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Best Guy Friend.
My best guy friend usually helps me through everything, he seems to understand and listen. But recently he hasn't seemed to care about me as much. He used to call a few times a week and ask how I was doing, and if I had a problem we'd talk it through.
It's been 11 days and he hasn't called once. I feel like he really doesn't care about me anymore. Today he helped me with a problem but only because I told him I had one, and I felt like he felt he HAD to help me. I only see him on the bus to school, and I never ask about it. I don't know, I've tried talking to him about the not caring thing and he says, "How am I supposed to know you have a problem if you don't tell me?" I mean yes, that is understandable, but he used to check in with me at least.
I don't know what to do. It's honestly really hurting me, I cry everynight, and have NO ONE to talk to. I feel like I'm losing my best friend, PLEASE help me. Anything is good!
He's 16/m, and I'm 16/f.
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Hey. Maybe your friend is really stressed out about something and really is trying to get through it. He seems the type that likes to help other people more than helping himself and now that he has a problem of his own, he feels helpless and sad. He may not be the type to admit somethings wrong with him since his position is to be the "helper". I would talk to him and ask him if anything's the matter and if you can help him out since he always helped you. Then tell him you miss your relationship and really hope it can get back to the way it was. Maybe you got too close and needed a short break. I wouldn't worry because this happens to everyone and your relationship should be better in no time. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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It's only 11 days though. Tell him you want to talk to him. Tell him that you liked it when you did. I'm sure he cares but maybe you should call him?
He might check in with you again. Just try talking to him and ask him if he's been busy lately. Just say that you miss talking to him and things.
It does sound like he liked/likes you. But you really need to work on that communicate before he drifts away.
He may be stressed out, has a girlfriend or he probably thought he was calling you too much?
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Hmmm, I have one. Had one at least. But I lost him as he went off to college, got a job, and a gf, and blah blah.
Your guy friend is probably stressed out about something, maybe there are a lot of things (good and bad) going all around him. Or he may just be growing apart. Just make sure you don't act like YOU're the only one who needs to be asked "Anything wrong" Ask your guy friend if anythings wrong or if anythings going on. Tell him if you have a problem because if you don't and you complain about it (no matter how many times he checked on you in the pst), he's bound to get a little pissy. Shift the focus on him for a while, okay? And don't let him go.
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i had that same problem with my best guy friend last month and it was horrible. The reason he became distant and mean was because he got a girlfriend though. I dont know if your best guy friend got a girlfriend but that could be one reason why hes changed. I would talk to him at least and ask he why he's acting this way. Send him an email or talk to him in person about the way you feel now that hes being a 'jerk' if you will. If he acts mean about it, then just give him some space and talk to some of your other friends. I would suggest getting closer to some of your other friends too so that you can have someone to talk to when hes too busy or whatever.
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It sounds like your bestfriend had a crush on you...and when he realised that he didnt have a chance with you he gave up really trying to be your friend...or he has a girlfriend and the girl doesnt like him talking to other girls...or maybe something is bothering him...maybe you should ask him whats wrong see if he says anything
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