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Its Him.
My brothers a herion addict of 3 years. He is 21 I used to look up to him, alot. Ive never not felt special that i had him. Till I was 10 and realized what he was an addict. over the 3 years, everything been rought. he stolen from family, and me included. Hes been in and out of the house. My parents are a wreck. Will this year he got into a rehab, was clean for 2 months. And then messed up, and took some herion. Got kicked out. Today he went to court & ended up in jail for 30 days. It kills me, hurts me. I almost want to die some days, I need him. I cant leave him. I know when he gets out, he'll be the same. I know it, so dont tell me "After jail it it will get better he need to hit rock bottom" HES been to rock bottom ok? I just need help handlings him. I cant control him, hes 21 my parnets cant either. I need help on how to deal with leaving.
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wow.... i cant say i know how u feel because i dont at all and u cant make him stop the only person tht can is himself and thts if he cares enough about you and your family which im sure he is its just maybe he should go back to rehab and he if doesnt then forget it....if he comes back for money and stuff just ignore him because if you incourage him he will think its all ok with you guys and wont stop..... have you ever had him sit down and talk with your family and you maybe that will work. but i dont be like him and start drugs not only will you suffer but just think about your brother record with the police by now it is ruined no offence....you have to let him go or you and your family will go through twice his pain...i hope your bro is doing alright in jail.......good luck i hope ive halped write back and tell me if it went well
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You don't just stop loving someone because they have a problem. You know this.
You may be disappointed he didnt live up to all the expectations you had of him, which is perfectly understandable.
Who knows what 30 days in jail will do for him. You will miss him of course. 30 days of no drugs is a pretty good start on the way to recovery if he will just stay clean once he gets out.
It takes the average drug/alcohol abuser 3 times before they stay clean and sober with rehab. Some more, some less. but, the average is 3 times. Heroin is one of the toughest drugs to quit.
Maybe you can do an intervention on him when he gets out of jail ( don't know if they allow such things while he is there). Tell him we want you to get help, if you don't then don't come back here. Very harsh, it also works. Maybe you parents can find him a bed in a rehab facility for when he gets out....if you can talk him into going. He will be 30 days off the stuff...a good time to possibly get through to him.
When it comes right down to it, it will be up to him. He is an adult. Just encourage whenever possible. Try a alateen type group in your area. They have all been where you are and can be very helpful. It may be a good place for your parents to start as well. They may be able to help you get through to him. If not they can help you learn to live with the problem.
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