. (link)
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Hey. If you're a virgin then you are deffinitely NOT pregnant =). Unless, your boyfriend fingered you and and sperm on his finger then you're deffinitely not. Even if this happened the chances of being pregnant are extremely rare. Otherwise, don't worry there's no way you're pregnant. I know a lot of girls who haven't gotten their period for months and especially when you're in your early teens your period is very irregular. I really think that your sleep schedule is one of the causes and it also has to do with the way you eat sometimes, believe it or not. So just try to get back on a normal sleep schedule and eat right and it should be back to normal. If it goes on call the doctor and they can give you some pills to make it come back. But don't worry I'm pretty sure you're not pregnant =). I really hope this helped! =)
Chrissabelle
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hi, i'm a fourteen year old female
& i'd like to know what's a healthy amout of calories i should eat in a day
not really to lose weight, but be more healthy
thanks :] (link)
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Hey. I'm fourteen too and I just learned recently that a healthy amount of calories daily is about 2,200 calories for an 11-18 year old girl. This is just an estimate but it's a healthy amount. You may need more if you have a fast metabilism or less if you have a slow one but this is a good amount. I really hope this helped! =)
Chrissabelle
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Hey. Well, I'm 13, if that will help.
So I have a screenname[AIM] and a myspace and stuff, and I'm absolutely addicted. More to AIM then to myspace, though. I go on AIM every single day, no matter where I am or who I'm with. I go on it for atleast an hour and a half and if it were up to me, I'd never get off.
So, my question is, is there any way I can like less addict myself to the computer, is it a phase?
Thankss (link)
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Lol, I think a lot of people our age are addicted to the computer but it's more of an addiction than a phase. It's a proven fact that it takes 30 days to start a habbit so it also takes 30 days to end one. What you really want to do (if you want to go on less) is stay off the computer for about that amount of time. I guess you can go on for like 15 minutes but that might not help with your "recovery" lol, since once you're on you may want to stay on longer. If you stay off for about this amount of time it will become so routine not to go on that you won't even want to as much or maybe just occasionally. You just have to really stick with it and it should help. I've tried it and it really helps so to less addict yourself this is really all you can do. Also, try keeping yourself busy by being with your boyfriend in person a lot, hanging out with friends a lot, or being with your family a lot. This will keep your mind off of the computer. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
Chrissabelle
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okay well im 117-120 now.
im going on vacation july 14th.
im prob getting a swimsuit like maybe around may?
i wanna lose like 17-20 pounds.
is that possible in that amount of time?
like if i stick to it and really comit.
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Hey. Well first of all I'm not sure how old you are but if you're above 13 then 100 pounds is really small. The healthy weight for a 14 year old is about 110 depending on how tall you are. But to answer your question, yes if you stuck to it you deffinitely could loose that much in that amount of time. If you lost 2 pounds a week which is really good you could do it. Just try to concentrate on staying healthy though (as you know =)) rather then worrying about loosing 2 pounds every week. I really hope this helped! =)
Chrissabelle
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Ok well how many days is your period supposed to last?
Cause my sister said hers lasted about 5 days.. and mine only lasts 3. She said there was somthing wrong with me....do you think its true????
Or is that normal? (link)
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Hey. It really depends on when you got your period. If you just got it within the last 2 years or so your period will be irregular. When you're in your early teens then it usually is this way. Once you reach about 16, the latest 17 it should be full fledged. I'm only 14, turning 15 in 7 days and mine lasts about a week, but it's irregular in the sense it doesn't come every 28 days. Sometimes it takes a lot longer. When we were learning about this in Biology my teacher said it's normal for young teens to not get their period regularly. If you are older though, you might want to get this checked with your doctor just to be safe but I'm sure it's fine. Even if you are young though maybe you can have a family member call the doctor just to ask about it but don't worry nothings wrong with you and I'm sure it will all work out fine =). I really hope this helped! =)
Chrissabelle
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ok heres the thing i went to the movies 2 with this kid john ill call him and well he asked me to go to the movies but he never paid or anything and he is mad shy but the thing is he is annoying and stupid but i like him in a way and he is forever talking about his ex how he hates her and shit i guess what im trying to say is hes not so shy when he texts me but in person hes is and i dont know if i like him im thinking of only being friends with him because i dont know if theres anything else there but i was wondering should i get ride of him or should i try to work out my committment problems with him but i really dont think were compatible and maybe im to much for him to handle but i dont know how to break it to him if i do hes the kind of person who will talk a lot of shit and who is not so forgiving please help if you can im sorry if its confusing its confusing me (link)
