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I'm Johanna. I'll Come and Go. What can I say? I try.

One thing I LOVE to do is to analyze dreams. Just tell me about a dream you had, and I'll help you understand what it means. :)

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Stories always seem to have happy ending, so why isn't real life the same?

Because that's what we all hope for inside, is that life could be great, and everything could be perfect. We all want to fall in love, and be happy. But that just doesn't happen in real life. And since it doesn't happen, people try to make up for it by writing stories with happy endings, the way they sometimes want their life to be. It's terrible. Most movies and stories aren't realistic.

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can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =]

That is way too young! Everyone I know that lost their virginity that young, 100% regretted it. I've talked to my friends and they've told me that they now hate the guy they lost it to and that it was a really bad decision. Also, many of my friends have been close to becoming pregnant, because they A.) didn't have access to a condom and didn't use one. or B.) didn't know how to use a condom the correct way. There are many consequences of having sex that young, but there are no consequences in waiting. Personally, I think 18 is the best age to start having sex, but that's only if you are in a stable relationship and 100% want to.

When you're 13/14/15, chances are, the relationship is not stable. It may only last for a few weeks or a few months. Many guys at that age can be immature too, and they may dump you after they've had sex with you a few times, so they can get someone else to do it with them. The best thing to do, is wait until at least 17 and be in a stable relationship for at least 4-5 months. That's how it happened for me.

OH GEE, THANKS FOR CHANGING MY RATING TO A 2, THAT REALLY HELPS SO MUCH! TOTALLY LOVE THE WAY THE "CUSTOMER" IS ALWAYS RIGHT ON ADVICENATORS, AND THE PEROSN WHOS ASKING THE QUESTION CAN BE A TOTAL BITCH, BUT IF THE ADVICE COLUMNISTS ARE MEAN AT ALL, THEY GET BANNED!

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Which color should I do? I have light brown/medium brown hair. And I have crimson red and huckelberry blue semi-permanent dye. Im not doing it on my whole head, just a few streaks. Which one?

I think the crimson color would be good for your hair color. It will compliment your brown hair and bring out shine in it. Blue might look good as well depending on your exact shade, but I do think you'd look quite stunning with the crimson.

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the only pimples i ever get are under the skin
and they hurt really bad!
i have one right now and its like killing me!
ive tried toothe paste, visine, and a hot rag
none of it works!
any suggestions?!

Those are so annoying! I have a few right now.
Well honestly, I can't stand if there's anything
on my face that shouldn't be there, so I
usually try to pick them.
In under the skin pimples, there's usually
no "white spot" to pop.
Sometimes I take a needle or a safety pin,
and push it in, to sort of deflate the pimple.
It may bleed a little but it makes the pimple flatter.

To completely get rid of it,
you need something strong.
Look for a pimple cream,
with Salicylic Acid OR Benzoyl Peroxide in it.
They can be found in most pimple creams,
at your grocery store.

I'd sugguest any Clearasil products.
Also, you might want to get an
exfoliating face scrub.
This will help to get rid of pimples,
and to prevent new ones from forming.
Anything that says "exfoliating" on it will be good.

If you need something stronger,
see your doctor.
He/she can prescribe you a
more effective acne cream.
Such as Benzaclin (I use it- its amazing!)
or Differin. You can ask your doctor about it,
and insurance will cover most of the cost.

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So today i had sex
I was on my period but my period stops for hours at a time, and sometimes even for a day.
It was stopped for a while, and i had sex during that time [with a condom].
I saw all the cum in the condom, but im scared that some got out.
There weren't any hols in the condom, Am i just being paranoid?
Or should I be worried?

The only way you can get pregnant is if the condom you used broke or had a hole in it. You probably learned this in seventh grade. If you didn't feel anything enter through you, and the condom didn't break at all, then you're most likely not pregnant. Watch your period for a while, and note any strange side effects. Also, next time, wait to have sex until you're sure nothing can happen, or if it does, you'd be able to deal with the outcomes.

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Whats the difference between bi and bi-curious?

Well, I don't really believe in Bisexuality. There is a very small amount of people who are truly Bi.

