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Q: hey... you answered my ecstacy question. and you said ecstacy is very dangerous, like heroin, and acid. Well i think im done with ecstacy... but i really want to do acid.

What makes acid so dangerous?

heroin is def the most dangerous drug acid may be under ecstacy but i dont know
The thing with acid or lsd is that it's a very powerful hallucogen that lasts from 7-12 hours and sounds fun because of the moving objects and floating things and what not but just after one tiny square of it it is extremely easy to get addicted
You can have flashbacks days afterwards too and will probably be very giggly and talk to a tree
If you are depressed it is bad to take it because when under the influence you will probably hurt yourself and have a bad trip.
It makes you nauseous and increases the heart rate and can either lower or higher your body temp and jaw clenching
Just don't od on it at all. You don't know the reaction that your body will have weather a good or bad trip and weather hurting yourself or losing control because your sensations decline

Q: I took 4 ecstacy pills (dealer said only take 2, at most), i know that you can't measure what they have in them, since they aren't made by pharmacies.

I OD'd and got rushed to ER, they said all they could do was pump fluids into me. I had 2 ivs.

A urine test showed that the 4 pills contained: ecstacy, ketamine, and SPEED which I didn't know about.

I had went to ER in ambulance, paramedic injected .09% chloride or w/e to negate effects (acids/bases).

I got to hospital and nurse said my blood pressure was hovering around 220 for 2 hours, then it SLOWLY dropped over 2-3 more hours. my heart rate was very high, around 200 also. and my core temp. had risen also. i began having minor hallucinations. and i was sweating like i was in a sauna.

nurse said i was going to be okay, and she laughed when i asked her if i was, but i thought she was just saying that. she mentioned aneurysm, heart attack, etc. then looked away.

i wanna know what were my chances, of really having a serious problem. i'm very healthy, 16 years old, 170 pounds, on the varsity wrestling team, workout 5 times a weak, im on the off season and only wrestle 3 times a week for 2 hours a time.

was there really a good chance i wasnt going to make it?

That kicked in quite fast you are EXTREMELY lucky to be alive.

There was a girl who was 12 and took one and died in the ER.

with a systolic(blood pressure =(systolic over diastolic) of 220 is extreme hypertension (hyper=high, tension=bp)
I am a cna and studying nursing to be a trauma doctor in the ER and a systolic of 140 is considered to be dangerous.

Pulse rate over 110 are not normal at all as well.

You are very lucky you didn't have a heart attack and you are very lucky

I wouldn't do it again
Ecstacy is one of the most dangerous drugs out there besides heroine and acid I think

With what you said, your chance sounded like 1 out of a LOT

Q: i have a guinea pig and right behind her left and right ears, she seems to have a patch of hair just like, missing. like if i move the fur apart she just has a chunk missing. it's about the size of a dime or penny. it's the size of a quarter behind her left ear. the skin is dry and she was not reacting when i touched it (it's not itchy or anything) and it's black. what could it be? i'm going to take her to the vet, but in the meantime, what might it possibly be from the symtoms i've listed?

I agree with the person below me

I have had guinea pigs before and every single one has those spots Every guinea pig has them so they are normal. Hair just doesn't grow there

Q: how long will i need to wait to have sex after i get birth control? like we reaaaaaally want to. we've been together for 7 months and haven't! i mean..do we have to wait a full month for the bc to kick in? does it work at all right when you start using it?

i'd say wait 3 weeks till a month if you love each other you can wait a little bit longer ive been with my boyfriend a little over 2 years and we went through a little over a year without doing it 7 months is not long at all
be smart use a condom as well b/c becausec doesn't protect against std's and it depends on what kind you take and how regular you are taking it as well

Q: I am trying to find a cute/ formal hairstyle that will go with my dress and hair for prom. My dress looks a lot like a kimono, with the long sleeves and silky texture. The neckline is basically a square and it sits up high, like just below my collarbone. My hair is curly and blonde. It's fairly short- when it's straight, the bottom layers are about an inch from my shoulders. I'm willing to straighten or go curly- just help me with some suggestions please!

have someone braid the top half goin back with little bang slits having it straight

you could simply just pin 2 sides across with bobby pins

you could leave it curly and put little jews in it and add a tiara

you could tease some of it givin it more volune and add a fancy headband

Q: does pee come out of your vagina?if no then what hole is it?

