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I hate to place such a long babblement on you, but I've always approved of your advice, so here goes.
Okay, so the issue at hand is essentially this: I like a guy, and he appears to like me. Or at least, he did.
My roommate kinda had a thing for this guy. But I started hanging out with him because we had a lot in common, and he sort of developed a crush on me. I hate to admit it, but my feelings for him kinda grew and I developed a pretty mutual crush on him.
He and I fooled around a little, I admit, but here's where it gets complicated.
He came to the dorm one time while my roommate was there, and we ended up laying on my bed talking.
My roommate proceeded to throw things at us and wholly piss us both off. She hit ME in the head at one point, and her friend was trying to get her to stop.
Since then, nothing has really happened with me and this guy.
I think he stopped because he doesn't want to deal with my roommate. Every single one of our friends, both his and mine, think there's more than just friendship between us.
Even our theory teacher, I think, knows something. We've come into class together a few times, we talk all the time, we're always the last to leave...
My issue is kind of this: On one hand, I'd like to continue whatever me and this guy have going...but I don't want it to escalate into a relationship because he's a good friend and I'm worried about losing the friendship.
So I guess my question is what should I do about this? Should I just let it go? I hate to admit that I'm attracted to him, but I am. My roommate is "kind of dating" someone else, so that's not a problem, really (it shouldn't be). I guess what I want is kind of a friends with benefits kind of thing, without it getting too complicated...
My first instinct is to talk to him about it, but I'm not sure that would pan out too well.
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Oh, I think you have to go for it.
OK, here is the reasons for you...hope I don't drone on to long!
You never know when the right guy is going to come along. I believe people meet for reasons. Some may just be friends, some will become more than that.
I just don't like the friends with benefits thing. That is a personal preference I know, but it is way to casual. Way to easy for it to get complicated.
As one who has been married for 30 years I can tell you this for sure. They guy you eventually marry will be you very best friend. If you don't take that chance you may just miss him.
Not saying at all that this guy is that guy (hows that for a sentence. I realize that relationship may be down the road a ways yet. BUT, I think you have to take that chance.
My daughter had the same dilemma not long ago. It didn't work out in the end but they are still the best of friends.
I can tell you one of the mistakes they made, and I think it made a big difference. Once they started dating, they started thinking to much! Really, instead of talking about everything under the sun like they had all along, they suddenly started thinking...maybe I shouldn't say that, how is he going to take that. etc.
They went into the relationship with the idea that if either thought it wasn't working out, or if it strained their relationship, they would stop dating. Which, is what they did.
Ultimately it wasn't the fact that they didn't get along anymore, he just drank a little to often and got argumentative when he did. If he ever stops that they may try again. For now though they remain friends.
I guess what I am trying to say is this...
If you care about the guy enough to want a relationship, talk to him about it. Before you even start let it be known that you want to stay friends. Get out before you hate each other if it comes to that.
Talk. All the time. Do not loose your friendship in the process of all the dating BS. For some reason once that dating starts people think they suddenly need to impress the other more than they did as friends. Discuss all that.
Don't let the roommate dictate who you date either. If he liked her at all he would be talking to her and not you. That's just they way it goes sometimes and isn't your fault at all.
I hope to hear that you talked with him and are
doing great!
Good luck in whatever you decide to do. :)
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this is really long, but i really would like some help,please.