It's very possible to be "Bi-curious." Or, how they should call it, "Gay-curious." It basically means that you're attracted to the same sex to some extent.

This doesn't mean you want a relationship or to get physical with the same sex, but you may develop something like a crush. Most people DO go through phases where they think they're "Bi." I went through one a few months ago, and now I've realized I only like guys.

In the end, you'll have to decide whether you like girls better, or guys. Why not both? Because in the end, you're going to end up with either a girl or a guy. You cannot be dating or married to a girl and a guy at the same time.

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do you get pirates these days? my freind said you do, and they live life on the sea, but what do they do? "gang on boats" is how he describes them. so do you get pirates now?

Well, of course Jack Sparrow is real! He lives in my backyard!

Haha, just kidding. Yes, there are modern day pirates, but they don't have the big, wooden ships and they generally don't use swords. They're not looking for any gold or "treasure." They have more modernized boats, they could even have something like a speed boat. They are basically gangs, and they often attack other boats and take money/valuable items. They're pretty rare, so nothing you have to worry about.

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[I am a highly spriritual person]
16/F
I had been in a relationship for two years. I really loved this guy. He was 18 and called Dan. For me though, the grass was always greener, and I kept leaving him for other people. It was awful. I always went back to him when I realised he was all I wanted, but then someone else came along.

We broke up about 2 months ago. For the last time we agreed. No more getting back together. It was long over due. I started seeing this guy, Matt. We went out a few times during mine and Dans break ups. We had previously been out a few times before me and Dan knew eachother.

Matt was going out with this girl, Liz, when me and Dan broke up. I told Matt that I liked him. I told him that I didnt want to break them up, I just wanted to let him know. He then broke up with Liz and invited me around his house. I went. I was really nervous and Matt told me we needed to talk about "us". I guess we really did but I avoided the issue and slept with him instead.

Now, everyone considers us "going out" even though he didnt ask me out. I would have said no, after Dan i realised I am not relationship material. Its not fair to mess people about.

Dan's friends never accepted me, and Matt's mates really get a long with me. It feels so good to be liked. I can just be myself.

But I dont love Matt. I love Dan. Last night Dan came around, and we made out. It started to lead on to sex but I didnt think getting caught up in the moment would do either of us any good. He still loves me.

I did a tarot card reading. But I got mixed messages. It told me that the basis of our relationship was, "A new phase or fresh start, having vision or faith in oneself. Enthusiam. PLayfulness. Trust. A sense of protection". But when it got to where are relationship is going, it said, "Conquest, defeat, destruction of others, Ememies seek your dishonour. Quarrels, Rivalry, no clear winner. Confused priorities, spitefullness".

Can anyone make sense of this for me? Should I be with him or not?

Cheers // Love xXx

To me, your tarot card reading sounded completely accurate. I think what it's trying to say is that your relationship with Matt is very new and "fresh" to you because the only love you had known before him, was Dan. However, this could go both ways. You may have had a fresh start with Matt, but now you also may be having the chance to have a fresh start with Dan too.

Right now, You may not really be sure how to carry on a normal a relationship again. You're not sure how to handle this relationship with Matt, because the only relationship that sticks in your mind is the one you had with Dan. You want to like Matt, but deep down, you know that Dan is still there in your heart.

As for where the relationship is going, that sounds pretty accurate as well. You're having a hard time choosing between Matt and Dan. Maybe you're afraid that if you go back to Dan, you're only going to end up breaking up again. You think you don't want to go back to Dan, so that's why you keep holding on to Matt. But at the same time, you know you miss Dan. You just don't want things to end up the way they were last time.

Basically, the tarot cards are telling you to make a decision before someone's heart gets broken. If you don't decide now, they both could get away. If you continue to see Dan AND Matthew, you may "destroy" one of them.

I think that you should give Dan another chance. You are stuck on this relationship and if you know that you love him, then it's worth another try. There is no point in going out with Matt, if all you can think about is Dan.

Think carefully and make a choice. I think you should try it with Dan again, and tell Matt the truth about it. There's no need of breaking his heart. If you don't want to get back together with Dan, maybe you need to find a completely new person.

