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Tarot reading
[I am a highly spriritual person]
16/F
I had been in a relationship for two years. I really loved this guy. He was 18 and called Dan. For me though, the grass was always greener, and I kept leaving him for other people. It was awful. I always went back to him when I realised he was all I wanted, but then someone else came along.
We broke up about 2 months ago. For the last time we agreed. No more getting back together. It was long over due. I started seeing this guy, Matt. We went out a few times during mine and Dans break ups. We had previously been out a few times before me and Dan knew eachother.
Matt was going out with this girl, Liz, when me and Dan broke up. I told Matt that I liked him. I told him that I didnt want to break them up, I just wanted to let him know. He then broke up with Liz and invited me around his house. I went. I was really nervous and Matt told me we needed to talk about "us". I guess we really did but I avoided the issue and slept with him instead.
Now, everyone considers us "going out" even though he didnt ask me out. I would have said no, after Dan i realised I am not relationship material. Its not fair to mess people about.
Dan's friends never accepted me, and Matt's mates really get a long with me. It feels so good to be liked. I can just be myself.
But I dont love Matt. I love Dan. Last night Dan came around, and we made out. It started to lead on to sex but I didnt think getting caught up in the moment would do either of us any good. He still loves me.
I did a tarot card reading. But I got mixed messages. It told me that the basis of our relationship was, "A new phase or fresh start, having vision or faith in oneself. Enthusiam. PLayfulness. Trust. A sense of protection". But when it got to where are relationship is going, it said, "Conquest, defeat, destruction of others, Ememies seek your dishonour. Quarrels, Rivalry, no clear winner. Confused priorities, spitefullness".
Can anyone make sense of this for me? Should I be with him or not?
Cheers // Love xXx
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To me, your tarot card reading sounded completely accurate. I think what it's trying to say is that your relationship with Matt is very new and "fresh" to you because the only love you had known before him, was Dan. However, this could go both ways. You may have had a fresh start with Matt, but now you also may be having the chance to have a fresh start with Dan too.
Right now, You may not really be sure how to carry on a normal a relationship again. You're not sure how to handle this relationship with Matt, because the only relationship that sticks in your mind is the one you had with Dan. You want to like Matt, but deep down, you know that Dan is still there in your heart.
As for where the relationship is going, that sounds pretty accurate as well. You're having a hard time choosing between Matt and Dan. Maybe you're afraid that if you go back to Dan, you're only going to end up breaking up again. You think you don't want to go back to Dan, so that's why you keep holding on to Matt. But at the same time, you know you miss Dan. You just don't want things to end up the way they were last time.
Basically, the tarot cards are telling you to make a decision before someone's heart gets broken. If you don't decide now, they both could get away. If you continue to see Dan AND Matthew, you may "destroy" one of them.
I think that you should give Dan another chance. You are stuck on this relationship and if you know that you love him, then it's worth another try. There is no point in going out with Matt, if all you can think about is Dan.
Think carefully and make a choice. I think you should try it with Dan again, and tell Matt the truth about it. There's no need of breaking his heart. If you don't want to get back together with Dan, maybe you need to find a completely new person.
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I'm sorry but tarot card readings can not decide your future, only you can. It's up to you to decide who you want to be with.
If you think no one will ever measure up to Dan then you need to talk to him, tell him how you feel, and tell him that you still want a relationship. But you can't just leave him for other guys just because you think they're better. Because just like you said they're not, you just end up going back to Dan and that's not fair to him.
If you don't stop doing that then your relationship with him may actually turn out like the tarot card reading,(quarrels, confused priorties, spitefullness...) but it doesn't have to. It's 100% up to you how your relaionship turns out.
So if you do get back together with Dan, before you leave him for some other guy make sure you think of all the reasons you're with him to begin with and how you might regret it. Remember why you wanted to get back together with him every time you were apart.
::Jasmine::
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Do another one and the cards will probably clarify themselves. I'd stick with the traditional Celtic cross, since it's less likely to contradict itself. Next time give us the actual cards you drew, and in what position they were in, so we can give our interpretation.
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