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there relationship was online only they never hung out or talked on the phone and they never hookedup it was all online. well tonight i actually confronted him and told him that it was so stupid that this was still going on and the reason i dont trust him is because ... (you know) and that he had to change or i was breaking up with him .. he then told me that he was so insecure that he didnt know how to talk to girls .. the only way he knew how was by getting them to like him to boost his self esteem which i immediatly told him could NEVER happen again because that is cheating whether or not its physical or there is even talk about hooking up it is still going behind my back and not being faithful .. but i still dont know whats going to happen because if we cant work this out then its over .. - helen
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Hi Helen. I'm really glad I helped with that other advice and I'll try to help again =). First of all, good for you to confront him like that because it sounds as if you really made him think about some things. What your boyfriend told you tonight is a really bad thing that he's doing. If he's not secure enough to talk to girls without them liking him then this really isn't a good boyfriend. I'm not trying to hurt you because I think you really love him but it's true. If he is that insecure there is deffinitely a problem and by acting this way towards other girls it's hurting you. He's doing this with other girls yet he restricts you from even talking to other guys? I have a feeling that him not allowing you to talk to other guys is another way about making himself feel good about himself so he knows that at least he has one permanent girlfiend who likes him. That is just a theory from what you told me tonight. Even if he's just talking to them like that, you're right, it is still being unfaithful and I hate to say it but if he's still doing it now then I'm afraid he may never change. I also know that it seems as if you really want to keep things going and it may be because you're already so used to him, you've had a lot of good times also, and you do have some feelings for him. You may also still want to stick with him because there is a comfort zone between you guys but for him to admit to his own girlfriend that talking to other girls as if they're girlfriends highers his self esteem, that is really wrong of him as I'm sure you know. If his self esteem is that low he is going to continue doing this and treating you as his "permanent girlfriend". You may want to break things off with him so he stops hurting you and find a really nice guy who is right for you and doesn't talk to other girls like he has feelings for them. Maybe if you both take a break he will realize how much he needs you and learn his lesson OR you can end it totally. I'm only suggesting you end it for now so that you don't get hurt. Especially, how would you feel if you married him and found out he was acting this way with other girls. It would be a bad situation. I really hope this helped and if you need more advice or have more questions please feel free to ask me! =) It will all work out fine =).
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