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Lol yeah I know this is random but I have trouble falling asleep and what I do is create a story in my mind and plan out every scene and what everything looks like. It helps me fall asleep. Like I just think of a subject and then I picture it happen to me but go like full out detail and it helps me fall asleep. For example: picturing myself living in a really cute city apartment in NYC, my room all how I would like it, and then its about me going to a school dance or being picked randomly on the street for a role in a movie because I'm 'perfect for that role'

Anyways, my question is anyone who can think of more ideas for a story while I fall asleep please put them here. Sorry if you don't understand what I'm saying. Its crazy idea, I know, lol, but it helps, you should try it.

Anyways thanks so anyone who can help me think of more ideas are all accepted and I'll try them out

Wow, I do that too! I've never known of anyone who also does that!

Some of my most common ones are:

1.) A Run Away Romance story, where I run away with my "true love." We go into the forest, and then to the ocean. There are no other people around...and I don't know, you can go ANYWHERE from there.

2.) My job when I get older, I sometimes imagine myself as a journalist on a newspaper or a writer in a magazine. I think about how busy yet still fun my life could be. (sort of like in 13 Going On 30.)

3.) And then, sometimes I think about what it would be like to be on a reality TV show. Like, on MTV, they always have the show, "Newlyweds," and "Meet the Barkers." Well, I imagine myself on one of those, and just the crazy things I'd do. Or I just imagine that I'm a celebrity and getting the "star treatment" all the time. You could do a lot with the celebrity one.

4.) Maybe just thinking about what it would be like to get married, and start a family. Sort of like the NYC one, but you can mix it up a bit with where you live and who you marry.

5.) The most common "story" I think of, are very depressing, tragic stories. They somehow help me to fall asleep, but I don't really think they would work for you considering, the NYC story seemed to be a pretty happy one.

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i am 21/f. how every sister wants a younger sister to do hair and make up and just girl stuff with. my little sister is so different. i miss her when we were little. shes just such a gloomy and dark person now. i moved out and i live far away right when i turned 18. our family was always just so bad and mean. shes not old enough to move out shes 13. our mom wont let her even go stay with me fo a week end or even come see me i have to go there. it takes over an hour to drive there. we hate our mom shes even harder on my little sister than she was on me. i feel so sorry for her. i dont know what to do. she hates our mom...she wears dark clothes has a dark personality and wears dark and alot of makeup but when i wanted to do makeup for her she was just no... no... no... no... no... no... no. god shes so depressed. shes not girly anymore at all shes worse than anyone. shes so deppressed now and shes so sneaky now. i cant listen to her music,see who shes talking to,see her room,meet her friends,see her friends list on her phone. shes wanting death soon shes driving mee so crazy ill be wanting death. she denys everything. our mom gets on her about everything and she wont listen, well neither will my mom or my sister. she wont let her wear what she likes or talk to or listen to what she wants, although she does anyway i knew she would i would too our mom wont let her do squat,god. how do i help my sister, by just me and my sister or me and our mom, anything? although our mom wont listen. what do i do to help with any of this?

If your sister wants to be "dark" and "gloomy" for right now, then it's her choice. You can't really just ask her to not be like that anymore. Chances are, the more you tell her to do something, the more she is going to rebel and keep acting this way. The way she dresses and the music she listens to is completely her choice and you can't change it.

I think what your sister needs is a little space. From what you wrote above, it sounds like you're trying to hard to be friends with her, or to change her back into her previous self. If she doesn't want you to do her makeup or if she doesn't want to hang out with you, then don't ask her anymore. She has a problem that only she can solve for herself. Not you. Not your mom. Like I said, the more you bug her about it, the more she is going to rebel. For the time being, just try to give her some space and let her be who she is.

Maybe you could try calmly talking to her about this, and asking her if there's anything on her mind that she wants to talk about. Tell her you understand some of the things she may be going through because afterall, you were once her age and you also had to deal with your mother. Just Do NOT say something like, "What happened to you? You used to be so different." That is probably the worst thing you can say to her right now. Your sister needs someone to support her, and since your mom isn't supporting her, she needs you to.

