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So their is this girl that I really like a lot. I even have/had her brothers approval because he is my good friend and I wanted to make sure he was fine with it. Everything has been going very well, talking, even went out for a day and we both wanted to go out again. It was all going good until the other day when I got upset about something I have...
This girl really makes me feel happy and I didn't want this stupid condition to ever effect her if things ever went that far. I don't want it for anyone. So I was looking up a complete cure for it. Of course I knew their probably wasn't but I figured what the hell maybe their is...
So I looked it up and found some books on fully preventing it from happening. You still have it but it wont pass or happen if you do certain things with your life stile. I was skeptical so I figured I would wait. In fact I was going to ask the question on here. So I minimized the links and put a password on my computer and went to classes for the day.
I got home really late and opened my computer to do something and then left it unlocked spacing what was on their. Him and his roommate came over to get my roommate and I to play some cards. He said "Before we go you need a new background" and he opened my minimized explorer...
Of course he sees what I looking at. I don't know what to do. Or how he feels about me anymore. To cut to the chase it is, it is herpes. I hate it and it really sucks. I have only had sex with one girl and He she had only had it with two before me. I regret my choice not to wait until marriage but that is forgivable in a way. Well depending on the girl you find. And now I feel like since I have this and he knows I will not be good enough for his sister. Nor will she even want me. I wasn't going to hide it from her of course. But I figured if I at least found a way to completely prevent it from being contagious and happening I would be okay.
What should I do. I feel like I went from being on top of everything, to not being able to eat and I feel like crying my eyes out finishing this. I cried myself to sleep last night. I just don't want this condition anymore. It sucks and it is killing me inside... I feel like I will never find love because of it.
As far as I know there is no cure for Herpes. Have you seen a doctor and been treated for the type you have. The doctor should have told you at the time how to avoid spreading this to a partner. Such as refraining from sex during an outbreak.
My advice is such as the others. This is not then end of the world type of STD. It is a life changing line in which you need to find out more about the type of Herpes you? How to know when it is active? What precautions you and your partner need to take to avoid infecting your partner?
With proper knowledge you can mange you disease and live a normal life with a mostly normal sex life. So talk to your doctor or a infectious disease specialist.
The other day I got my first period, but i'm to scared to tell my step mum? We're kind of close but I don't like really talking to her about that stuff. I sent her a message on her mobile not that long ago saying that I got my period, but she just ignored it :( Someone please tell me what to do because i'm really scared to tell her, seeings she's my 'step' mum.
Mom is waiting, I'm sure, for you to come to her rather then for mom to constantly ask you or to discover for herself when she does the laundry.
Getting your period is a natural part of a woman's life. No different than growing breasts. There is nothing to be embarrassed about and certainly nothing mom doesn't know about. Fact is even dad's know all about a woman's periods and what is needed for a woman to properly care for herself. This is all part of the facts of life when becoming an adult.
Mom and or dad need to know when things are happening to you. When you are not feeling well and what is wrong. If you are experiencing any pains, especially pains in the area of your reproductive organs.
While it is hard for teenagers to believe, we as parents know all about this stuff. It is our primary lot in life to keep our children healthy and safe. We need to know when something is wrong so we can help you make the right decisions to get whatever is bothering you taken care of.
If I get a guy to ejaculate into a cup can i use a turkey bastor to get me pregnate? Im being totaly serious. I don't want to go to the doc and spend all that money to do it and i dont want to have sex with a guy because that would be really akward for me and my gf. so..
While there are stories of using a Turkey Baster to get pregnant. I believe they are more myth then reality.
While I understand your dilemma I think you and your girlfriend need to give serious thought as to how much you want a child. How much you both feel that child should be the product of at least one of you. Many states now allow for singles and Lesbian or gay couples to adopt. Would adoption satisfy your desire for a child?
Based on your answers if pregnancy is the only option you have only two choices for a successful insemination as I see it. The first is of course through artificial insemination with donor sperm. The benefit here is that both you and your partner get to chose the donor sperm. The second is of course through coitus. The drawbacks here are sexual intercourse with a willing male donor and a possible problem with your spouse.
I think the problem with your spouse is more easily overcome by having her in the bed room with you during the insemination than finding a male donor willing to donate. What I am suggesting would not be sex as it is meant. The two of you could be in bed having relations while the male is masturbating to a point just before climax. He then enters you and climaxes. Where upon he withdraws and leaves. Then you and your partner can enjoy the after glow. This would be more of a medical procedure than sex, but would still require intercourse with a male.