first off, im having a bad week. on sunday i got arrested. now last night, this started. my mom came in my room to say goodnight... but acted strange about it. i yelled at her because she didnt knock first and she begged and pleaded for a hug and a kiss goodnight, and when i still refused she started to whine and said, "but i might not get many more oppurtunities"... so i gave her a hug, and a really long one, and then she left and went to bed eventually. about a half hour later, i was going to the bathroom, and on my way back to my room, i saw my mom. she gave me another hug, and looked like she was going to cry. she started saying how she was sorry for not knocking, and she was sorry for all the things she did that made me unhappy. (she listed a few that have happened over my life) then she said she wants me to try to be good to my sister, and help my dad. she said to listen to him. she told me she loved me at least 6 times. she told me one of the happiest moments in her life was the day i was born. she said the other two happiest were when she married my dad, and the day she had found out i had won an essay on "worlds greatest mother" that i had written about her. she said dad would need help with things if she wasnt around. then finally she said, you better get some rest, time for bed. i keep thinking about all of this, what could it mean? and then i remembered, she has bipolar disorder, and she may have something else too that i havent heard about. whats happening to her? this morning when i got up for school, her and my dad were still in bed, and snuggled really close. i asked if someone could take me to school and my dad said he would. (usually my mom takes me though) so then she told me she loved me alot, and lots more hugs. she gave me lunch money and said goodbye, have a good day. i noticed shes wearing her wedding ring, which she never wears because its so hard to get off, and she wouldnt want to leave it on during the shower or while shes asleep. her and my dad love each other, but usually, my dad is already up for work by 7:30 and they arent usually snuggled so close to each other in bed. my mom told me dad was still in bed because they both couldnt sleep. so i went to school, pondering this all day. when i came home, my mom was putting my sisters new school picture in a frame to put over the fireplace, next to mine. she pointed out to me that if i ever need it, a picture of her as a baby, of the day she was born, is in the frame too, just behind the other three. im getting suspicious of whats going on, so i said, why would I need it? she said because valerie (my sister) is going to have to do a project in her class this year where she may need a picture of herself when she was younger. my mom has been saying my dad is going to help me through my arrest, and i'll get through it, she knows i can. if this was going on with you, what would you think? whats up with all these things shes been saying lately? is she dying? (link)
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Ask her. Just come right out and ask her what she means by all the things she is saying.
Better yet, Ask your dad. Find out if he thinks she is depressed. Tell him what she has been saying to you. Do it as soon as possible.
Depression can make people do silly things. Tell dad immediately of your conversations with your mom.
I doubt she is dying. Make sure she isn't suicidal. I hate to just say it but you need to talk to your dad about this. :)
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Does anyone take my advice seriously. Some people think that 13 year olds arent mature, but I have been known to think and act like an adult.
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If your rating is good, then I am sure people think you give good advice, and take you seriously! :)
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i tried to keep it short...
i'm an imature 26, my x-love is 18 and just went off to school. a month before she left i said maybe we should cool it down, while your in school. we'lll figure it out if it's meant to be. she cried, and i felt really bad.. when she actuly left we decided to have an open relation ship, she said she wanted to make it work, i said open... then a week after she got there she broke up with me, she said it wasn't the same anymore, that out love wasn't exciting, then she said "i love you" before she got off the phone. it didn't make any sense, and i'm sure i bugged the hell out of her with text and phone calls i wouldn't end.... but i was going crazy... when she came back into town we hung out for a little while.. she said "you made me really happy and it scared me" that she "doesn't want to love anyone" i kissed her and asked her what she felt " i feel scared" i asked her what she thinks when she looks in my eyes "i lnow i love you" and we never really decided what we were going to do now (like we said we would when she came back) then i talk to her on the phone while she's with her friends and she starts screaming at me about it being over, but i can come see her before she leaves the diner she was at... i ask her why she's saying it's over now.. all i ever ask for is a reason she doesn't like me or like us... maybe it's crazy but i need to know... she never has an answer, "just because i don't want us to fit" ok this is to long... now she says i scared her with all my text.. eh... she won't say anything to me.. which makes me try to say the right things in a text or an email... trying to make her see that we shouldn't cut us off totaly... we should date or whatever you want to call it.. it's all i ever wanted since the day she left for school.. just a chance... just to be an option.. i love and just plain old like her som much.. i really want to see if there's another girl out there that tops her in my eyes.. so i'm all for dating, but she thinks she'll hold me back... i guess what i'm asking is.. how can this girl prety much say i love you so i can't even date you or see you... i know college is a strange time in life, well i guess to know.... but isn't love just love, i'm just so mad at myself.. so mad at her... we miss eachother, love scares her, and now all my love has made her scared of me... i didn't call before, just text... or email.. now i nothing, and she's just going to run away... i know this she's said it: "i usully run away from my problems, but i love you so much" that was the day she left for school, in bed.... should i really sit her and do nothing?
