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complaining dad
my dad is a gynacoligist & obstitrician (he delivers babies) so he is up a lot in the middle of the night. he sometimes complains if some one asks him to do something, & he'll be like "I WAS UP FOR 36 HOURS..." blah blah blah" only he yells it and sometimes swears, sort of like verbal abuse. i understand he works hard, but since he complains all the time i was like "maybe you should do a job that doesn't require you to stay up so late & that you like" and he was like " I LIKE MY JOB AND MAYBE YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR MOM TO GET A JOB THAT PAYS AS MUCH AS MINE DOES AND THEN I WOULDN'T HAVE TO STAY UP 36 HOURS" (my mom is a teacher, and she works alot harder then most women, she works all week, then comes home and cooks EVERY NIGHT for all of us, and drives my sister & me everywhere, so she works just as hard as him) and it really makes me upset that he yells and complains when my mom works just as hard, but if i say anything to him he SCREAMS. i don't know what to do, and I feel like he degrades us (my mom especially). any ideas?
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try talking to your mom about it..maybe she could talk to him without him getting so mad. or try calmly explaing to him (when he is in a good mood) how this hurts your feelings and why you don't think it's right. and next time he is screaming about your mom's job remind him that, that's his wife he's talking bad about and that he is supposed to love her. and if he is doing this all the time (im not sure if this is needed because i don't know what all goes on) but maybe he needs anger management..(maybe) , and another thing... teachers work just as hard as anyone else but they don't get paid as much as they deserve! they have a tough job and it's espically harder on your mom because she has to come home and help to take care of her family which is basicly another job itself, and all of that can be extremely exhausting.. but i bet she doesn't complain like your dad does..so try talking to him about all of that. i hope things get better and i hope i helped.
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Next time he says that, tell him to stop taking it out on his family and that it was HIS idea to take that job. You didn't tell him to be a gynocologist and obstritrican and work so many hours. About him and your mom, just tell him to take it easy on her. Remind him of all she does for her family.
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Next time just steer clear of him.
1) hes under stress and just blowing off steam. I am sure he realizes how hard your mom works. I bet if she got a different job...he'd still work the same hours. He has to love what he does. It is just stressful.
2) Lack of sleep will make people blow up and say things they don't mean. So, don't take it all so seriously. Talk it over with your mom. Bet she doesn't either. Even though it is stressful for her too.
His complaining is just his way of venting his frustration. He can't really do that at work! I'm not saying he should do it at home either, just trying to make you understand the whole thing. :)
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