No. You urinate out of your urethraw hich is connected to the bladder. You have your menstual cylce out of your vagina which is connected to the uterus

Q: ok so i have started giving my boyfriend oral sex..and i feel really comfortable doing it
i know that i am good at it...but i was wondering if anyone had any advice on how to make it more pleasurable..and kinky i guess?

i asked him and he gave me some
but i want to surprise him with a new technique or something!

good thing to do is use your hands as well starting from the bottom and one at the top.
caress his testicles in your free hand as well. they really seem to enjoy that. Try to go deep and lick up the bottom of his penis. Swirl your tongue around his head and lightly flick the top of it with your tongue because the head of the penis is like our clitoris. Try different movement and sucking motions and lube. increase speed and pressure as well but if he is about to cum his testicles will rise up and get close to his body and when you see that lightly squeeze them because it gives more rush of ecstacy

Q: 14/f
have u ever gotten an industrial piercing?
if so does it hurt [how long]

i haven't had an industrial but it's just like gettin a double cartilage. It hurts for a couple weeks but doesnt completely heal for a month or so

Q: Ok, so I want a small "corset piercing," except, i want five on my stomach, that way, when laced, its a star. anywho, they aren't really permanent, so i want to get it for a special occasion. i don't want it to look too red or anything either, so when's the best time to get it? like, the day of the occasion, the day before, right before or the morning before (assuming the occasion is in the evening)

best thing i would go to the piercer and ask and set up an appointment thing but id say probably the same day because ive had many piercing s and the next day they are more red and more swollen and more painful

Q: okays so i really like this guy and he likes me. well everyone has told me to make the first move and ask him out. i think im gonna do it. and get over my fears and see what he has to say. the only problem is i dont know how to. should i do it over the phone, over a text, in person, or what??? i really want to go out with him and i think we would make a great couple. please help me and give me some advice on how to ask him out.
thanks :]

do you have lockers? if so id say try to get his combo and tape it in the inside otherwise you could write it to have less pressure or you could write it and have him read it right in front of you if you want to see the initial reaction but asking him in person is always amazing too

Q: my boyfriend and i had unprotected sex two days ago...
i think i'm late enough into ovulation for that to cause pregnancy...
but he pulled out and he didn't pre-cum inside me...
what's the probability that i'm still pregnant? how soon can i find out?

You can still get pregnant even when you ARE ovulating. The chances are smaller but still there like a 90%on a test compard to a 70% and You cannot tell if someone pre cums imsorry to say. I would get the pregnnacy test to make sure if you miss your period or if you want to know right away go to the doctor so they an do the special test to find out right away

Q: so for prom this year i'm wearing a knee length buttercup-yellow dress. i'm a little stuck on what to do with my makeup (i always do really natural, barely-there makeup, so i want to do something a little more extreme. the problem is, i'm bad with makeup colors). does anyone have any good ideas for what will go with a yellow dress, green eyes, and dark blondish/light brownish hair?

here is my dress if it helps: http://www.cache.com/cache/control/product/~category_id=0110/~product_id=05044A70224170

thanks so much!!

you could some nice pink blush that would work and blend eyeshadows together like go from a gold to yellow to a green or have the green in the crease of your eyelid

Q: my boyfriend has had 3 other girlfriends besides me and has slept with 6 other girls. this boy is my first serious boyfriend and the first and only person i have ever slept with. now, i know i cant do anything about all the people he has been with but the other day i was in his room looking through some pictures that he had in a basket and i found many many pictures of all his old girlfriends. there were ones from his prom and when he was very young and even sexual pictures with his first girlfriend. it really hurt me that he still had these and i that i saw them. i dont like thinking that he has been with other people the same way he has been with me. it hurts a lot.

he also slept with another girl while we were dating and it just really hurts whenever i have to be reminded of things like that. i just wanted to know how to get passed all these other girls.

you replied and I want to say thank you and I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years as well now so Dont listen to the people that tell you to forget because it's just not possible. PLus, follow your heart

Q: where culd i get one? hot topic? spencers? and how do they feel? me and my boyfriend want to try it because he has a tongue ring and we are curious. is that a good idea?

Spencers sells them.
They are very big though like a hunky brok type of thing.
Haven't tried it with my boyfriend yet, but want to as well.
If you can't find them ther, then order one from online

Q: I have been wanting to get gauges for my ears for a long time, but have never gotten them because I thought you had to have them done. I was recently told that if you have your ears pierced, you can do it yourself just have to work your way from a smaller gauge to a larger one. Is this true? If it is, do you know what gauge sizes are? Like what is the best size to start with?

i have gauges and i started with a 12, but if you have sensitive ears i suggest a 16, then every 2 weeks you can switch them. You don't get 'gauges done" you put them in yourself because it's not like you are chopping a hole out of your ear. You are simply just stretching the hole so all of your flesh is there. The next week you could put in a 14, then a 12, 10, 8,6,4,2,0,00, and so forth if oyu want to get any bigger. They do not hurt that bad, except going to a 6 hurt like hell and a zero was a killer in size difference. Make sure to clean them with soap and water.