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When a guy says he wants to date other people (or even a girl for that matter),the girl just assumes in her head he is saying "you aren't good enough".
I know, that isn't what you meant, but that's how a female mind works. He wants to date others= Hes done with me, I am lacking somewhere.
Once people do that, they usually don't get back together. So, you will have to date others and hope she is still available when you decide you are done. OR, just stick it out with her.
I think if the desire to date others is there, then that's what you should do. She may not wait around for you though.
Girls don't usually go for the dating others thing. Most tend to be more into having just one guy. If she finds another, she will not be back. That's just the facts, though not what you want to hear I am sure.
I wish you luck. :)
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If you know what you are talking about please answer. I do not want some 13 year old who has no idea about this subject answering for ratings. I will not rate you if try anyway. Please no chatspeak and &hearts as well. Thank you.
I need some advice on frying. When I try to fry whatever food, it comes out greasy and not crispy. Either it is overdone, or it is underdone. It doesn't matter if it is a chicken, homemade french fries, potatoes, you name it I screw it up somehow. I have been trying for a long time, I just can't seem to figure out how to get it right. I use Olive Oil, Canola Oil, any regular frying oil. I try to keep the oil and about 350 degrees and I don't add too much food to the oil to lower the temp drastically. I do not know if it my technique or if it is the oil I am using. Any advice or tips would help greatly.
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Are you using an electric skillet by chance? I always had the same problem with them.
The thing that saved my chicken etc. was a cast iron skillet. Works great!
As far as it being greasy. It may be that you are cooking it to hot. I don't know the exact temp to use if it is an electric skillet you are using but on electric stove set it on medium temperature.
Another tip...Don't use a lid. Keeps the moisture in there, which you don't want for chicken or fries.
Another thing is I have found vegetable shortening to work best for frying (actually lard is best but ...yikes cholesterol).
If you are wanting to deep fat fry things like fries. You want the oil to get VERY hot before you even put the fries in. Putting them in to soon results in the first batch being pretty soggy. Make sure you use enough oil to cover in that case too.
In both instances a little drip of water off your finger into the skillet will tell you if it is hot enough to add food to it. If it sizzles its ready. Be Very careful not to put a bunch of water in it...it will jump out and burn you.
That is all I can think of at the moment. I am sure I forgot something. Let me know how it turns out next time. Hope something was useful to you. :)
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im 14 and me and my boyfriend have been goin out for a month now. i keep askin my mom if i can go to his house but each time she says no. i think she thinks we r gonna have sex and im only 14 im not ready for all of that yet. the most we would do is make out. how can i get her to let me go to his house??? we really want to see each other outside of skool but its kind of had cuz i hate when people come to my house and i like goin to his house and i've been there before but my mom wont let me go now. please help me. (link)
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Has your mom met him? Spent time with him? Maybe if you had him over a few times she might OK it next time he wants you to come over to his house.
Next suggestion...Is his mom going to be home when you visit? If so why not have him have his mom call yours and get it okayed? That would probably get you over to visit. :)
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hey I just pierced my labia myself and what do I need to do to keep it clean and I want my bellybutton pierced but my mom said no and dont even try for ways to get her to say yes because its not going to happen...should i do tht myself to could my brother sign the paper to get my belly done? 15/f thnx (link)
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You need to watch VERY closley for signs of infection. If you get any redness or swelling or pain...Get to a doctor immediatley.
Do not attempt to do your belly button. Both of these places are very slow to heal and very prone to major infections. Which is why mom is saying no.
Here is a site you need to read. It will tell you how long it will take to heal up, what to watch for as far as getting an infection, and how to clean it to help prevent infection.
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/body-piercing.html
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ok so my mom has been in alot of trouble with the law over drugs. We always usta talk and now something happened and now she is not calling me anymore. I try to call her but no one ever answers and now I starting to get worried. I also feel like I have done something wrong to may make her not wanna call me.It herts me and I wanna know why?? Please help my I wanna know!!
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Just try to remember that she isn't herself.
Drugs make people lose track of time among other things. They also make people paranoid and forgetful. Any number of things like that.