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Hey. O.k. from what I read it really does sound like you guys don't work together at all. Or it least he doesn't work for you. You sound a lot more outgoing and if he's shy and quiet in person then I don't think he's right for you. He may be really great for someone more like him. If you're his girlfriend then he should feel comfortable around you no matter what. That's what a relationship is about. And I understand that the relationship may be new or he may just be quiet in general but you said he's not while he's texting so I don't think this is the case. If you really want to give him a chance until he gets more comfortable then I guess you could let the relationship go on for a little while since you know he Can be outgoing, he just has to do it in person. It does sound though, as if he is making himself feel better about his ex. by going out with you and letting it all out on you. The problem is that this really isn't a relationship then, for you either because if all he talks about is his ex then that really isn't good. I also notice that you called him annoying and stupid and if you feel this way about your boyfriend (I'm not blaming you or anything, I understand =)) but then you guys sound like you don't work together. He's using you to finally get his emotions out but you're not getting anything out of hearing him complain when he texts, and not hearing anything when you're in person. I understand you're afraid to break up with him because of how horribly he talks about his ex but I would deffinitely do it. Just make sure you're nice about it and try to remain friends so that he doesn't cause any problems with you after you break up. You can eventually find a guy who works out better for you and you'll see why John didn't really work for you. Just tell him you need to figure some things out and for now you still really want to remain friends. This way, you're putting it nicely so he doesn't get upset and if he does I wouldn't worry about it for this reason. If he continues to talk about you to people the way he did with his ex they will get turned off by him after a while and won't even believe some of the things he says. I'm sure he'll be understanding though =). I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
Chrissabelle
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i asked the question about jealousy and i just thought that since you gave me such good advice id tell you more .. my boyfriend does go on my myspace he even reads my unread messages he doesnt like that i talk to any guys at all so i dont really outside of school .. him and this girl had kind of an online relationship like 8 months ago and he admitted to it and i took him back ive never forgiven him thats why i dont trust him and he knows that because he hasnt given me a reason to. i love him so much and i dont want to breakup .. help me please (link)
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Hey well first of all thanks for the compliment =). Anyway I can understand why you have such a lack of trust in your boyfriend after he had an online relationship for so long. I know you said you love him a lot and don't want to break up with him but that is a really long time to have a "relationship" with someone else right behind your back. I have this theory and it might be completely wrong but I hope this might be the cause. Maybe your boyfriend doesn't trust you either (since you said he doesn't like you talking to other guys) because he knows what he did to you was wrong, so he's afraid that you might do it back (meaning cheat on him) to make yourself feel better. Whereas if he never had this other relationship he might not even think of the possibility of you cheating on him. This really isn't good though and it you want to keep the relationship together you guys have to talk. I know you don't want to hear this and I'm not trying to hurt you (because it's not your fault) but it is actually a proven fact that the majority of guys who cheat on their girlfriends will do it again. But you don't have to worry because there is actually a solution to this problem. Proven facts in various articles show that men who have cheated once continue to do it again because they get away with it. The women is so hurt when she finds out that she doesn't really feel like yelling at the man for what he did and even if you ignored him for weeks or did yell a little bit the fact is you still took him back. Studies show that if you make him feel like what he did was really wrong and have a serious strict discussion about it he will never do this again. I'm assuming this is why you still don't trust him. You're afraid he's going to do it again even if you haven't consiously realized this yet. What I would do is have a serious discussion with your boyfriend about why you don't trust him. Tell him how hurt you were when he did what he did and how wrong it was. Make him feel so lucky that you took him back because what he did was beyond wrong. You have to stand your ground or you guys will never be able to trust eachother and the relationship won't work. Trust is the number one factor in a relationship. Next, bring up the fact that you're really uncomfortable about him looking at your myspace also because it makes you feel as if he doesn't trust you either when you did nothing wrong. Make sure you get the point accross that you would never cheat on him or on anyone because you know it's wrong and how much it hurts. I seriously think this will work out really well because rather then continue to sneak around the real problem, you'll both be able to be up front about it and finally settle the issue that's destroying your relationship. Just call him to come over one day or make some time when you know you'll both be alone so you can talk it all out. I seriously think it will repair your relationship =). If you find out he did it again no matter what reason, Please don't go back to him. But don't worry I believe that once this is all worked out you guys will be back on the road to a healthy, happy relationship. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
Chrissabelle
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I gave junk food up for Lent.
But I'm not sure...
1]are granola bars (espeically w chocolate chip] junk food?
2] what are other foods i can eat, besides fruits and veggies that can replace it?
