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my best guy friend (let's call him "k") who is also my ex-boyfriend just got a new girlfriend (let's call her "m"). when me and "k" were going out, he told me he loved me, but i didn't feel the same way so we broke up a week or so later. so now this new girl "m" comes into the picture. he likes her a lot and they are going out. they have gone out for like four days and "k" already told "m" that he loves her and she said it back. i just don't understand how he can tell two girls in such a short period of time that he loves them. it really bugs me because i feel like he just used me so he could say he had a girl. i do not want to let "m" get hurt like i did. what can i do to help this situation? i don't want every girl he dates to feel like she is the only one but he has really told every girl he dated the same thing. i'll rate 5's! (link)
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A lot of people throw the word "love" around until it has almost lost meaning.
Telling a girl you love her is a good way to get what you want. Mean it or not.
Some people also wouldn't know what love if it snuck up and bit them in the butt.
So, I really doubt that "k" was deliberately misleading you. He is just one of many who toss the word around lightly.
Beware of anyone who claims to love you after only a date or two. They may like you an awful lot, they may love you as they get to know you better. But beware when they use the word to soon.
If "m" has any feelings for "k", she probably won't listen if you say anything negative about "k". :)
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hey its me again. i tried reemailing you and it didnt work again! (link)
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Dang it!! OK. More work. I will send you other address too...forgot sorry. :)
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My boyfriend and I are fairly young, but we've been together for a long time. We have been talking about marriage, and both of our families support us and think it's a good idea.
Here is the problem. We're both from different countries. I don't want to have to choose one country over the other, or in other words, one family over the other. Also, I have never really pictured myself having a big wedding. I am pretty shy, and I know making my wedding a huge show would end up being very stressful for me. I would rather have it be a private ceremony between two people that love each other. Also, if we eloped, it would be more affordable.
So does it sound like a good idea? If you're wondering, he is indifferent about how we would get married. (link)
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I got married at the courthouse with just my hubby and our parents. Since we have been married 30 years, I have to say there is nothing wrong with it.
Big weddings with all the hoopla costs someone a lot of money. If it is the couple themselves, it is a pretty stressful thing to start a marriage off being in debt. Since money problems is the number one cause of marital problems, makes no sense to start out that way anyway.
I too shun large crowds, it is your marriage so begin it in a way that makes you both happy.
Now, until you can come to an agreement over where you would live and all that, I wouldn't do anything. Starting a marriage living somewhere you don't agree with is also to much stress to start off with.
Good luck to you. :)
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ok well i was ta this party and i got really drunk and was with this guy who i made out with but then i got in a car with him to pick up his friend...but the thing is i dont remeber the car ride only gettin out to let his friend in the back seat...then gettin out again wen we got back to my friends house and i was wiping mu puke off his car...so com'on u can tell i was pretty fucked up! now the thing is their is a rumor goin around that we fuced wen we were in his car!! n im kinda nervouse becuase i havent got my period this month!! do u think we might of actually had sex?? if soo what should i do?? (link)
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It is very possible you did.
Getting drunk is never a real good idea. Getting drunk at a young age with boys to the point of not remembering is REALLY a bad idea. But, I am sure yuo realize that.
Not to mention puking on someones car never makes a good impression.
If you are more than a couple of weeks late,you need to get a home pregnancy kit, or tell your mom and visit a doctor.
You don't say how old these boys were but what happened could be considered rape. You were underage& they somehow got hold of alcohol for starters.
Go to www.coolnurse.com and look up signs and symptoms of pregnancy. it is a good site to look over either way. Lots of helpful information.