I am sure your mother loves you. She just happens to have a problem that you have no control over.
So don't take anything she says or doesn't do personally. You know in your heart it wouldn't be that way if she wasn't on drugs.
I hope for your sake as well as hers that she will one day get her life back on track. She has to want to do that for herself though.
In the meantime, check you local phone book for a support group of teen with a parent who is a drug addict. They can help you cope with what you are going through. Many will have the same problems. It would be nice for you to have someone to talk to who can really relate to what you are going through. Ask your dad about it, I am sure he or another family member would help you find a group to join.
Good luck :)
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Is it possible to have a orgasm when you're dreaming/asleep? (link)
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Yes it is possible. It is normal. :)
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oww. okay.. today my boyfriend was fingering me. He wasn't going all the way in right away, because he wanted to try to give me an orgasm by massaging my clit. Well it felt good at first.. and then LATER during the day we tried again. As he was doing it it starts BURNING. Just my clit though, not actually inside my vagina. But I had to tell him to stop because it burned so bad. And now when I go to the bathroom it burns so bad.. and I tried looking at it to see if there was anything wrong with it but nothing looked completely out of the ordinary or anything.
ive never had sex before, and its not the first time he's fingered me so I dont get why out of all places, my clit was what burned the most. Do you have any idea why it would burn so bad? IT felt good at first then it hurt whenever he touched it afterwards.
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He was probably to rough with you. Tell him not to do it so hard.
You are probably irritated. If it doesn't stop burning in a day or two you may want to check with a doctor. I think it will clear up though on its own. :)
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My dog has this giagantic bump on his forehead. The vet said that it was a siste (sp?) but it seems worse. Every time it gets bigger, he gets smaller, like skinnier. Is it affecting his eating habits? (link)
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Ah, poor thing. A cyst could have that affect on him I suppose. He probably doesn't feel good.
Ask your vet about it. You can probably just call him and ask him over the phone. Maybe there is something he can give you that will make him want to eat.
Good luck. :)
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My husband spends money almost non-stop, and we're going broke. I've tried several ways to stop him from spending like he does, but it's almost like it's an addiction for him. How can I get him to spend less money? I've shown him our budget and explain many times how important it is that we stick with it. Still, he's run our bank account into the negative twice in just a few months.
The best idea I've had is something like a pre-paid credit card. I'm not sure what I mean. For example, I put $100 on it, and he can spend and spend, but never go over his limit. Is there something like that? I'm open to any other ideas as well. Thanks! (link)
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Yes you can get prepaid credit cards. They work a lot like the prepaid phone cards.
If you have any of the regular credit cards, i would advise you get rid of them all together before a BIG mess drags you down.
I would not let him have any checks at all. Give him a cash allowance and when its gone he is done.
Thuggirls idea is a very good one too. :)
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If you aren't experianced I don't know if you want to read this.
My bf and I have been together for 1 year and 6 months and have been sexual active together for about 4 months.
Well he came over last night and we were fooling around and started having sex. Everything was going fine but then he started getting rough. It was getting to be wayyy too much for me so I told him to not be so hard. He didn't listen and just kept at it.
It got bad enough for me to where I broke out in tears and he still didn't slow down.
When he was about to finish off he took it out and cummed all over me adn my sheets. I usually don't have a problem with that but when we were done (or when he was done anyways) he wouldn't let me clean up. I wanted to take a shower so bad but he wouldn't let me. We just layed there and slept which was very uncomfortable for me because it was gross and sticky.
Now I don't know if I can be comfortable around him. He's never done anythign like this before. he always used to listen while we were in bed adn never went too fast or hard. I don't know what got over him. What should I do? 18/f (link)
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I think you need to ask him what his problem was.
Why did he not stop when you said to (which is a crime by the way), etc.
I don't know why after having been in a relationship for over a year he would behave like that. I for one wouldn't be alone with him again anytime soon...if ever.
If you do decide to stay with him (my advice is show him the door, sorry), then I would call the police if this happens again.
