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Is it worth it to wait till I'm done high school to start dating again?
I got this idea from my friend, since most guys in high school ( in mine/hers anyway ) are absolute idiots, whether it be logically, academically, or just in general.
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I think that if you find a guy you like then date him. Dont not date him because your both still in highschool. Thats stupid if you ask me
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Who says you have to date only the guys that go to your school? Instead of looking for guys at school, look for them at the mall, at other schools, at the bowling alley, anywhere.
Yes, a lot of guys your age are immature, but not all of them. Give the good ones a chance.
Go out there and meet new people. Make friends with people in different schools and go to some of their parties. Even if you don't find anyone to date, you'll make lots of great new friends.
You don't HAVE to wait until high school is over to start dating, but don't give up on it just because the guys you know are immature. I promise they're not all like that.
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Of course its worth it to wait until high school is over. Why? If you got married at twenty-five, still relatively young, that is ten years from now and chances are that the guy isn't one you dated in high school.
It'll save you the drama, the headaches, the money, the time you could have spent with other friends or family, and a lot of other things. You should focus your time on you and your own needs, be it academic, physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, etc. Getting an education, finishing your studies, and getting started with your job/career is so much more important than dating guys right now.
Don't listen to those brainwashed girls that think love, or their own ideas of what it should be according to MTV and magazines, is the most important thing in life at your age. It really isn't. Most don't realize that until after they've made enough irreversible mistakes in their lives. Live your age and enjoy your youth and the hassle of not paying taxes haha. So yes it would be worth it, but that doesn't mean you still can't be friends with guys. From what I've heard, it is generally easier to be friends with guys than with girls. I'm not sure why that is. Less cat fights maybe? anyways, hope that helped.
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I think it would definitely be worth it to not date again until high school is over. It would probably make your grades better as well. Thinking all about guys in high school definitely doesn't help anything.
The only problem is that sometimes great guys come along when you're not looking for them. I'm dating a guy from another school right now and he was my first high school boyfriend (I'm a Junior) and I definitely wasn't looking for someone to date. You can't really know who's going to come along when you least expect it.
The best thing, I think, is to focus on school and your friends and family and hobbies that are important to you. Don't look for a guy to date, but if one comes along, don't fight it. High school is the time to have fun and start to realize who you are. Just enjoy it.
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That is very true, and at times I feel the exact same way.
Now, to your question, my personal opinion would be, yes, it's worth it to wait to date until you're done with highschool. Right now, you should be focusing on doing well in school and possibly maintaining a good relationship with your friends. Having a boyfriend is not everything. In fact, most highschool relationships are very short and usually end in heart break. There is no use chasing after guys or dating any random loser, just because you want a boyfriend. However, it may seem like noone likes your ight now, but in the future, especially when you get to be in 11th/12th grade, you could possibly meet someone that you like. You might be thinking, "No, I already know everyone." Well, that's exactly what I think about my highschool too, but in reality, there are probably a few people you don't really know.
Besides, boys will get more mature especially when they start to hit 16/17. If you're only in 9th grade, you don't want to make any huge decisions about dtaing right now, because you might change your mind later. From experience, I can tell you that 7th, 8th, and 9th grade suck when it comes to dating, because girls have matured and most guys are still on that 12 year old mental level. Don't be discouraged though- some guys do grow up. Eventually.
I would just take life as it comes. Meaning that, I wouldn't worry about whether you have a boyfriend or not. If someone you really like comes your way, give dating a try if you want. But don't waste your time on some random loser just because you really want a boyfriend. Afterall, you don't need a boyfriend to be happy. For now, just be happy with yourself for being so independent. You may date in highschool, you may not. It's not really important. When you get to college, people will be much more mature and you're likely to find more dating opportunities there.
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I guess you could say that. Trust me, when you get out of high school you won't remember the relationships you had or even want to. Just have fun in high school while you still can. Hope I answered your question.
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Hi.
I guess this doesn't really hasve a definitive answer. If guy where you're at happen to be idiots and morons then by all means don't feel you have to date them if you don't want to. When you do find someone you like then go for it. You may even end up meeting someone next week or something who may turn out to be someone half decent who you may never have thought of or even considered - sometimes it just happens. :]
On the other hand don't feel you have to date someone just to fit in or something like that especially if you feel non of the guys there are suitable enough (because of how you described they are).
I guess what I'm saying is if you prefer to wait then by all means wait until you find someone nice and someone you can relate to and like but know that we can't control who we like so planning that you won't date until your in high school may not work if tomorrow you meet the guy of your dreams. :]
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