It is a solution or rather a compromise. The definition of compromise is something no one likes but something everyone can live with. The difference with this solution from artificial insemination. Getting pregnant may require more than one insemination, can you put up with more than one insemination in the natural manner?
i think about suicide very often. i think about how i would do it. ive writen at least 12 suicide notes in my life.i would carry them around just waiting for the right time i guess. i dont see the point in life we all die someday so why not when and how we choose.
If your sick and dieing of a terminal illness, I might agree with you. If your healthy then thoughts of suicide are wrong and you are in need of professional help.
I would like you to call this number: 1-800-273-TALK. It is the national suicide prevention hotline. They operate on a 24/7 365 basis. The volunteers who answer the phone are far better at helping you then we are. They will listen to you and help you find the proper professionals in your home town to help you.
Suicide is not an answer, it is not even a solution. If you are feeling suicidal at this time pick up the phone and call 911 or go to the nearest hospital emergency room.
I'm 14 and came home yesterday, saw blood spots in my underwear, came home today went to the bathroom and saw a strip of dark reddish almost brown wet stuff it wasnt discharge or diarrhea. But I'm not positive if it was or not. Because there wasn't blood running down my leg, I would've seen it. So is it possible to start your period without any indication? Do I wait and if my underwear is ruined do I tell my mom? I think it is my period because when I wiped there was blood. But idk if it is or not.
It probably is the start of your period. Everyone is different in how their bodies work. You need to tell your mom what you are seeing so she can help you take proper care of yourself.
Mom is waiting, I'm sure, for you to come to her rather then for mom to constantly ask you or to discover for herself when she does the laundry.
Getting your period is a natural part of a woman's life. No different than growing breasts. There is nothing to be embarrassed about and certainly nothing mom doesn't know about. Fact is even dad's know all about a woman's periods and what is needed for a woman to properly care for herself. This is all part of the facts of life when becoming an adult.
Mom and or dad need to know when things are happening to you. When you are not feeling well and what is wrong. If you are experiencing any pains, especially pains in the area of your reproductive organs.
While it is hard for teenagers to believe, we as parents know all about this stuff. It is our primary lot in life to keep our children healthy and safe. We need to know when something is wrong so we can help you make the right decisions to get whatever is bothering you taken care of.
When it comes to our daughters all fathers are a like. No matter how old you are. You can be married and have children of your own. You will always be our little girl and we will always want to protect you for that is who we are as your father.
More complicated. 14/f. i want to get my tragus done, my mom will go with me, but i have to pay, its about $50. and this place is professional my teacher went there and said they are really good cuz she got hers done (but not there and her nose) and she even told me what kind of earring to get. i really want it, but soccer starts again in the end of april. and if i get it im going to get a small bar probably curved. i know i can take good care of it, because when it comes to peircings im like a germaphobe. and my teacher said her friend got hers with a bar and it healed in like a month. i have $180 right now. i also want the chesnut slipper uggs for outside. i dont know if i should get both or one. i cant decide. if i want the piericing i need to get it soon, so it has time to heal. really need advice. and the uggs are like $110. I COULD get both, but i dont know. thanks. especially answer if you have had ur tragus done! (just a regular tragus piericng, not vertical or two or anything, and bar will be small)
My advice is: Get the Uggs now as it is winter and you need them. Put the money aside for the piercings to have done after Soccer season. This will give your piercing sufficient time to heal and allow for any contingency that may arise from the piercing that could effect your soccer playing.
My reasons for this view is: Mom is not objecting and doubtful she will change her mind. While you have the money for both; one is definitely needed now while the other is an optional desire that can be satisfied at anytime. Since there is always the possibility, even though you take good care of the piercing, that an infection or something could effect your playing soccer. Then you play soccer first and then get the piercing.
Im 19 and my boy friend and I want to have sex. But I want to know more about it. right now what I want to know it what it a orgasm? Thanks
The following website is one I found while answering similar questions for other women. Hopefully it will be useful to you.
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.
How do i get a job like babysitting?i want to do something like that but my mom was all like " those people have relatives to do it for them."im like so WHAT?anyway, can somebody give me job ideas?im really desperate for money.oh yeah, im soooooo unexperienced job wise. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
Destiny
First: Find out what moms real objection to you babysitting is. Her objection that, "those people have relatives to do it for them." is quite off base. Many people do not have relatives available to babysit. Others have relatives they do not trust to babysit and still others have relatives who just will not baby sit. So I feel mom must have another reason for saying what she did.