Good luck. :)
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My brothers a herion addict of 3 years. He is 21 I used to look up to him, alot. Ive never not felt special that i had him. Till I was 10 and realized what he was an addict. over the 3 years, everything been rought. he stolen from family, and me included. Hes been in and out of the house. My parents are a wreck. Will this year he got into a rehab, was clean for 2 months. And then messed up, and took some herion. Got kicked out. Today he went to court & ended up in jail for 30 days. It kills me, hurts me. I almost want to die some days, I need him. I cant leave him. I know when he gets out, he'll be the same. I know it, so dont tell me "After jail it it will get better he need to hit rock bottom" HES been to rock bottom ok? I just need help handlings him. I cant control him, hes 21 my parnets cant either. I need help on how to deal with leaving. (link)
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You don't just stop loving someone because they have a problem. You know this.
You may be disappointed he didnt live up to all the expectations you had of him, which is perfectly understandable.
Who knows what 30 days in jail will do for him. You will miss him of course. 30 days of no drugs is a pretty good start on the way to recovery if he will just stay clean once he gets out.
It takes the average drug/alcohol abuser 3 times before they stay clean and sober with rehab. Some more, some less. but, the average is 3 times. Heroin is one of the toughest drugs to quit.
Maybe you can do an intervention on him when he gets out of jail ( don't know if they allow such things while he is there). Tell him we want you to get help, if you don't then don't come back here. Very harsh, it also works. Maybe you parents can find him a bed in a rehab facility for when he gets out....if you can talk him into going. He will be 30 days off the stuff...a good time to possibly get through to him.
When it comes right down to it, it will be up to him. He is an adult. Just encourage whenever possible. Try a alateen type group in your area. They have all been where you are and can be very helpful. It may be a good place for your parents to start as well. They may be able to help you get through to him. If not they can help you learn to live with the problem.
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I have a girlfriend, let's say Jane. We've only officially been going out for two week, but we were going steady for about 2 weeks before that (making out all the time, not seeing anyone else but each other). Last week I met a new girl, Steph, through a friend. She is really cool and as this past week went by, I realized I like her more than Jane. Because I have a gf though, the friend that introduced us decided to try to hook my other friend up with Steph. I kept my feelings quiet to give him a a chance (he's never had a gf). He really likes her now. Just tonight Steph and I were talking and she told me she likes me more than my friend, and that she doesn't want to keep leading my friend on. I told her that I liked her too. Now I don't know what to do. Should I break up with Jane and date Steph, or break up with Jane and stay single for a while? Or should I just suck it up and stay together with Jane so my friends don't get mad at me for "invading" on my other friend's girl possibility? Either way someone's going to get hurt. What's the lesser poison? (link)
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You and Steph are talking and both like each other.
If you like her more than Jane, then you need to break up with her regardless of what you do with Steph. No sense letting her get even more attached to you. Steph needs to do the same with your friend.
Then after all the breakups have happened, go to your friends and make your feelings for Steph known. Hopefully they will understand. If they don't then you will have to decide weather or not she is more important.
People will get hurt. Unfortunately that's life.
Good luck. :)
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Okay here it goes it may be a long one this time..
For starters I'm a 18/f I have been dating this guy he is 22 for 5 1/2 months. On my birthday he asked me to marry him. I said yes. Well that next week when we got home we got into a little argument which is normal and he said u know what i never even fell in love with u. Right when he said that my heart broke. I was totally in love with this guy you know ? Okay so then the next day he loves me again..hes like playing games with me. Well then i get a phone call from this guy i have known since march and had a total crush on well hes looking for a serious relationship and he is like totally falling for me. But i dunno what to do. Should i stay with the guy and fuss and have him play games with me or get to know this other guy ? I so need help !!!! (link)
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The fact that you are even entertaining the idea of going out with someone else, should tell you that at the very least you aren't ready to marry your boyfriend.
I can't understand how he can ask you to marry him one minute and then turn around and say he never fell in love with you. I'd be getting an explanation for that remark!
Does he often say things he doesn't mean in the heat of an argument? Even if true that's pretty hurtful.
It is really up to you to decide. Just remember that if you go out with the crush, you may lose the current boyfriend forever.
Then again, I tend to believe things happen for a reason. Why now is the crush calling?