Do not put up with this kind of behavior from anyone. You are supposed to love someone when you have an intimate relationship. Love does not hurt. :)
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ok i had an abortion about 2 months ago.im back on bitrh control, my last period blood was red for like 1-2days then its was brown. ive been to the gyn to be treated for chilmidya and some other bacteria, the doc gave me meds, so that should be good right, now its about 1 week before my next period, im still taking my birth control and ive had brown spotting yesterday and today. what is wrong with me??? i need help. (link)
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Probably not a thing wrong but call the doctors office and tell them about it. They will tell you if it is okay, or weather you need to be seen by your doctor. :)
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OMG I just had the worst night ever at my job. Well I work in a large superstore in the clothing department. This lady wanted someone in the toy section to help her take down a game on the top shelf. I told her I'd help find someone from that department to assist her. Well I couldnt find anyone and then she started to get really mad at me. I was under a lot of pressure so I phoned the manager of the store. He said that no one showed up for work in the toy department that night, so no one could help her. Then I told him how mad she was and then he got mad at me and said "what what does she expect us to do??" and then I tried to calm him down and then he said he would send someone to help her. Well finally someone came down to help her but I'm really worried that I'll be in trouble for what I did. I didn't know what else to do, so I felt phoning the manager was the only option I have. Also, I have to be at work tomorrow and I'm terrified the store manager is going to complain about me to my supervisor. Does anyone have any advice? And do you think I'm in a lot of trouble? (link)
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You did the right thing. You tried to help the customer as best you could.
You shouldn't get in trouble. :)
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This girl that's my friend Jenna* and this guy that is my friend Greg* used to date. It was a nasty breakup. Well I stayed frieds with both of them. Well now me and Greg are really close. Like we hug at church and stuff but we are NOT dating. Now she thinks we have something going on. And she called me and said I saw his # in your cell phone and then I saw ya'll hugging...what is going on? I don't know what to do. I want to keep both of my friends please help! (link)
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Just tell her the truth. She will believe you or won't, thats her choice.
Don't you feel guilty about having him as a friend. :)
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ok i had a question who is the famous philosopher from way back in,his name starts with a "C" and it's not Confucius
could you please help me look it up?
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Maybe you are thinking of Cicero... Marcus Tullius Cicero, a Roman statesman and orator who lived from 106-43 B.C. ?
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how can you get away from the guy who likes you to be alone with your boyfriend? and how can you get him to kiss you, how do u hold the guy?/ i just need tips on kissing please help (link)
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Have your boyfriend say something to this other guy if he is that big of a pest. If you have tried and failed.
If he doesnt kiss you...kiss him. He will be pleasantly surprised.
Here is a website for tips on kissing. Actually 3
Good luck. :)
Kissing tips…………http://www.links2love.com/teens_kissing.htm
Kissing includes French & everything kissing…
http://www.partyhearty.com/kissingadvice.html
Kissing, is there a right way?
http://www.sxetc.org/index.php?topic=FAQ&sub_topic=Sex&content_id=656
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should i IM my ex-boyfriend? i've been wanting to talk/chat with him, but everytime i try to, i'm always whether scared or there's something to stop me. so, should i talk to him or not? (link)
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If you feel like talking to him, by all means give it a try.
Just because you aren't dating anymore is no reason you can't remain friends. :)
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When December comes, it will be 2 years since my first period..however, my flow isn't even...like I get it every 2-3 months...It's unexpected..I don't know what to do because I don't want to tell my mom to take me to a gynocologist...however I don't want to have a fertility problem when I'm older. I don't know what to do..should I just wait a couple more months to see if it straightens out or should I take action now? (link)
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I think you should at least talk to your mom about it.
She may be able to call the doctors office and get some info, but they will probably want to see you anyway.
I don't know if this might cause problems later in life. A lot of girls aren't real regular. Every 2-3 months though should probably be checked on. It is possible that the doctor can put you on the pill or something to help regulate them for you. Then, at least you would know when they were coming and wouldn't be taken by surprise.
Here is a website that explains a GYN visit. That way, if you do go (and I think it would be wise) you will know what to expect.
http://www.coolnurse.com/pelvic_exams.htm
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