Question Posted Thursday January 25 2007, 11:07 am
I dont know what to do. Music has taken over my life. Its basically taken over any kind of life I have. I really dont want to see my boyfriend or friends anymore because I want to play my guitar. And another thing, everyone makes fun of the music I listen to because its mostly old stuff. I cant help it! Thats just what I like. What do I do?
leLovely answered Friday January 26 2007, 9:42 pm: music IS amazing. honestly, i have no idea where i'd be without it. it's an incredible thing to love, and you truely are gifted if you have a talent in music. if you like old music, then keep listening to it! who cares if everybody thinks it's weird. i know how you feel. my friends tease me about the music i listen to too, because i'm constantly playing my violin, and have been for years. i'm used to it and i just learned to ignore them. my friends don't really understand, but they've learned to get over it. it's alright that you love music so much. it is incredible. it's better than you ditching your friends to smoke crack. haha. old music is amazing too, so keep listening to it =] [ leLovely's advice column | Ask leLovely A Question ]
LagunaBabe answered Thursday January 25 2007, 10:52 pm: I wouldn't worry about the people making fun of you, because you like the oldies. Hey, I'm fourteen and I love George Jones, Loretta Lynn, Beatles, Conway Twitty and all that good stuff. It may be old, but that doesn't mean it's not good. Which you realize that, so I think it's great. Honestly, don't worry about it. Truth be known, they probably make fun of you and hide all of their oldies in their closet, ha, ha.
uisforukelele answered Thursday January 25 2007, 9:06 pm: i think you just described me. music definitely rules my soul. and that's perfectly fine with me! because that's what i want to do for the rest of my life: play music professionally. don't pay attention to other people and what they think about the music you listen to. i listen to the blues, and my best friend thinks that is so retarded. but she isn't into music at all. so i think it's her loss. what do you do? don't do anything about it! music is an amazing thing to be obsessed with. and i would know because i've played piano for more than half of my life. honestly, i would rather play music than watch tv, get on the computer, or hang out with my friends. and it's paid off because people ask me to play at their weddings and jam with them at gigs and stuff. but most importantly, it's the most fun thing i've ever done in my life. embrace the music. it's not a bad thing at all. you know, my best friend and i are polar opposites. she's ditzy and dances, and i'm smart and i'm really artsy. so she makes fun of me for liking the things that i do, but i am perfectly fine with that because my hobbies are really respected, whereas her favorite hobby is shopping. music is just amazing. it's something you can carry with you all through life, whether or not you play it for a living. so my advice to you is not to change anything about your lifestyle based on what your friends say. it's definitely worked for me so far. [ uisforukelele's advice column | Ask uisforukelele A Question ]
xcheerbabex108 answered Thursday January 25 2007, 4:08 pm: Who the hell cares what other people think. Personally, in my opinion, music equals my life. And I'm being honest. I mean, sure, don't cut yourself off from your friends, or your boyfriend, but there is nothing you have to do. Be who you are. [ xcheerbabex108's advice column | Ask xcheerbabex108 A Question ]
careless-fun answered Thursday January 25 2007, 3:08 pm: You don't have to do anything. Music seems like it is your passion. And don't try to stop. Because you never know if you become a famous musician. And all of the kids that are laughing at you now, are going to be wishing they supported you. And even if you dont become famous. You are just being yourself. And never try to change yourself for anything or anybody. [ careless-fun's advice column | Ask careless-fun A Question ]
MizzJ answered Thursday January 25 2007, 2:18 pm: Dont worry bout them makin fun i mean there isnt anything wrong wit listenin 2 old music i like old music everyone has something dat they like alot and music is jus wat you like but as far as your friends you can have them 2 work on your music wit you [ MizzJ's advice column | Ask MizzJ A Question ]
ductape_n_roses answered Thursday January 25 2007, 2:06 pm: Music is my life and I don't regret it. . .
Haha anywhos, although you may want to attach yourself to the guitar, disconnecting yourself from your peers is erm..a little iffy.
Have your bf and friends join you with your music. Exchange music, listen to each others music, and blah blah. Learn to play a song on the guitar that they like and have them sing a long ..yeah cheesy advice.
And other people making fun of your music gives you great reason to make fun of the music they listen to. Although I don't encourage it. Just let them make fun of it because they'll get tired of it. Ask them what makes the music they listen to so superior and just leave it at that. There is no guide line where it says you have to listen to this and that so as long as you enjoy it, ignore the other people [ ductape_n_roses's advice column | Ask ductape_n_roses A Question ]
angie91 answered Thursday January 25 2007, 2:02 pm: Well first of all, you do have to monitor how much guitar you play, it may be more fun than hanging with friends, but its important to hang with your friends and bf once in a while to get out of the house, and have some interaction, other wise you could slip into depression and some other serious stuff. I honestly think that if you think its controlling your life, then maybe you should limit the amount of time you spend playing. Say like two hours a day max!(maybe thats alittle unreasonable but say you play ten hours a day normally, then limit it to a number about two hours off of that so 8-6type of thing) And try and find an out door activity that keeps you active and you can have fun with your friends. then try and bring the number of hours down gradually more and more. And make sure that you dont fill your addiction (for lack of a better word) with something else thats just as bad or worse (say smoking, or spending time on the computer) try and find something fun that will let you hang out with your friends.
As far as the music thing, I love country, and all my friends hate it, so I just listen to it when I'm at home. Don't change yourself for your friends. Listen to their music when their around and even if you dont like it whatever, its a couple of hours every now and then, do can go home and listen to what ever you want right? Also, I don't think that listening to music is an obsession that needs to be fixed, but if you feel that thats all you are doing, then limit that number as well.
Remember you're an awesome person, and if you're inside playing your guitar all day who are you showing off your other awesome talents to? Good luck, hope that you can learn to love music and still have a good mix. Once you figure out how to do that then life should go smoothly. Good luck! Love,
Angie91 [ angie91's advice column | Ask angie91 A Question ]
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