Next: In every state the child labor laws are enforced, which means you must be at least 16 to have any real job like at a fast food place. These laws are in place to protect children from unfair labor practices as they spell out in detail to employers just what jobs and at what ages they can hire teenage help. How many hours a day and week they can work, what hours they can work and so forth.
Teenagers under the age of 18 and still in school must get working papers from the school signed by the employer, their parents and the school before the can start a job. If you change jobs a new set of working papers are required.
If you are younger than 16 about the only way to earn money is doing things like babysitting. Once again the laws in your state may say how old a person must be to leave a young child in their care. In my state a sibling needs to be at least 13. A non sibling needs to be 14 or older. I don't know why that is, my state has a bunch of laws that make no sense and that is just one of them.
If you are between 13 and 16 you are what I call a betweener. To old to be called a child. Not old enough to be looked at as a young adult. Hang in their this won't last forever and will get better. The world is just giving you time to mature and make yourself ready to face the new things in life that may or will come your way.
The way you have written to us say a lot about your maturity now. How ever old you are, which you left out your age, you writing says you are a very mature person. Be patient; you have much to offer when the time is right.
SO im 15/f and i recently asked a question about why and when you should go the gynecologist. After reading a bit more about what goes on there, I DONT WANT TO GO! I know im suppose to but im nervous and extremely scared of going. Any tips on nerves. As well is it possible to ask if i can only have females present. I would never to be able to go through with it if there were males in the room. Is it in a private room? And are my parents, well my mother, in the room?
As I said yesterday; You are covered by a law called HIPPA. This law allows you to have total privacy when meeting with any doctor. If you don't want your mom in the exam room with you she cannot by law be their. Just tell the nurse or the receptionist when you check in.
You also have the right to chose your own doctors. If you want to be seen by a female GYN that is also a right you have under the HIPPA law.
Where the law gets a little fuzzy is; can mom force you to go to a doctor? If I remember correctly what your original question was. Mom as her parental right can take you to a doctor if you have some illness that could be considered life threatening.
In your description of why she is taking you to the doctor. She may be able to drag you to the office but if you are not consenting to be examined the doctor will not touch you. JUST REMEMBER TO TELL THE DOCTOR YOUR ARE 15 AND ENVOKING YOUR RIGHTS UNDER THE HIPPA LAW. No doctor, no matter how much mom may say other wise will examine you without your consent. To do so is assault of both the doctor and your mother which the doctor will explain to mom. This is a real legal charge you can bring against both of them.
You also have the right to be seen by a doctor of your choosing. Meaning if you want a female doctor then you see a female doctor.
The exam rooms are private rooms just like in your family doctors office. The only people that should be in the room are: You, the doctor and a nurse. It is important that a nurse be in the room with you and the doctor during your exam. This is for the protection of you and the doctor.
As i said yesterday. Knowing that mom can never know what the you tell the doctor and what the doctor finds during the examination or you are treated for or prescribed. Regardless of moms reasons for dragging you to a gynecologist. I think since you have never seen one before; it is in your own reproductive healths best interest that you allow yourself to be examined.
Be truthful when answering the doctors questions. One of the questions will be are you sexually active? Answer truthfully as this is something the doctor needs to know.
READ EVERYTHING THAT HAS THE WORD PERMISSION ON IT. IF IT ALSO HAS MOMS NAME ON IT DON'T SIGN IT. THIS COULD BE THE FORM GIVING THE DOCTOR PERSISSIN TO TELL MOM WHAT YOU ARE EXAMINED FOR OR ALLOWING HER IN THE EXAM ROOM. DO NOT BE BULLIED INTO SIGNING ANYTHIN YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND. ASK THE RECEPTIONIST OR NURSE TO EXPLAIN WHAT IT IS YOU ARE BEING ASKED TO SIGN. THESE ARE YOUR RIGHTS AND MOM CANNOT TAKE THEM AWAY.
Mom is not going to like this. But times have changed since she was your age and she is just going to have to learn to live with it. She is also going to make for this what she will so be prepared for whatever may come your way from her in the form of punishment for standing up for yourself. If it gets too bad talk to a trusted teacher at school. There are things they can do to help mom be better with all of these changes.
Why can't I get hard after I cum?
All men are different. Younger men generally recover quickly and can regain an erection in a matter of minutes. Others take longer, just how long is different for each of us.