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Hey. Nope I wouldn't consider granola bars junk food because they're actually really good for you. Things such as cups of fruit, or applesauce can be good. Or a peach with half a scoop of froozen yogurt is something I'd consider healthy. Also, a flavored fruit shake would be a tasty alternative. Things like these are yummy but also not considered junk food. I really hope this helped! =)
Chrissabelle
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14/f/
120 lbs 5'3
for the past 2 weeks ive been running for about 15 minutes on a tredmil and eating less. also cutting out candy, unnessicary snacks, and junk food. sometimes i just get super hungry and i feel like i over eat at times, like i just ate a slopy joe, glass of milk, apple sause, and craft cheese single. i know its not alot but i feel like i stuff myself when i get really hungry.
my daily meals are like, breakfast- cereal lunch- sandwitch, fruits and veggies, and some kind of crackers? dinner- usually a full meal. i grabbed a hand ful of wheat thins after school and then afer i run i usual have a half a sandwitch. is this good enough, what else can i do? (link)
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Hey. You sound like you're in the exact situation I am, and I'm the same age lol. Well, you're doing good except you can't starve yourself. If you still feel hungry than that's really not good because you acually gain more weight by not eating enough, since eventually, you're going to overeat because you're so hungry. I hope that made sense =). The tredmill is a great idea. As I was saying, it's not about eating less, but more like eating Right. What you just ate really wasn't much but you probably feel like it was since it was so many different things. It doesn't matter how much you eat as long as you're eating healthy and it sounds like you are. Just try eating things such as fruit, pasta, vegetables, sandwiches (such as turkey or ham) and stuff like that. If you continue like this you should be on the right track towards health. There's really nothing else to it and you sound like you're on a good track. By the way, you really don't need to loose much weight because you're healthy for you're age and hight =). The key is to just remain healthy. I really hope this helped! =)
Chrissabelle
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hey my body is all the same colour but like my feet is literally 5 times darker! ONLY! It's my grad thsi year and I'll be happy in a dress looking nice with my fair coloured skin then then you can see like brown coloured feet! And it's not dirty because I wash my feet all the time and I scrubed it with soap and it didn't get any lighter! (link)
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Hey. I think a lot of people have this. I know my feet get pretty tan. I really don't think anyone is going to be critical about your feet, and actually it looks kind of cool to have really tan feet. Lol I know how strange that sounds but I seriously think other people will think this too. OR they most likely won't even be looking at your feet but more so at your beautiful dress. Oftentimes, during the summer your feet are the ones always exposed to sun (unless you wear sneakers of course) rather then your torso (because you have a shirt on) or legs (because you have shorts on) so a lot of times this is the reason for that. As long as your not thinking about it, no one else will. I really hope this helped =).
Chrissabelle
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Hey, what are some good stores for guys to find like "Skater" or "Punkish" clothes for a reasonable price...(Excluding Hot Topic...) (link)
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Pacsun is great for skater looks. Zumiez has a lot of that type of clothing too. Spencers has some good t-shirts for that purpose but if you've been to one you may know it's not really a clothing store but it does have some punkish clothing. Journey's is good too and that's about all I can think of as of now. I really hope this helped! =)
Chrissabelle
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Im about 5'4 and weight 143 pounds. If i did 400 sit ups a night how long do you think it would take to get a 6 pack ? (link)
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lol, no you're not dumb. I actually just figured that out this year when I asked my friend the exact question =). Ok during sit ups you're laying down with your knees bent and you cross your arms. You then sit all the way up. With crunches on the other hand, you lay down and put your legs in the air. You then cross your legs while they are up in the air. Then, instead of sitting all the way up you only have to go about 8-11 inches off the ground. You then hold it for about 5 seconds and lay back down whereas a sit up you go down right away. Crunches are pretty much half-situps. I hope I helped to explain it a little better =).
400 sit ups a night is really good. If you're willing to do 400 sit ups a night I give you a whole lot of credit. Lol. Well, to answer you're question it really depends on other things such as your eating habbits. Exercise works great but you still have to eat right to help along a 6 pack. The average amount it would take to get some results is about 2 to 3 weeks. To get a 6 pack with just sit ups though it would take pretty long but you may feel some bumps after a few months. You have to do other things such as crunches which are what really make your stomach strong. If you stick with crunches the results will occur even faster. I really hope this helped! =)
Chrissabelle
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i'm 15/f. this guy likes me. but i'm really awkward and shy. he wants to makeout and all kind of stuff, but i don't know how.. AT ALL! when he says "i love you" on the internet, what do i say? what about when he says it in person? when he says "you're really hott!!" what do i say? [on internet & person] he's been with tonnnnsssss of girls before, so yeah. (link)
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Hey. As for the kissing there's really no way to actually do it. You just have to be relaxed and in the mood. Try not to get stressed out (I know it's easier than it sounds) because it will show. This website pretty much says it all http://www.wikihow.com/Kiss As for when he says I love you on the computer I would just say I guess you'll do and then say just kidding with a smiley, love ya too or something like that. He'll find it funny and will feel content that you added the love ya too or maybe love u 2. This way, it's not like you're getting too deep so soon but you're still being nice back. As for when he says it in person I would just smile if you feel shy about it and then ask him if he wants to do something later to get off the subject. As for when he says you're really hot on the computer I would just say something like wow thanks you're not half bad either and then put lol or something. As for in person I would just say something like the feelings mutual and laugh, or if you feel shy saying something like that just say wow in a happy tone which shows him your happy for the compliment and makes him happy that he's flattering you. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
Chrissabelle
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