I'm not being much help am I? Hope I at least gave you some things to ponder. :)
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I am 19 years old and my ex-boyfriend is 20. We were together for 2.5 years before I broke up with him. I broke up with him because I had been trying to fix the problems in the relationship, but nothing seemed to be improving. I ended up cheating on him, and that made me realize that something was missing in our relationship that I needed.
Well in the two months that I left him, the guy I cheated on him with, who I had thought was so great, ended up being a liar and breaking my heart. The next guy I was with ended up raping me. Then my family and friends turned on me. Then I lost my job. The one person that has been helping me through this is my ex-boyfriend.
He tried winning me over while we were broken up, but I resisted. Once my life turned to crap, and I realized how good he was to me, I wanted him back too. But that same day, he found out about the cheating, so now we are still broken up. He forgave me for cheating, but he says he needs some time to myself, which I understand. We still see each other every week or so, and so now we are in a friends with benefits sort of relationship. Neither of us is interested in seeing other people, we're just not officially going out.
But today he called me and said that he might be going back home, going off to Europe, in a half a year or so. He doesn't know what he's going to do exactly. He might stay here or he might go. It's so hard waiting for him to come back to me now, so I can't imagine us getting back together and me getting used to having him around all the time again, then having to deal with him being gone for 6 months or longer. He promised me that if he left, he would come back here for me, but I don't know if I can live with that burden.
It's so hard to deal with. If I hadn't gone through all this trauma, I think I'd probably be thinking about this differently. But he is seriously the only person in my life who I deeply love and care for. He loves me deeply as well. The only thing is, is love enough? We both love each other, but I don't think we're "in love." But after dealing with such horrible people, I can not imagine me ever looking at anyone else. He is the person I trust to be with me through thick in thin, despite of our petty relationship problems. Is it so bad to be with someone for security, companionship, familiarity, and not because you're "in love?" He has done 10x more for me than anyone else in my life. (link)
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You love each other. That is what counts.
Forget the fairy tale version. If you can't see yourselves never seeing each other again, if you're the best of friends, if the "benefits" are mutually satisfying...there isn't much more to have.
You can make the romance. The flowers the sweet words. They are all great. But being there for you when everyone else has deserted you...that is true love.
You write that man a long letter. You tell him exactly what you think and feel about him.
Don't try to tell him by talking to him. He will interrupt and you will be side tracked, write it down. Tell him everything you have done wrong and every reason you want him. Then give it to him to read.
After he reads it...THEN the talk can begin. Talk about everything. Answer his questions, discuss where you go from here.
I hope it all works out for you. Best of luck :)
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Hey. This is naimee, and I noticed you rated one of my questions as a 3. I'm not going to argue with you about it or anything, because I'm a happy with a 3 and what not. But, honestly. What more did you want out of my answer to get a 5? Just wondering. Because, out of all the advice given, mine in my personal opinion was the best. Alrighty:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=392331
Thankyou!
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Thanks for not complaining! I still have heartburn over the last one.
First, a 3 is what we are advised to give most of the answers we rate. Unless they are very bad or very good. A 5 should be a lot harder to get than it actually is. That being said, Please take this as helpful advice and not like I am picking on you, okay? :)
Your answer wasn't bad. You did say she needed to start making life changing decisions. That was good. But you might have added that if the new school would help her somehow get into a better college down the road then that should be a big issue in her decision.
You might have added that doctors need to learn to make tough decisions without emotions getting involved. not necessary but would have been good.
She does already have one friend at the new school. It isn't like she would have been totally without friends. And, as you pointed out, her other friends would still be around.
I guess if I were to pick the one thing that I would have left out, it would have been...although you may regret it eventually. It kind of took away from the positive side you were trying to get across.
I hope that helps you. You can write and ask me for an opinion anytime, even if I didn't rate your answer. I would really like to help people give better answers because it does help us all.
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is human moral an instinct or an learned behavior?
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I think most of it is learned.
