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ok heres the thing i went to the movies 2 with this kid john ill call him and well he asked me to go to the movies but he never paid or anything and he is mad shy but the thing is he is annoying and stupid but i like him in a way and he is forever talking about his ex how he hates her and shit i guess what im trying to say is hes not so shy when he texts me but in person hes is and i dont know if i like him im thinking of only being friends with him because i dont know if theres anything else there but i was wondering should i get ride of him or should i try to work out my committment problems with him but i really dont think were compatible and maybe im to much for him to handle but i dont know how to break it to him if i do hes the kind of person who will talk a lot of shit and who is not so forgiving please help if you can im sorry if its confusing its confusing me
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this girl is probably not over his ex i would dump him!!!!!
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It kind of sounds like he's not exactly over his ex if she's the only one he's talking about. Plus, are you even positive that he even like you in that way? He may be trying to tell you that he's not ready for a commitment with anyone right now. You may want to take it slow and see if there is anyone else you there for you. You'll end up benefitting from this experience. Just let him take the lead for a while and see how it goes. He just may not be right for you. Good luck. =]
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Hey. O.k. from what I read it really does sound like you guys don't work together at all. Or it least he doesn't work for you. You sound a lot more outgoing and if he's shy and quiet in person then I don't think he's right for you. He may be really great for someone more like him. If you're his girlfriend then he should feel comfortable around you no matter what. That's what a relationship is about. And I understand that the relationship may be new or he may just be quiet in general but you said he's not while he's texting so I don't think this is the case. If you really want to give him a chance until he gets more comfortable then I guess you could let the relationship go on for a little while since you know he Can be outgoing, he just has to do it in person. It does sound though, as if he is making himself feel better about his ex. by going out with you and letting it all out on you. The problem is that this really isn't a relationship then, for you either because if all he talks about is his ex then that really isn't good. I also notice that you called him annoying and stupid and if you feel this way about your boyfriend (I'm not blaming you or anything, I understand =)) but then you guys sound like you don't work together. He's using you to finally get his emotions out but you're not getting anything out of hearing him complain when he texts, and not hearing anything when you're in person. I understand you're afraid to break up with him because of how horribly he talks about his ex but I would deffinitely do it. Just make sure you're nice about it and try to remain friends so that he doesn't cause any problems with you after you break up. You can eventually find a guy who works out better for you and you'll see why John didn't really work for you. Just tell him you need to figure some things out and for now you still really want to remain friends. This way, you're putting it nicely so he doesn't get upset and if he does I wouldn't worry about it for this reason. If he continues to talk about you to people the way he did with his ex they will get turned off by him after a while and won't even believe some of the things he says. I'm sure he'll be understanding though =). I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
Chrissabelle<3
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If you don't like him in that way, don't go out with him. Just be friends. If he asks you to the movies, ask him if your friends can come too. If he says no, just tell him your parents won't let you go to the movies alone.
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it seems like this guy is using you to comfort his own ego. i don't think he knows himself if he likes you, he just wants a safegirl to run to when he's feeling shit and he may know that u liked him.
my advise is to see him still and next time he mentions his ex try and ignore what he is saying and make it clear your not interested. if he asks you why your acting like this answer truthfully and explain that you came to see him because of you two, you dont want to keep hearing about his ex because this is your date not hers. maybe he'll gt the message then and then u'll know whats really going on with him. if he gets angry with you, this means hes selfish and too self obsessed and you dont want to even be friends with a guy like that.
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You are going way too fast for him and that is because guys are slow in the arena of communication, maturity, emotional connections, inner-self awareness, other-person awareness, and so on! He will be confused as hell over you for a while, and probably is resentful of his last girlfriend because he did not get her either. Guys like this are going to have an extra hard time figuring girls out and how they are supposed to relate to the opposite sex. Is he worth your time and effort? Probably not unless you really are smitten with him and he is really into you. Otherwise take it super slow, maybe just stay friends for a while. He is too young and immature to be great dating material right now, and will not be a great boyfriend. He may have some nice qualities, but you have a better chance at seeing those develop if you remain friends and don't put any pressure on him at all. You are right to be wary of guys that talk smack against all their ex-girlfriends...they usually have a lot of problems accepting any responsibility for anything and will blame you in the end for whatever they do wrong in the relationship, too. You are wise to see this coming and steer clear or at least stay aware. Good luck! Remember, dating should be fun, so if it is work and no fun, then forget it!
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