If talking to your sister doesn't work, you need to talk to your mom. You're 21 years old, and you are an adult. Do not be afraid of your mom or think that she won't listen to you. As an adult living on your own, you should have the right to confront your mother about her behaivor. Tell your mom exactly how you feel, and if you think she's being too hard on your sister. If this does not work out, sugguest going to family counseling.

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basically my subject. what is most appealing in a girl to a guy? and why do guys like really slutty girls?

Because guys are immature assholes that only want to get laid?

Haha, well most of the ones I know are anyways. There are a few rare guys that actually look into a girl's personality. I've talked to my guy friends about this, and they've said that they want a girl who's, cute, nice, and laughs at their jokes. Looks are always going to matter somewhat to a guy, but I think looks matter to a girl as well, I know they do for me. Basically, most guys won't like you if you're real opinionated or bitchy. (Which I totally am.) And then there's the sad truth, that many people are just looking to get laid. But there are some guys out there that AREN'T like that. You could get lucky. :]

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15/f

Is it worth it to wait till I'm done high school to start dating again?

I got this idea from my friend, since most guys in high school ( in mine/hers anyway ) are absolute idiots, whether it be logically, academically, or just in general.

That is very true, and at times I feel the exact same way.

Now, to your question, my personal opinion would be, yes, it's worth it to wait to date until you're done with highschool. Right now, you should be focusing on doing well in school and possibly maintaining a good relationship with your friends. Having a boyfriend is not everything. In fact, most highschool relationships are very short and usually end in heart break. There is no use chasing after guys or dating any random loser, just because you want a boyfriend. However, it may seem like noone likes your ight now, but in the future, especially when you get to be in 11th/12th grade, you could possibly meet someone that you like. You might be thinking, "No, I already know everyone." Well, that's exactly what I think about my highschool too, but in reality, there are probably a few people you don't really know.

Besides, boys will get more mature especially when they start to hit 16/17. If you're only in 9th grade, you don't want to make any huge decisions about dtaing right now, because you might change your mind later. From experience, I can tell you that 7th, 8th, and 9th grade suck when it comes to dating, because girls have matured and most guys are still on that 12 year old mental level. Don't be discouraged though- some guys do grow up. Eventually.

I would just take life as it comes. Meaning that, I wouldn't worry about whether you have a boyfriend or not. If someone you really like comes your way, give dating a try if you want. But don't waste your time on some random loser just because you really want a boyfriend. Afterall, you don't need a boyfriend to be happy. For now, just be happy with yourself for being so independent. You may date in highschool, you may not. It's not really important. When you get to college, people will be much more mature and you're likely to find more dating opportunities there.

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Can someone tell me a really simple yet effective way to put on eyeliner?

Well, I'm not exactly sure what you're asking, because there aren't that many ways to put on eyeliner. But, I find an easy way to put it on is to dip the tip in a little bit of water, or a tiny bit of vaseline or neosporin. This will help the eyeliner to go on more smoothly and quicker.

As for where you put it, I usually just outline the bottom of my eye. Then I extend it out to the corners of my eye. If you want a more dramatic look, you can put it on both the top and bottom.

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i watch degrassi and they mention the girl heather sinclair a lot, but i never saw her?

who is she?

She is a mystery to the show. She is very popular, kind of like Paige. Most of the students do not like her, if you've heard them making jokes or critisizing her. She sometimes fights with Paige for power and popularity. She beat Paige for the Prom crown one year, and is disliked by many classmates for her overtweezed eyebrows and nose job. Degrassi never shows what Heather Sinclair looks like- it's probably just a technique to add suspense to the show. However, in episode #410, she is shown in a yoda class, but you cannot see her face.

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hey. i have a bf and im not supposed to. so he leaves me comments and stuff. and my sisters have a myspace and i dnt want them to see the comments hes leaving cus they will tell my mom that i have a bf. is there anyway i can like hide my comments just from certain people but not to all my friends? haha i doubt there is but can u give me some suggestions. thanks

There's no way to hide your comments from just certain people. You could always delete your sister from your friends list and block her. Or you could delete her and then set your profile to private.