If you are concerned that your recovery period is to long or non existent. Then a visit to you're family doctor for a testosterone level check might be in order. Low testosterone is a probable cause or maybe something else. Most likely though what you are experiencing is normal for you.
You can see a doctor in total privacy and confidence as long as you are over 14. There is a law known as HIPPA passed by Congress that gives you this right. One of the specific reasons for this law was so that teenagers could get proper medical treatment and advice for their Reproductive Health.
What this law means is you can see a doctor; either your family doctor or any medical clinic, family panning service or Hospital ER, without mom or dad with you or in the exam room with you. This gives you the privacy you need to discuss any problem you have with your doctor in total confidence that the doctor cannot tell anyone without your written permission. Whatever you may be examined and treated for; any prescription the doctor may write stays between you and the doctor.
The doctor I suggest you see is a Urologist. This is the specialty that generally would cover a mans reproductive health issues.
Hello! Well just so you know im one of those girls with a septate hymen. It really worries me. Just like alot of people I noticed it through tampons. I dont really have a hard time getting them in but its hard getting them out. Also im worried because my boyfriend has been talking about "sex". I dont know weather i should go for it or wait untill i learn more about my hymen. I read from some websites that you can remove it youself. I wanted to know how i could do this and if its a good idea or not. Please help, Thanks! (:
I read up on this before answering you; as you may have done.
From what I have read my suggestion would be to see a Gynecologist and let the doctor take care of this problem. It is a simple office procedure with little to no pain involved and will be done correctly. To attempt to do so at home will probably not be successful, cause you pain and have you seeking a doctors help anyway. So why not skip over the painful part and seek out your gynecologists help to begin with.
Now you have not said how old you are. he fact that you are first finding this problem leads me to believe you may be under age 18.
If you are under 18 but over 14 the following applies to you. While I do not support or suggest you have sexual intercourse at this young age. I do support you at the very least take the proper precautions. In fact the U.S. Congress to an extent felt somewhat the same way when the passed a law called HIPPA.
In that Law anyone over the age of 14 may seek medical help in total privacy and confidentiality. This means you can see your GYN without mom in the exam room and the doctor cannot tell mom what you were examined or treated for. This includes any prescriptions that may be written for you including birth control prescriptions. You must give the doctor written permission to release information to anyone individually. Blanket permission is not acceptable.
One of the purposes of HIPPA was to allow for young people to seek medical help for their reproductive health without parental knowledge or permission. The purpose of this law was not meant solely to allow for birth control but to allow for STD treatment and testing. Pregnancy testing and other reproductive procedures that may be needed. Because of this you can be open and truthful with your doctor so the doctor can properly treat you.
Ok im 18 and I want to pop my cherry so i can finger and play with my self. But I don't want a boy to do it because then I will not be a virgin. Whats the best way to do this? And what is the true meaning of being a virgin? Is it like when you have sex with a boy or when you pop you cherry? I don't want to rush in to this then feel sorry later. Thanks.
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I have already have tryed with my figers and they are to short. OMG!! so i just took a barbie doll that my sister took from me years ago. When i put it up there i felt a some pain but i freak out and did not do it that's why I need some help.
What is a virgin? A virgin, male or female, is anyone who has not had sexual intercourse. Sexual intercourse is when a males penis enters a female vagina. At that moment virginity is lost.
Popping your Cherry: You do not need to pop your Chery to masturbate (finger ones self). If you do want to pop your own cherry, while I don't suggest it as it is better and more fulfilling to have done during first intercourse. Then being 18 I would suggest you follow Zanes' advice and buy a vibrator.
While there are many objects you can put in your vagina a vibrator is properly shaped to be put in your vagina without doing harm tho you.
Being over 18 you are above the age of consent in every state and legally an adult. you can walk in to any store and buy one or order on line.
How do I stop being so nervous when I have to present in front of a class?
Every time I have to present something in class I get nervous standing in front of everyone. My knees shake and my voice starts trembling and changing. I had to present yesterday and my knees were shaking in front of everyone and my voice was shaking. It was embarrassing. I know most of my classmates, I don't know why I get nervous. I can't just pretend Im presenting to one person either. Sometimes I get so nervous people Laugh at me. I have to present something again on next tuesday. Now I'm taking a speech class this semester, so I have to talk in front of the class and read sdon'thes and I dont want to be shaking and nervous, so how can I stop my knees and my voice from shaking?