If you are from a background of people who are bigots, alcoholics, promiscuous behavior, etc.
You either think its okay to live and think that way because it was how you were raised, OR, through friends and education, you learn there are other ways of doing things.
So, other than the basic instincts most behavior morally or otherwise is learned along the way.
I think so anyway. :)
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my boyfriend michael and me had been dating on and off for the past 4 months,, well he was very jealous of all the guys i hung out with when we first went out but then he got better and he didnt care anymore well we were talking online one day and he told me he was gunna go walk to his neighbors house kyla (a girl he dated last year and is dating one of my best guy friends) so they get online an hour early and this is what she said to me:
kyla: umm i wanted to let you know before we figured out from someone else.. um yeah me and michael made out
kyla: is that fine with you..? im really sorry...
kyla: it just happened..
kyla: :-(
--well it was all this huge joke,, kyla's friend was typing it, so me and him were gunna go to a movie and he was going to apoligize,, i ended up not being able to go and i called him like 10 times leaving him messages saying i couldnt go well he went to the movies i wasnt there he got really mad at me bc he thought i stood him up,, we ended up breaking up but i cant get over him he always stares at me some of my friends say he still likes me too i just dont know what to do (link)
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Talk to him.
Let him know how you feel. Let him know you didn't stand him up because of the stunt Kyla pulled. Which is a pretty rotten thing to do to you by the way. What a moron.
Hopefully, if you just talk you can work things out.
I hope he gave Kyla hell for doing that. If he didn't he certainly should have. :)
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my parents are gay and my friends are not my friends any more because of it what do i do? (link)
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Find new friends.
Sorry to say the ones you have now aren't very good friends. True friends wouldn't give 2 hoots about what your parents do.
It is to bad that people have to be such morons, but there are still some simple minded people out there.
There are also some out there who are smart. Go find those people and make friends with them. :)
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hey its devin. are you getting any of my emails? i keep sending you emails and they said there is something wrong and i cant send you emails within 3 hours or something weird! do you have another email or something you can email me with? thanks
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No actually I haven't gotten any from you. Though I did get email there this morning. I know MSN has been acting screwy the past couple of days too. You can use the karenrickel50@hotmail.com address if the other isn't working.
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is it natural to have random phases of depressioin. not serious depression, just feel down for a while, and then just get better for no reason. (link)
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I don't know that you get better for no reason. Something just changed your mood!
But, yes almost everyone has moments of depression. Most of the time it goes away all on its own.
The only time you need worry is if it drags on for a long time and just doesn't go away at all.:)
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Hey yg, this is S_C, I have a small question for you. I was looking at questions and noticed the ratings on some, every single rating had feedback that said
Question rated by L2 moderator
yg
but it was asked by cj and I don't know, did you go through and rerate them all or does some other L2 have the initials of yg, or like is someone pretending to be you or soemthing? I don't know, I was just curious when I saw that because the ratings all range from 1-5 and all the feedback says that.
Hmm, might be helpful if I give a link,
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=392587
It was just curious to me, yeah, you don't really have to respond here, I don't know, it's almost 12:30am, I just got done babysitting for very low profit, and I was really confused when I saw it. Okay, well I think I'm just going to leave it at this.
~~ S_C (link)
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It was me. :)
There were a whole bunch of questions I found that had absolutely no ratings at all on them.
DN okayed it that we can rate answers that have remained unrated (after a week or so). So I just started on one category today.
I really could not believe that many were totally not rated at all.
There were a couple that had maybe 2 answers rated (friends of theirs?).
I just hope I am rating them fairly enough. :)
Have any opinion on it for me? I'd appreciate it.
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wats sumthin good to get my gf for xmas..i think im gunna get her tickets to the blue man group and some perfume but if someone helps me wit sumthing better, that would b awesome (link)
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Blue Man Group tickets would be a great gift. They will put on an awesome show.