If you don't want to delete her, there is a way you can hide all of your comments. But they will not appear to anyone but you. It is a code you copy and paste into the very end of the "Who I'd Like To Meet" section.

Here's the link for the code:

http://www.pimpwebpage.com/hidecomments.php

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Hi, I'm 15/f. And I'm 4'11. I wanna to know things I can eat, drink, or do to get taller.
By the end of this summer, I want to grow at least 3 inches. Please, I really want to get a bit taller.

Ps: Please don't tell me "Just eat a balanced diet" or as to why I wouldn't be able to grow. Just answer if you know what I can do.

Take a vitamin supplement and drink milk. Try to stay away from coffee and soda. It hasn't really been proven that they stunt your growth, but they are unhealthy for you anyways. Get a good amount of protein, specificially lean meats such as turkey and chicken. Make sure you are getting enough. If you don't like meat, try beans or nuts for protein.

You can also stretch every day. Stretching your legs, or exercising might help. Though, you probably won't gain 3 inches over one summer. You could grow about an inch to an inch and a half. Mostly, it's just up to your genes. (Like, if your mom and dad are short.)

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I really really love all the Buddy4U's . The really good quote profiles. Does anyone here have one I could see? I really would love to make one like that. I just dont know how to go about that.
HELP

Well, here's my Buddy4U:

http://www.buddy4u.com/view/?u=NovemberRain

I haven't really updated it since last summer, but I do have tons of quotes and graphics in it.

What do you want to know about making a Buddy4U? You have to know a good amount of HTML (web code) to make one. Start out by getting a layout for your main page and working from there. If you need some layouts, I have a lot in my Buddy4U and many other people have layouts as well.

To make quotes, just experiment with different fonts and colors. Do you know the HTML codes to change the font style and color? If you don't, try going to google and searching, "How to change font color" or "how to change font."

I actually made a lot of my quotes on Xanga, since theya re easier to make on there. I posted my quotes in my weblog, then I clicked the button, "Edit HTML." I copied all the HTML codes for them and pasted it into my Buddy4U.

Hope I helped.

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14/f

Hey. Basically Im depressed. About my whole life. I have different issues like school work and guys and i really do not want to go to an adult about this. I dont know if im really depressed or am i just bored. Like i havent had a boyfriend since october. I really dont know, i should be very happy right now because i won this contest, but im not. I cry everyday, and nothing big happened that i should be depressed about. I mean there are little things but seriously im so confused right now and i realy need help. I do talk to my friend but she has no adivce cuz shes going through the same thing. Please help

I used to feel like this all the time, and it's completely normal. School, work, and guy problems, combined, is a lot to handle. And you might feel hopeless about life, like nothing's ever going to get better. I've been there, and I think the majority of people have too. Chances are, it may seem like noone else feels the way you do, but most people just hide it. You're not alone.

Grades 7-10 are and will be the hardest times of your life. For one, the work starts to get harder and expectations for school get higher. That's why 8th and 9th grade can be especially stressful. There's really not a lot that you can change about that, you just have to try to "break" school into pieces. Focus on getting one assignment done at a time, and don't overwhelm yourself trying to get a million things done in 5 minutes. Yep, school may seem horrible now, but once you get the hang of it, later in highschool, it gets easier to manage.

I tell people this all the time. You don't need a boyfriend to make you happy. I was single for a whole year, and every time I am single, I always think that I want a boyfriend. Then when I get one, I am completely miserable and want to break up within a week. It's not that big of a deal if you don't have a boyfriend right now. When you're 14, it's not really worth it because nothing lasts at that age. Besides, boys aren't really mature at that age either. It's better to wait until you get further into highschool. Actually, even having a boyfriend in highschool doesn't matter. You have your whole life to find a guy you really like. It's all about what you're comfortable with and if you are truly happy having a boyfriend. Honestly, there's nothing wrong with you. It's the boys. So if you can't find one you like, enjoy being single, or make up a fake one if you really want one. (Haha...I've done that many times.)

