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I hate drama
I have a girlfriend, let's say Jane. We've only officially been going out for two week, but we were going steady for about 2 weeks before that (making out all the time, not seeing anyone else but each other). Last week I met a new girl, Steph, through a friend. She is really cool and as this past week went by, I realized I like her more than Jane. Because I have a gf though, the friend that introduced us decided to try to hook my other friend up with Steph. I kept my feelings quiet to give him a a chance (he's never had a gf). He really likes her now. Just tonight Steph and I were talking and she told me she likes me more than my friend, and that she doesn't want to keep leading my friend on. I told her that I liked her too. Now I don't know what to do. Should I break up with Jane and date Steph, or break up with Jane and stay single for a while? Or should I just suck it up and stay together with Jane so my friends don't get mad at me for "invading" on my other friend's girl possibility? Either way someone's going to get hurt. What's the lesser poison?
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Well, you have to do it in a way that doesn't make you look bad and hurt other girl's feelings. It's perfectly understandable you don't like "Jane". But, it would be really jerky to not only break your gf's heart and then invade your friend's territory. Even if Steph likes you and temptation is telling you to just ditch Jane and go out with Steph, you can't.
While Steph might act like she just wants to go out w/ you right now, it would be good to prove yourself to her and show her your a good guy and break it off easy with your gf and wait a while before you date someone else.
let her take the time to tell the other guy she's not interested. Then you can go out w/ her later.
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Dear "really in trouble",
i am a girl and i know girls really well. So i would like to tell you something. We really hate boys who are with more than one girl. So the first thing you should do is to break up with Jane. You don't like her anymore, right? So, stop being with her...
Now, about you your friend and Steph... Look, i will tell you my opinion. If Steph was right and fair and would like you soooooo much she would not hook up with your friend. From the beginning. And she would break up with the other one before telling you that she likes you. You know what she is doing now? She is thinking like that:
"I am still with(your friend's name) but i like the other one more. I go and tell (your name) what i feel and if he tells me that he feels the same everything is fine for me. If not, i have the other one. We are still together."
I don't really find it right, neither for you nor for your friend. So, if i were you i would choose my friend. Remember that a friend is there for years.On the contray, a gf for a month or tow...
I am sure that it is not the best solution for you and the girls but it is for you and your friend. Remember that friendship is very important to our lives...
I really hope i helped because i can see that you are in trouble now. Good luck!!!
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You and Steph are talking and both like each other.
If you like her more than Jane, then you need to break up with her regardless of what you do with Steph. No sense letting her get even more attached to you. Steph needs to do the same with your friend.
Then after all the breakups have happened, go to your friends and make your feelings for Steph known. Hopefully they will understand. If they don't then you will have to decide weather or not she is more important.
People will get hurt. Unfortunately that's life.
Good luck. :)
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