Before I retired I was in Sales and Marketing for over 30 years. I have had to give numerous presentations to both friendly and not so friendly crowds. To say the least it is challenging and I have never once been comfortable doing so. I will tell you this; it is harder to address a crowd of people who know you and know the subject you are presenting.
There is tons of advice on how to make yourself more comfortable when making a presentation. One of the most famous pieces of advice, I forget Who gave it, is; "to imagine everyone in the room but you are naked." That one didn't work for me.
What has always worked for me was finding a friendly pair of eyes in the crown. Then make eye contact with that pair of eyes and make the presentation to them as if you are having a conversation just between the two of you. Forget about the others in the room. If someone interrupts with a question. Stop your presentation, look that person in the eye, even if it is the teacher, and say I will take questions at the end of my presentation.
If it is the teacher that interrupts you, he or she will have to take note of your proper presentation technique for asking them to wait until your finished. What you are saying is that the answer may come before you finish your presentation. If it is a student; your teacher should again support you for proper presentation techniques.
Finding someone to talk to in the crowd of faces; Keeping your presentation on track by not allowing questions to distract you from your presentation are the keys to a successful presentation. When you know you will present successfully a lot of the nervousness goes away.
Okay, so im 14. And i started dateing a boy about a month ago. We are so close and we love eachother. But everyone keeps telling me that im too young and i dont know what love is yet. (Family members). I dont know weather i should trust them or not because ive never felt this way about a boy ever in my life. Am I too young for love?
Okay I'm a parent or actually a grandparent; here is what I think about being 14 and in love and what your family is telling you.
When I was your age my parents called this "puppy love" as it was or is a first love. It is the first time a girl or boy has feelings for someone of the opposite sex. So yes you can call it love and you can be in love.
Will it be your first and only love? Probably not. Teenagers today jump in and out of romances as fast as some people change their socks. This is why your family members are saying your not in love but maybe you are infatuated with the feeling or thought of being in love.
My feeling is when in doubt go with an old saying; "If it looks like a duck, Quacks like a duck, It probably is a duck." You are feeling the first pangs of a love interest. Call it love, call it Puppy Love or call it whatever you want. If it feels like love to you, then it probably is.
What your family members want to see this as; is up to them. What the should not do is ridicule you over this as they should stop and think about their first love and what it felt like. Not only that they should also think about how old they were when they had their first love.
The short answer to your question as to trust them or not: They are neither right or wrong in what they are saying to you. They are older and more experienced at this then you are. They therefor may see things or be more experienced at this then you are. So if you wish to trust them you may. It is your call.
What is the resolution of the secret garden?
This sounds like a homework question. You will find that most of us will not answer a homework question. Why? You do not learn anything if we answer the question for you.
What we will or most of will do, if you are having trouble with a particular subject is offer help. Say with this question.
If you were to copy a portion of your answer and ask. Do I have the general idea of the novel and the correct resolution. Then someone knowledgeable with this novel may offer suggestions.
How can i get my boyfriend to give me more attention when hes around his friends? He like different when hes with them. He doesnt want to hold my hand and he never shows me any love or affection. Im not tryin to look like an attention whore or anything and i know your supposed to give guys there time with there friends but idk if im being to flexable or not.
I would be able to give you a better answer if I knew your ages. Assuming you are both in your early teen years what you are experiencing is normal. Young males are all about appearance.
As much as they boys talk among themselves as wanting girlfriends ; when they have one and they get together in groups. girls group together in one part of the room and boys in an other. I have never figured out why this happens it just does, has and probably always will.
Take heart it doesn't last that long. At some point the boys will grow comfortable with showing affection to their girlfriends in the company of others. When that happens you'll be writing to ask how to stop your guy from being all hands when around his friends.
i'm in 8th grade and have depression. the faculty said i couldn\'t go to school anymore bcuz they can\'t deal with me because i\'m too depressed to function. and if i killed myself, it would b bad on their record. at my school theres alot of kids with depression. it makes no sense. they hav a no child left behind policy and i feel they left a student behind. i don't know wat to do.
Being kicked out of school is a problem for your parents to resolve not you. I am somewhat awestruck that the school would take such drastic action and suspect there is more to this than you are telling. Still the battle is for your parents to fight not you.
Your job is to get your depression under control. I have a suspicion your depression may be more of the manic type of depression. Not a big deal, your doctors just have to find the right medications for you. You need to be compliant in taking the medications even when you feel good.
I know the medications make you feel like your walking around in a fog or zombie like but you have to take them anyway. Tell the doctors how they make you feel and they will work to adjust them so you feel more normal when taking them.