Q: Hi, i haven't started my period yet, and i am really worried it's going to start in the middle of a school day, or even worse PE!!! I know to carry a pad with me, and i do, and i were thin panti-liners just incase, but i was wondering if there is any signs i may be starting soon? I have a feeling i might be starting soon, but i dont know whether it is just me being silly! Also i get a monthly discharge, just like a period, but it's not blood. I'm 13

Before your period will come you may feel very tired. These signs come about 2-4 days beforehand. Your breasts can get tender and hurt. You may have cramps in your abdomen. You may be cranky for no reason (part of pms) When I started mine I did not have these signs but I do now. Your vagina may hurt as well when you are on your period. You seem prepared enough though, so all you can do is wait. Good luck!

Q: ok 14/f/straight

soome of these shouldnt be in this category, but i have a lot of questions!!

1. what IS oral sex???

2. my bf is having his b-day this coming monday, any ideas of what to get him?

3. what is feeling up mean?

4. im in a school orchestra and so is my bf, we have a concert in December, we will be able to be alone in a room making out,,, HOW DO YOU MAKE OUT/FRENCH KISS??? idk, ive never done that b4, and i KNOW he wants to, and i do too

5. How do i get my bf to put his arms around me, like you know how guys put there arms around their girlfriends waist??? well how do i get my bf to do that to me???

Im sorry i have so many questions, and im sorry if you cant answer them all, but answer what you can please!
thanks!!!

Alright for starters ill go in order
Oral sex-sexual contact between the mouth and genitals or anus, eating out(licking a girl's vagina), giving head(sucking a penis) or anything contact with the butt and your mouth

eating out is when a guy sucks, lick a girl's vagina and clit

as for ideas of what to get your boyfriend...well it really depends on what time of person he is my boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 year and 7 months and love each other for a long time so we usually go out for our birthdays or buy little stuff, or make something, because that means a lot, but you are still young so I would say maybe a gift card or a hat or a shirt

French Kiss-it will come naturally basically it is like sucking on a lollipop thats waht oyu do. unless there is tongue sucking and what not but I don't think you will get that into it on your first time.

Get his arm around your waist-- hold his hand and just like cuddle with him, sort of hug him when you are in front and then keep his hand there or hold it and spin into him kind of

If you have any other questions, feel free to ask me

Q: hey im 14/f
i know that theres NO way your boobs can just start growing faster unless you have surgery.

but are there any tips to make them look a little bigger? like certain clothes or something??
im a 34A

like they said.. pushe up bras
v-necks
halter tops
things that have seems around the bottom of the breast or sory of outline it

http://www.shirtsnob.com/archives/pictures/larokhalter.jpg

Q: Ok, i have braces, and i only need them for a year. I already have Natural Discoloration in my teeth, and i've noticed my teeth are getting like kind of stains on them i think from the braces, but i cant tell. I brush my teeth pretty well and use mouthwash and i brush them alot. does anyone who HAD braces know if when they take the braces off and you have stains they whiten your teeth? i'm so worried i'm gonna have stains!!!

Thgey do not whiten them but ask them what to use for them because they usually suggest things for stains.. mine suggested crest white strips and the the stains will fade

Q: okieodkes now....my best freind evers name is nick and hes totaly the best and i luv him to death. well lets just say hes not the most innacent one! and so his parents sent him for boot camp for 1 full year! i missed him so much, and when he came bak he looked diffrent, he wuz hot im not gunna lie, and he gradualy changed ( my freinds and my type of style is hardcore) and he got a mohalk when he came back and i piersed his lip for him XD but i always luved him (in a friend way) and hes the sweetest thing but i sudndly began to start likeing him and i keep saying to myself "wtf hes ur best bud ever how can you like your best friend??" i know he just thinks of me as a friend, and i dont wanna tell his so our freindship wont be thrown out the window, but i hate keeping things in, its stressing between all that going on in my life, im totaly streased wut do i do??

srry i typed alot I NEED HELP
thanx
ashley

Well, this happens a lot a lot in a relationship with the opposite sex. If it keeps up or gets stronger the best thing to do is just tell him and if things change than you have to cope with them it is better than living a lie and also you could try hanging around other guys and see if feeling start and if you can only thjink about him than its probably just going to be about him for a while I mean he's been your best friend and honestly that is how a lot of marriages happen by friends just becomming more because thats the only person they could really vccount on and thats what a relationship is aboout. Ots about loving someone and being their best friend sex and other stuff is just a bonus in that and maybe the more you hang out feeling will start to occurr for him and anything else you would like to know?
sorry it took so long for me to respond