If she cares for you, she will like anything you get her, because its from you. :)
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I don't know if this is teenagers all around of if it's just my high school but it seems that they have just forgotten (or not taught) what manners are!
I see so many kids in school being rude everyday it's crazy.
Today I saw a teacher walking with allot of things in her hand and this guys in front of her opened the door for him and then just shut it in her face.
I've seen people kick books that others drop, turn around and bitch someone out just because the person accidentally ran into them, yesterday I even saw that a guy had dropped his text book and a girl that was walking tripped over it and fell on the ground and he didn't even say anything to her, just picked up his book and walked off. Just mean things like that.
Have kids always been this rude?
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No, they haven't always been this rude.
There have always been a few but it does seem worse these days.
I do blame a lot of it on not being taught at home. There are so many more broken homes any more. Dad isn't there on daily basis to teach much. Mom has to work and doesn't have as much time as they once did.
Then again society as a whole seems to be more ME driven these days. Don't worry a lot about the next guy.
Hopefully there are enough out there like you who can make it change. :)
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my dad is a gynacoligist & obstitrician (he delivers babies) so he is up a lot in the middle of the night. he sometimes complains if some one asks him to do something, & he'll be like "I WAS UP FOR 36 HOURS..." blah blah blah" only he yells it and sometimes swears, sort of like verbal abuse. i understand he works hard, but since he complains all the time i was like "maybe you should do a job that doesn't require you to stay up so late & that you like" and he was like " I LIKE MY JOB AND MAYBE YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR MOM TO GET A JOB THAT PAYS AS MUCH AS MINE DOES AND THEN I WOULDN'T HAVE TO STAY UP 36 HOURS" (my mom is a teacher, and she works alot harder then most women, she works all week, then comes home and cooks EVERY NIGHT for all of us, and drives my sister & me everywhere, so she works just as hard as him) and it really makes me upset that he yells and complains when my mom works just as hard, but if i say anything to him he SCREAMS. i don't know what to do, and I feel like he degrades us (my mom especially). any ideas? (link)
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Next time just steer clear of him.
1) hes under stress and just blowing off steam. I am sure he realizes how hard your mom works. I bet if she got a different job...he'd still work the same hours. He has to love what he does. It is just stressful.
2) Lack of sleep will make people blow up and say things they don't mean. So, don't take it all so seriously. Talk it over with your mom. Bet she doesn't either. Even though it is stressful for her too.
His complaining is just his way of venting his frustration. He can't really do that at work! I'm not saying he should do it at home either, just trying to make you understand the whole thing. :)
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Ok My mom is 48 and she had a Biopsiy (how ever you spell it) about 2 days ago. She has been Bleeding alot and its not time for her period and she has been having a fever and VERY BAD Cramps!!!!!! What Can I do??!!?!?!?! The roads are sorta icey. but Whats Going On? I'm Scared!!! (link)
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No one here is qualified to answer this question.
She needs to call her doctor and find out what is normal for the procedure she had done.
If all else fails she needs to go to an emergency room.
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I haven't started my period, but wanna ask 2 questions for when it comes:
1) Do you bleed all the time or is it like discharge, and comes out everyonce and a while.
2) It says you supposed to stay very clean when you have it. Itake baths cause my shower doesn't work. When I take a bath would thewater get all blooding during my period.
If you have any other info about it;;please tell me =) I'll ate 5 for good answers (link)
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1) it may ease up now and then, but mostly it is continuous. Not a discharge at all.
2)baths work great. It stops underwater.
3.check out these websites for much more info. :)
Periods, getting your first…..
http://www.kidzworld.com/site/p6040.htm
Periods. Irregular when first start
http://www.sxetc.org/index.php?topic=FAQ&sub_topic=Girls+Health&content_id=515
Periods, the facts
http://www.cyh.com/HealthTopics/HealthTopicDetails.aspx?p=243&np=292&id=2216
Periods 10 things u shld no..
http://teenadvice.about.com/library/bl10thingsperiod.htm
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