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rough sex
If you aren't experianced I don't know if you want to read this.
My bf and I have been together for 1 year and 6 months and have been sexual active together for about 4 months.
Well he came over last night and we were fooling around and started having sex. Everything was going fine but then he started getting rough. It was getting to be wayyy too much for me so I told him to not be so hard. He didn't listen and just kept at it.
It got bad enough for me to where I broke out in tears and he still didn't slow down.
When he was about to finish off he took it out and cummed all over me adn my sheets. I usually don't have a problem with that but when we were done (or when he was done anyways) he wouldn't let me clean up. I wanted to take a shower so bad but he wouldn't let me. We just layed there and slept which was very uncomfortable for me because it was gross and sticky.
Now I don't know if I can be comfortable around him. He's never done anythign like this before. he always used to listen while we were in bed adn never went too fast or hard. I don't know what got over him. What should I do? 18/f
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Hm maybe he thinks he has control over you..you need to talk to him and make sure he knows that when you say NO or stopp. or even slower that he needs to. (it possibly could be considered rape) and if he doesnt listen to you, you need to drop his ass
megan&kayla
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you should defintiely talk to him. that is really disrespectful for him to not listen to you! tell him how you feel and ask him why he did it
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Since you told him to stop and he kept having sex with you against your will, that's considered rape. You should really have a talk to him about all of this. Maybe he was mad at your for some reason and took it out on you in the bed? That's really sick and demanding of him that he wouldn't even let you take a shower. Tell him he needs to clean up his act. He shouldn't be treating you like that.
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to me this is sord of rape and it is nasty that he didn't let you clean up that is nasty you should talk to him about it and tell him how scared youi are
I hope I helped
Jessica
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that is called rape. he raped you. you need to deal with it. you said no and it meant no but he didnt listen. unless you want to stay with someone who raped you than stay but i think you need to brakeup wit him. if you let him think that he got away with it than he will most likely do it again. if u dont want that to happen than you need to get rid of him and make sure he know you are done. good luck girl and becareful it can get dangerous stay safe.
~~~ becca~~~`
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your have to understand that your bf raped you..how do you want to deal with thAT? Are you really going to stay with a guy who RAPED you?
i would break up with him
-melissa-
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1 word.. Rape
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OK this guy needs to calm down. This is your house your rules and when you say no it means no. And not letting you take a shower? Why? To me he sounds like he could get abusive if you don't get control of him. First confront him. Ask him why he did it. Be sure to find out why didn't he stop when he was hurting you. If you don't like the answers you get from these questions dump him. If he seems to be sorry give him another chance. If he once again goes way to hardbreak it off with him. Make sure you have sex in your house though so you can have a better grip on what to do if these circumstances arise again.
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Sometimes people hide their sexual preferrences until they are comfortable with the person they are active with. He may have always preferred sex a little on the rough side, but waited until now to show so. What he did was wrong. When you did not like something and asked him to stop, he should have stopped period. You are in YOUR own house, he CANNOT tell you what you can and cannot do. If he is not going to respect you and stop when he is scaring you or you stop enjoying sex, then you need to get the hell away from him as fast as you can. I do not believe in using sex as a weapon, but cut him off. Tell him that if he ever does that to you again, he will NEVER have sex with you again. It is NOT about just him, though some guys don't always realize this.
Talk to him and ask him what happened. Tell him that you did not like it and don't want it to happen like that again (as long as rough sex is okay for you at all)
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well, if he didn't listen to you when you told him to slow down..there is definitely a problem. you have to think about this. do you really want to be with a guy who doesn't listen to you. it was hurting you. you shouldn't have let him control you enough to make you sleep in his cum. that's really gross and abnormal. i think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. i hope everything works out. <3
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This isn't love who are we fooling? He has shown you through this that he has a dark side and has no respect for your wishes. By text book definition if you said "Ouch, no, quit, stop" or any combination of those words and he did not it's rape. He can be charged with sexual assualt for this.
At any rate I would make sure he paid for this dearly. It is only going to get worse and who has any clue if there is a dark side to him where he could become angry and hurt you.
This guy as much as you love him should be kicked to the curb and shown the door. Furthermore, you NEED to tell your parents and let your father go after him.
As for the sheets yo should have told him to go home and not come back. He really is not worthy of you and this is plain disgusting and not to be tolerated.
If you let him back in your bed, have sex, or act like nothing happened you are only fuelling a serious problem here. It will escalate that way and repeat on rapid cycle. My advice THINK! IS HE WORTH THIS KIND OF SHIT HAPPENING?
Do make sure adults know what happened especially parents they will advise you further on what should/needs done.
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If you don't know if you can be comfortable around him (and bloody rightly so in my opinion) get rid of him. I'm sorry but there is no excuse in the world for what he did-anyone who cares about you would stop if he saw you in pain and definately when you told him to. Fair enough guys can be clumsy creatures especially in bed but ignoring your tears and not letting you wash, for christ sake, is controlling and cruel.
To be honest this sounds like the tip of a pretty nasty iceberg. If he thinks he has the right to do what he wants to you just four months in to a sexual relationship what's he going to be like in 4 years?
Talk to him about it if you like but even just from what you've said here I really advise you to get out now before it goes too far.
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I think you need to ask him what his problem was.
Why did he not stop when you said to (which is a crime by the way), etc.
I don't know why after having been in a relationship for over a year he would behave like that. I for one wouldn't be alone with him again anytime soon...if ever.
If you do decide to stay with him (my advice is show him the door, sorry), then I would call the police if this happens again.
Do not put up with this kind of behavior from anyone. You are supposed to love someone when you have an intimate relationship. Love does not hurt. :)
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confront him about what he did and ask him why he did it
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Well I`d discuss this with him and tell him how it is.. Tell him he made a very bad mistake of not listening to you.. Tell him he made you cry.. If he doesn`t agree with stayin slow with I`d suggest breakin up with him or just takin a break.. I know you wouldn`t want to take a break or break up cuz you`ve been together way to long for you guys to do thaT.. Just ask what got over him.. I`ve had rough sex before but thats cuz i liked it but i never had my boyfriend actually hurt me he listens to me when i say slow down or what not.. ♥ Dez
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