A good friend of mine suffers form manic depression. It took awhile to get her medications properly adjusted but now that they are you would never know she suffers for any type of depression. In fact she is a Nurse at the local Veterans Hospital, a psychiatric nurse at that.
So let mom and dad fight with the school. You work with your doctors to fight for yourself and to get better. You will get better if you work with your doctors and take your medications.
After 19 years My mother told me who my real father was 2 weeks ago and then she told me that he dosnt know that im his child. He is married now with a child, and owns a store so when i go in there and see him he talks to me and thinks im his ex girlfriends daughter but he dosnt know im his daughter to. So i dont know what to do my mother said do not tell him but i want him to know, i want to get to know him better. Do i tell him im his daughter?
This is a tough question.
Just walking in there and saying hi I'm the daughter you never knew about is not to my mind the right way to approach this. If you know him to speak to him and feel you have a good enough relationship that you can talk to him about personal things; then you might try this approach.
You could tell him that your mom just told you who your father was. That you would like to contact your father but are uncertain how you would be accepted. Being that he knows you and that he knows your mom his advice would be valuable to you.
If he says he would like to help then. Then ask; do you think he would want to know he had fathered a child? If so should this child just knock on his door and say hi, I'm the daughter you never knew you had or would it be better to send him a letter and see how he responds?
Then let him speak. If he is as bright as I think he may be, he might just put one and one together and ask you if you are his daughter? If he does tell him that is what your mother has told you and you are willing to have a DNA paternity test if he wants. Your not looking for anything other than getting to know him as a parent. Your not gold digging.
If he say no I don't think that I want to know I fathered a child. Leave it at that, regardless of if he gives you a reason or not.
If he says yes I would like to know and I think the best way to tell me is.... Follow what he says.
Be prepared for rejection. He will not be rejecting you as much as he is rejecting your mom for not telling him when you were first conceived or born. He is rejecting the possibility that he even fathered a child. Give him time to think about it. Continue to shop there. He may in time come back to you with more questions.
I know that a student teacher relationship is illegal, but i dont get why? Can someone explain this to me...if their is a like five year difference whats the big deal? and then if he is a student teacher, is it still illegal?
If you take the age part out of it and just look at the positions; teacher, student relationship. It is the same as employer, employee relationship.
The teacher is in a position of authority over the student just as the employer has authority over the employee. This puts them in a position of an undo authority over the underling. In the teacher student relationship it is also unprofessional. In the employer employee it could be seen as sexual harassment under the ERRISA act of 1986 a legal problem.
When you put the ages back in to the problem a host of other problems can arise depending on the age of consent in the state where the student goes to school. If the student is under the age of consent the 5 year difference in age puts the teacher in a legal position of going to jail for up to as much as 25 years or more. That's the big deal or rather the age of consent and the penalty for violating it.
In any case, whether the age of consent is violated or not the teacher stands to lose his or her teaching certificate. As most if not all school districts see having an illicit relationship with a student as unprofessional and wrong.
I am 15 years old and girl obviously. Anyways, im feeling weird lately because im really confused about my sexuality. I dont know, I find guys attractive and ive onlt ever had one boyfriend, but that doesnt matter. Then again whenever i think about any of "you know", im thinking about girls. And i think about girls when i masterbate. However i cant tell if i am interested in girls, because there are a few girls i find extremely hot but i dont know if i could ever actual date one or kiss one. Im confused! Anyone help?
Since I am old enough to be your grandfather I am going to give it to your straight.
First: I don't believe in labels they do nothing but cause trouble, especially for someone of your tender age.
Second: At your age you are still exploring your sexuality which is very normal. All teenagers go through this. Why put a label on yourself while your exploring. It would be like someone training for the space program calling themselves a scuba diver because they went scuba diving once.
No, your teenage years are for exploring and learning. Learning about yourself is a big part of your teenage years. Learning about your sexuality is part of learning about yourself. Right now your hormones are playing havoc with you. There suppose to, it is part of teenage life.
Later in life, after college when your in your early twenties your sexual identity will be established better. Here again a label doesn't matter. You are who you are. You can be pan-sexual, bisexual, lesbian, straight or transgender it doesn't matter.
It only matters to the bigoted of the world or the kids in school if you where to label yourself now. Enjoy the exploration and keep your discovery's to yourself for know. Kids in school can be very thoughtless and hurting if you were to label yourself at this time. It is for this reason I do not like labels and they are really never needed for sexual purposes as far as I am concerned.