The little things in life are what matters the most! Noone's life is perfect, and if anyone seems like that, then they're obviously sweeping all of their problems under the rug and ignoring them. Of course your life isn't going to be wonderful right now, because you're only 14 and you can't do much. Try not to see life as "all or nothing." This means, don't think you're a complete failure because your life isn't perfect. Try to think of any good things about your life. You have friends, a family, maybe a house, maybe a pet, a bed to sleep in, food to eat. See, a lot of people don't have that so you should appreciate the things you DO have instead of what you DON'T have. Find a reason to smile every day. It may be the littlest thing, like winning a contest, but it doesn't matter as long as it can make you happy for that day. The other day, my mom told me that I was starting to look taller, and that made me really happy. If you can just find one reason to be happy every day, you will be a lot better off.

You probably are a combination of bored and depressed. You might be depressed BECAUSE you are bored. And it sounds like you need more than just my advice. Try starting a journal if you don't already have one. When it feels like noone will listen to you, your journal will. It could be a paper journal or, I have started to write my journal in a Document Writer Program on the computer. (Such as Word Processor, Word Pad, or Microsoft Word.)

You just have to realize that life WILL get better. It is not going to be like this forever because everything changes over time. In a year or two, everything could be totally different. You just have to stay positive about what the future could hold for you.

Sorry this is so long, but if you ever need to talk, I'm here! :]

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so im trying to loose some weight in 3 weeks. i dont expect to have a perfect body or anything like that. just to feel better about myself. i mainly want to loose weight & get in shape in the hips & arms area. I will be swimming laps for an hour every mon thru friday till then. so any tips?

Swimming laps is a great way to get in shape. It also might help with getting your arms in shape, since you use your arms to swim. An hour a day is the reccommended amount of cardio exercise, and you're going to be doing an hour of swimming, so that's good.

For your arms, you could also try lifting weights too. (Or if you don't have weights, lifting heavy objects works just as well.)As for your hips, you could try doing squats or side twists. Though, cardio exercise (swimming, running, biking, etc.) will probably be the best way to shape up your hips.

I'm not exactly sure how much weight you could lose in 3 weeks. You can't lose a whole lot in such a short period of time, but then again, I don't think weight matters. I'd rather just look in the mirror to see how my body looks, instead of looking at the scale. Keep in mind that muscle weighs more than fat, and if you want to build muscle in your arms, you could technically gain a pound or two from the muscle. (which isn't bad at all.) Even if you don't lose a ton of weight, you will probably notice some changes in the way you look and it will definitely make you feel better. Exercising for 3 weeks will do something for your body, but if you need to lose a lot of weight, that takes time.

You're on the right track, just stay motivated to exercise. Think about that reason why you want to lose weight and remind yourself about it if you ever feel like giving up. If some days, you feel like working out is hopeless, you have to push yourself to work out at least 30 minutes. Usually, once you get started working out, you won't want to stop. Working out actually increases a chemical in your body that helps you to feel happy.

And lastly, don't forget about an eating plan. There is no need for a diet because now that you're exercising, you need a lot of food to provide you with energy. Just try to cut back (but not completely) on junk food like candy, cookies, chips. You can still have a little junk food every day, but fruits, vegetables, grains, and lean meats are low calorie and will provide you with the energy you need to work out.

Good Luck. You can do it.

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what did YOU do when your dog/pet died?
my dog didnt die but when he does what do i do?

can you stuff him?

When some of my rabbits died,
I just buried them in my backyard.
We put angel and rabbit statues around it,
and planted flowers.

Yes, you could stuff your dog I guess,
if you took it to a professional.
You might be able to find a taxodermist in your area.
(fancy word for person that stuffes animals.)
Or if you can't, ask a vet.
It might be a bit weird, and depressing
if you had your dog stuffed though.
So you might change your mind about it.

Personally, I would find it
very sad to have to look at my dead pet everyday,
but I guess it's up to you.

For now, I would really try not to think
about your dog dying. Enjoy the time you have with him/her now. And don't think so far into the future.
(Unless your dog is dying...)

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