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this is really long, but i really would like some help,please.
first off, im having a bad week. on sunday i got arrested. now last night, this started. my mom came in my room to say goodnight... but acted strange about it. i yelled at her because she didnt knock first and she begged and pleaded for a hug and a kiss goodnight, and when i still refused she started to whine and said, "but i might not get many more oppurtunities"... so i gave her a hug, and a really long one, and then she left and went to bed eventually. about a half hour later, i was going to the bathroom, and on my way back to my room, i saw my mom. she gave me another hug, and looked like she was going to cry. she started saying how she was sorry for not knocking, and she was sorry for all the things she did that made me unhappy. (she listed a few that have happened over my life) then she said she wants me to try to be good to my sister, and help my dad. she said to listen to him. she told me she loved me at least 6 times. she told me one of the happiest moments in her life was the day i was born. she said the other two happiest were when she married my dad, and the day she had found out i had won an essay on "worlds greatest mother" that i had written about her. she said dad would need help with things if she wasnt around. then finally she said, you better get some rest, time for bed. i keep thinking about all of this, what could it mean? and then i remembered, she has bipolar disorder, and she may have something else too that i havent heard about. whats happening to her? this morning when i got up for school, her and my dad were still in bed, and snuggled really close. i asked if someone could take me to school and my dad said he would. (usually my mom takes me though) so then she told me she loved me alot, and lots more hugs. she gave me lunch money and said goodbye, have a good day. i noticed shes wearing her wedding ring, which she never wears because its so hard to get off, and she wouldnt want to leave it on during the shower or while shes asleep. her and my dad love each other, but usually, my dad is already up for work by 7:30 and they arent usually snuggled so close to each other in bed. my mom told me dad was still in bed because they both couldnt sleep. so i went to school, pondering this all day. when i came home, my mom was putting my sisters new school picture in a frame to put over the fireplace, next to mine. she pointed out to me that if i ever need it, a picture of her as a baby, of the day she was born, is in the frame too, just behind the other three. im getting suspicious of whats going on, so i said, why would I need it? she said because valerie (my sister) is going to have to do a project in her class this year where she may need a picture of herself when she was younger. my mom has been saying my dad is going to help me through my arrest, and i'll get through it, she knows i can. if this was going on with you, what would you think? whats up with all these things shes been saying lately? is she dying?
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mabey she thinks its her fault that you were arrested and that if she were closer to you this wouldnt have happened especially when you yelled at her, she might have thought ok from now on imma treat you better....or mabey you should ask your dad why your mom is acting like this .good luck
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You should talk to your mom about all this. Let her know how you feel about everything that she has been saying and that you want to know what is going on. Just be honest with her about how you feel.
I hope everything is going to be ok.
I hope I helped
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Ask her. Just come right out and ask her what she means by all the things she is saying.
Better yet, Ask your dad. Find out if he thinks she is depressed. Tell him what she has been saying to you. Do it as soon as possible.
Depression can make people do silly things. Tell dad immediately of your conversations with your mom.
I doubt she is dying. Make sure she isn't suicidal. I hate to just say it but you need to talk to your dad about this. :)
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you have to talk to your mom about whats going on, and dont forget to be thankful for what you have, & remeber your family loves you always and forever so dont worry about talking to your family about whats going through your head and once you find out whats goin on i hope it will take some of your burden of your shoulders.
Love ** Tizzy
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Yes, her behavior is a bit troubling, and something maybe up... or not. Lets remember the first thing you said, you were arrested on Sunday. That's not like a small thing, its kind of a big deal. That really may have thrown her for a loop and made her feel that the family needs to be closer and work through the issues together. However, if you have a feeling in your gut that something else is going on, sit down with her have some quiet time alone over the holiday with her and find out what's going on. It may be something, it may be nothing and she may just feel that you are growing up and drifting apart. No one will really have the answer but her. Be prepared for the worst and be relieved when it isn't.
Good luck and keep me posted.
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I hope you find out what's going on..
Good luck ♥
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My mom would say things like that when she was going through fits of depression and conteplating suicide. either from the disorders she has(depression, fibromalygia syndrome) or when she was on her drugs. im not saying your mom is going to kill herself but i definitly think you should talk to a school counsiler before something very bad happens. The bi-polar disorder plays a huge role in the way shes acting. Shes talking about how much she loves you, and is saying things like "but i might not get many more oppurtunities" it's definitly not a good sign. Her dying could be a possibility, among other things, but im saying i think you really do need to talk to a school counsiler. And if you remember she said your DAD is going to help you through your arrest, and that youll get through it, and that she knows you can..what do you think her saying your DAD will help you throught it is indicating? Im not very sure but i do not think its very good. She could be either dying, contemplating suicide, or going away somewhere for a short, or, long amount of time. Theres other reasons for it too but you definitly need to find them before ..its too late. Something happens that you cant change. So i'd say first thing tomorrow morning you go to your counsiler and tell her that you think your mom is in danger and what shes been saying, and that its sort of a emergency for you to find out. honestly. i think what your mom is saying are words from someone who s having a very hard time. it could be from you being arrested too, that can have a very hard impact on a mother. alot of things go through their head when they find out something like that has happened to her child. she could possibly feel like shes failed as a parent or something along those lines, but those are just possibilities. like i said DEfinitly talk to a school counsiler, theyre here for you. I want you to do this because i want you to find out the truth, even if its harsh and hard to accept. I also want you to do it because i really dont want you, one day, regret how you didnt tell someone. I already know how that feels and id absolutely hate to see it happen to someone else. Im always here if you need someone to talk to and sorry for making this so long haha i just want to emphasize my feelings about whats going on. I wish you good luck to you and your family.
<3 connie <3
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Ok wow I am so sorry! I think your mom may have found out that she has a sickness that could be fatal...but it doesn'y mean she is going to die, she could just be overreacting. I'm sure she wants to tell you what's wrong, but she can't find the courage, so I think you should ask her why she's been acting this way. If she says nothing, then say. "Mom, please just tell me why you're acting this way." Most likely she'll be happy that you broke the ice and she'll tell you what's going on. And you know it might not even be a sickness,,it could be a mid-life crisis..or maybe she entered menopause and all her emotions are on full-drive! Whatever it is..she neeeds you to be there for her and give her hugs when she asks for them. I really hope it's nothing serious, and if yopu need to talk more just im me at angleyezxo21xo! Good luck! ♥ caitie
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wow im reallly sorry if that was my mom i would think the same thing but y dont you ask her if there is anything going on or ask her if she has cancer or is getting really sick. this really sucks i am very sorry and very worried please write me back and tell me the news good luck and i hope everything turns out well
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wow this is really hard.. but honestly i think she may be dying? i dont know but it seems like she is.. she seems like shes being nice to you and all the clues are saying something is going to happen to her.. im not sure but maybe shes being nice to you so you can be a better daughter? not saying you arent but she probably wants you to know that she's there for you and that she wants you to be good and be nice and maybe things will be better . i dont know though, i dont think this was much help but i wish you luck!
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